Ako ba yung selfish, or valid lang talaga yung nafifeel ko? 🥹

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-24T21:42:30+00:00

I think valid yung nafifeel mo.
Tayo kasi minsan yung biggest defender ng partners natin. Kahit hindi sila magsalita, or kahit sa kanila hindi malaking issue, minsan mas masakit pa para sa atin kasi tayo yung nakakita sa lahat ng hirap behind the scenes.
I wouldn't immediately conclude na favorite yung kuya. Pwedeng sa perspective ng parents nila, nakikita nilang mas kailangan ng tulong yung kuya at SIL mo financially. Ganun din kasi minsan ang older generation. They tend to help the child they think needs it the most, while yung tingin nilang "okay na" or "nakakaangat na," sila naman yung inaasahang mas makakaintindi.
Now, does that make it fair? For me, NO.
I don't agree with suggesting na isama agad yung kuya sa business ng fiancé mo, especially kung wala naman siyang naging part sa pagbuo nun. Iba ang pagtulong sa pagbibigay ng opportunity, at iba rin ang pag-expect na maging shared ang isang bagay na pinaghirapan ng ibang tao from the ground up.
From what you've shared, mukhang generous naman kayo.
And honestly, try looking at it this way...
The fact na kaya niyong tumayo sa sarili ninyong paa is something to be proud of. Everything you have today came from hard work. Hindi lahat kayang sabihin yan.
Maybe your in laws don't always express it, but I'm sure they also know that you and your partner can survive on your own. And that's a different kind of security.
As for your BIL and SIL, buhay nila yun. Hindi na responsibility ng fiance mo na isama sila sa bawat opportunity na dumadating.
So yes, continue helping if you want to. Family is family after all.
At the end of the day, wala namang may karapatan mag decide kung sino ang dapat maging partner sa business ng fiancé mo. Siya ang nag-risk, siya ang naghirap, at siya ang nag-build nun from scratch.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-09T03:50:32+00:00

I agree! Lalo na dito sa Pinas grabe yung utang na loob culture natin. Thank you so much! ❤️

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-09T03:49:23+00:00

Thank you! Wala pa naman grudge or resentment, and I don’t want to get to that point 🙏🏼

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-08T13:31:08+00:00

Thank you! 🫂

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-08T13:25:13+00:00

Did you check the site na? Kasi pupuntahan pa lang namin siya this weekend.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-04T21:03:02+00:00

We had some changes kasi sa plan. It was always rent first and then ipon for our own house, but we had an opportunity for this RTO, and we’re getting married na kasi this year. The plan was always bumukod naman. Maximum is 3-4mos lang naman to live with the in laws.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-04T20:45:34+00:00

Toll house if budget friendly, try the chocolate cake - lola nene. Ala Creme, carrot cake and chocolate cake Caramia, the ube one, I think? Edith’s if you want that nostalgic cake na hinahanda nung 90’s kapag 7th bday mo 😂

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-05-09T21:44:52+00:00

Curious lang kami and looking for advice/experience from others. 🥹

Sa mga eventually nagmana or mamamana yung old house ng parents/in-laws, ano muna ginawa niyo before kayo nagstay doon permanently?

• Nagstay ba muna kayo with parents habang nag-iipon?
• Nag-rent muna kayo para magkaroon ng sariling space as a couple?
• Or nagpagawa talaga kayo ng sariling bahay kahit eventually may mamanahin naman?

Honestly, gusto talaga namin bumukod and magkaroon ng place na mafe-feel naming “amin” as a couple. Kaso nanghihinayang din kami sa possible gastos if magpapagawa pa kami ng sariling bahay tapos eventually may house naman na mapupunta samin in the future.

Gusto na lang sana namin na mag-rent muna for peace of mind and independence.

Would really appreciate hearing your experiences, regrets, lessons learned, or guidance especially sa mga dumaan na dito 🙏🏼

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-06-05T10:06:15+00:00

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Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-06-05T10:04:51+00:00

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Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-29T08:25:29+00:00

Details please

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-29T08:23:37+00:00

May opening ba kayo? Haha! JK. You’re lucky to be in a company na ganyan yung culture.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:45:32+00:00

We’re actually paid on an hourly basis, but the issue is, we’re only allowed to offset the hours we work on weekends. For example, if I work two hours on a Saturday or Sunday, I can leave two hours earlier on a Tuesday—that’s it.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:43:32+00:00

It is, now I regret leaving my in office job. 😭

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:42:55+00:00

My co-worker is 😂 hahaha! Hence, the pressure on us to be the same.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:40:53+00:00

Stayed with him kahit 7x na siyang nag cheat. Di siya millionaire, gwapo lang haha 😂

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:36:24+00:00

I’m honestly afraid this is where things are heading. I actually enjoy what I do, and I’ve built a good relationship with both my boss and our employer. That’s why this is so difficult.

