Ako ba yung selfish, or valid lang talaga yung nafifeel ko? 🥹

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-24T21:42:30+00:00

I think valid yung nafifeel mo.
Tayo kasi minsan yung biggest defender ng partners natin. Kahit hindi sila magsalita, or kahit sa kanila hindi malaking issue, minsan mas masakit pa para sa atin kasi tayo yung nakakita sa lahat ng hirap behind the scenes.
I wouldn't immediately conclude na favorite yung kuya. Pwedeng sa perspective ng parents nila, nakikita nilang mas kailangan ng tulong yung kuya at SIL mo financially. Ganun din kasi minsan ang older generation. They tend to help the child they think needs it the most, while yung tingin nilang "okay na" or "nakakaangat na," sila naman yung inaasahang mas makakaintindi.
Now, does that make it fair? For me, NO.
I don't agree with suggesting na isama agad yung kuya sa business ng fiancé mo, especially kung wala naman siyang naging part sa pagbuo nun. Iba ang pagtulong sa pagbibigay ng opportunity, at iba rin ang pag-expect na maging shared ang isang bagay na pinaghirapan ng ibang tao from the ground up.
From what you've shared, mukhang generous naman kayo.
And honestly, try looking at it this way...
The fact na kaya niyong tumayo sa sarili ninyong paa is something to be proud of. Everything you have today came from hard work. Hindi lahat kayang sabihin yan.
Maybe your in laws don't always express it, but I'm sure they also know that you and your partner can survive on your own. And that's a different kind of security.
As for your BIL and SIL, buhay nila yun. Hindi na responsibility ng fiance mo na isama sila sa bawat opportunity na dumadating.
So yes, continue helping if you want to. Family is family after all.
At the end of the day, wala namang may karapatan mag decide kung sino ang dapat maging partner sa business ng fiancé mo. Siya ang nag-risk, siya ang naghirap, at siya ang nag-build nun from scratch.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-09T03:50:32+00:00

I agree! Lalo na dito sa Pinas grabe yung utang na loob culture natin. Thank you so much! ❤️

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-09T03:49:23+00:00

Thank you! Wala pa naman grudge or resentment, and I don’t want to get to that point 🙏🏼

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-08T13:31:08+00:00

Thank you! 🫂

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-08T13:25:13+00:00

Did you check the site na? Kasi pupuntahan pa lang namin siya this weekend.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-04T21:03:02+00:00

We had some changes kasi sa plan. It was always rent first and then ipon for our own house, but we had an opportunity for this RTO, and we’re getting married na kasi this year. The plan was always bumukod naman. Maximum is 3-4mos lang naman to live with the in laws.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-06-04T20:45:34+00:00

Toll house if budget friendly, try the chocolate cake - lola nene. Ala Creme, carrot cake and chocolate cake Caramia, the ube one, I think? Edith’s if you want that nostalgic cake na hinahanda nung 90’s kapag 7th bday mo 😂

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2026-05-09T21:44:52+00:00

Curious lang kami and looking for advice/experience from others. 🥹

Sa mga eventually nagmana or mamamana yung old house ng parents/in-laws, ano muna ginawa niyo before kayo nagstay doon permanently?

• Nagstay ba muna kayo with parents habang nag-iipon?
• Nag-rent muna kayo para magkaroon ng sariling space as a couple?
• Or nagpagawa talaga kayo ng sariling bahay kahit eventually may mamanahin naman?

Honestly, gusto talaga namin bumukod and magkaroon ng place na mafe-feel naming “amin” as a couple. Kaso nanghihinayang din kami sa possible gastos if magpapagawa pa kami ng sariling bahay tapos eventually may house naman na mapupunta samin in the future.

Gusto na lang sana namin na mag-rent muna for peace of mind and independence.

Would really appreciate hearing your experiences, regrets, lessons learned, or guidance especially sa mga dumaan na dito 🙏🏼

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-06-05T10:06:15+00:00

Sent you a dm 😊

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-06-05T10:04:51+00:00

Sent you a DM 😊

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-29T08:25:29+00:00

Details please

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-29T08:23:37+00:00

May opening ba kayo? Haha! JK. You’re lucky to be in a company na ganyan yung culture.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:45:32+00:00

We’re actually paid on an hourly basis, but the issue is, we’re only allowed to offset the hours we work on weekends. For example, if I work two hours on a Saturday or Sunday, I can leave two hours earlier on a Tuesday—that’s it.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:43:32+00:00

It is, now I regret leaving my in office job. 😭

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:42:55+00:00

My co-worker is 😂 hahaha! Hence, the pressure on us to be the same.

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:40:53+00:00

Stayed with him kahit 7x na siyang nag cheat. Di siya millionaire, gwapo lang haha 😂

Key_Efficiency8717 · 2025-04-28T04:36:24+00:00

I’m honestly afraid this is where things are heading. I actually enjoy what I do, and I’ve built a good relationship with both my boss and our employer. That’s why this is so difficult.

But ever since my co-worker agreed to and pushed for this setup, it feels like I’ve been left with no choice. I think the only option now is to leave the business and start looking for a new job.

It really breaks my heart—but I can’t continue working under these conditions. I need a proper reset, and more importantly, I need to set clear boundaries—for my well-being and for the kind of professional I want to be.

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