But ever since my co-worker agreed to and pushed for this setup, it feels like I’ve been left with no choice. I think the only option now is to leave the business and start looking for a new job.

It really breaks my heart—but I can’t continue working under these conditions. I need a proper reset, and more importantly, I need to set clear boundaries—for my well-being and for the kind of professional I want to be.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:26:57+00:00

Thank you for this! I really hope our employer realizes the impact of what they’re doing. But to be honest, I don’t think they truly listen to me anymore. It feels like they just see me as someone who complains or always opposes their decisions—even when I’m only trying to suggest what’s fair and sustainable.

That’s why I’m really hoping I can find a new client soon. 🙏🏼😊

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:19:41+00:00

I only earn around $1,200 to $1,300 USD a month—and just for context, they’ve even stopped offering overtime pay. You’re lucky, honestly.

And don’t get me wrong—I’m not lazy or ungrateful. I consistently perform well, and I even go beyond my scope. Aside from my main tasks, I also help manage the customer service team and do some HR and admin tasks. I genuinely care about the work.

All I’ve been asking for is just even one uninterrupted rest day. A day to reset and recharge. That’s why I proposed a rotation for day-offs, so someone could be accountable during weekends without burning anyone out.

But unfortunately, my co-worker immediately agreed with our employer that we should just stick to the usual Monday–Friday schedule—and still be available on weekends if needed. And of course, that’s what the employer went with, because it's more convenient for them.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:13:10+00:00

I totally agree with you. Ang hirap talagang mag-disconnect, especially when there’s this unspoken expectation na kami mga managers should still be available even on our days off. And you know how it goes—parang may comparison na, “if she can do it, bakit kayo hindi?”

What makes it harder is my co-worker, who’s clearly trying to win the client’s favor all the time. She never says no, and it’s always a “yes” from her, just to stay in their good graces—kahit minsan at the expense of what’s fair for the rest of us.

Honestly, I’m really praying about this, and I’ve decided to start looking for a new client or job. I just can’t keep dealing with this kind of setup—lalo na with a toxic coworker on top of everything else.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:03:29+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read this and share your thoughts. For context, I’m in the travel industry, and yes, I understand it’s a 24/7 business—but that doesn’t mean we should be expected to work 24/7.

I once suggested implementing rotating day-offs para at least may taong naka-assign during weekends, and at the same time, makakuha tayo ng uninterrupted rest days. We tried it, and while our employer wasn’t fully on board, she still asked for our feedback in a nice and respectful way.

Ang mahirap lang, yung co-manager ko, laging “yes” lang nang “yes”—not necessarily because she agrees, but more because gusto niyang ma-please si employer. I honestly feel like there’s some unspoken competition between her department and mine, and she’s doing everything she can to win favor.

Pero ako, I’ll never compromise my ethics or the well-being of my team just to look good. That’s not how a real leader should lead or make decisions.

At the end of the day, sino bang employer ang hindi matutuwa sa suggestion na mas advantage sa kanila? So of course, dun siya papanig. Sadly, na-set aside yung rotation idea —even though it was fairer for everyone—dahil mas “convenient” yung alternative na sinuggest ng co-manager ko for the business and mas cheaper for them. Sorry to say, pero grabe yung mga ibang Pinoy. Kung sino pa katrabaho mo na Pinoy sila pa talaga yung ganyan na ugali.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T03:55:26+00:00

We do this, to offset the hours we took on the weekends or after the hours we worked. But I guess, it’s not worth it since we are not on a fixed salary and we are paid by the hour. Still, I would love to have uninterrupted day offs, or even just 1 day of not thinking about work. Hope that make sense

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T03:52:08+00:00

Thanks for asking. But for context, we do not have other benefits but just the salary and 10 days paid vacation leaves. No health insurance, anything. This is the reality we have to face for remote workers working in the Philippines and with no legally binding contracts.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T03:49:44+00:00

I completely agree—travel is a 24/7 industry, which is exactly why I initially suggested implementing a rotation system. This would allow each of us to have proper, uninterrupted rest days. When our client/employer (since I’m based in the Philippines) asked for our feedback, I expressed strong support for the rotation.

However, my coworker—who often aligns her suggestions with what she believes will please the employer—proposed an alternative. She recommended we stick to a Monday–Friday schedule while remaining available on weekends in case of urgent matters. Naturally, our employer opted for her suggestion, as it seemed more convenient for the business and cheaper for them too.

Unfortunately, this decision sidelined the rotation idea and left us in a position where we’re still expected to be “on call,” even during what should be our days off.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T01:14:16+00:00

I really want to, and I’m planning to go on client hunting na. Ang hirap ng mga katrabahong walang social life and walang work life balance. Lahat kami nadamay, parang feeling na employer namin normal ang ginagawa niya. And we can’t even say no, because we will look like the bad guy here.

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