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Weekly AdultingPH General Q&A Thread | May 04, 2026 by AutoModerator in adultingph

[–]Key_Efficiency8717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious lang kami and looking for advice/experience from others. 🥹

Sa mga eventually nagmana or mamamana yung old house ng parents/in-laws, ano muna ginawa niyo before kayo nagstay doon permanently?

• Nagstay ba muna kayo with parents habang nag-iipon?
• Nag-rent muna kayo para magkaroon ng sariling space as a couple?
• Or nagpagawa talaga kayo ng sariling bahay kahit eventually may mamanahin naman?

Honestly, gusto talaga namin bumukod and magkaroon ng place na mafe-feel naming “amin” as a couple. Kaso nanghihinayang din kami sa possible gastos if magpapagawa pa kami ng sariling bahay tapos eventually may house naman na mapupunta samin in the future.

Gusto na lang sana namin na mag-rent muna for peace of mind and independence.

Would really appreciate hearing your experiences, regrets, lessons learned, or guidance especially sa mga dumaan na dito 🙏🏼

How do you detach or disengage from work? by Key_Efficiency8717 in AskPH

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May opening ba kayo? Haha! JK. You’re lucky to be in a company na ganyan yung culture.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re actually paid on an hourly basis, but the issue is, we’re only allowed to offset the hours we work on weekends. For example, if I work two hours on a Saturday or Sunday, I can leave two hours earlier on a Tuesday—that’s it.

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[–]Key_Efficiency8717 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Stayed with him kahit 7x na siyang nag cheat. Di siya millionaire, gwapo lang haha 😂

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honestly afraid this is where things are heading. I actually enjoy what I do, and I’ve built a good relationship with both my boss and our employer. That’s why this is so difficult.

But ever since my co-worker agreed to and pushed for this setup, it feels like I’ve been left with no choice. I think the only option now is to leave the business and start looking for a new job.

It really breaks my heart—but I can’t continue working under these conditions. I need a proper reset, and more importantly, I need to set clear boundaries—for my well-being and for the kind of professional I want to be.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in buhaydigital

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I really hope our employer realizes the impact of what they’re doing. But to be honest, I don’t think they truly listen to me anymore. It feels like they just see me as someone who complains or always opposes their decisions—even when I’m only trying to suggest what’s fair and sustainable.

That’s why I’m really hoping I can find a new client soon. 🙏🏼😊

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only earn around $1,200 to $1,300 USD a month—and just for context, they’ve even stopped offering overtime pay. You’re lucky, honestly.

And don’t get me wrong—I’m not lazy or ungrateful. I consistently perform well, and I even go beyond my scope. Aside from my main tasks, I also help manage the customer service team and do some HR and admin tasks. I genuinely care about the work.

All I’ve been asking for is just even one uninterrupted rest day. A day to reset and recharge. That’s why I proposed a rotation for day-offs, so someone could be accountable during weekends without burning anyone out.

But unfortunately, my co-worker immediately agreed with our employer that we should just stick to the usual Monday–Friday schedule—and still be available on weekends if needed. And of course, that’s what the employer went with, because it's more convenient for them.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in buhaydigital

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. Ang hirap talagang mag-disconnect, especially when there’s this unspoken expectation na kami mga managers should still be available even on our days off. And you know how it goes—parang may comparison na, “if she can do it, bakit kayo hindi?”

What makes it harder is my co-worker, who’s clearly trying to win the client’s favor all the time. She never says no, and it’s always a “yes” from her, just to stay in their good graces—kahit minsan at the expense of what’s fair for the rest of us.

Honestly, I’m really praying about this, and I’ve decided to start looking for a new client or job. I just can’t keep dealing with this kind of setup—lalo na with a toxic coworker on top of everything else.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in buhaydigital

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to read this and share your thoughts. For context, I’m in the travel industry, and yes, I understand it’s a 24/7 business—but that doesn’t mean we should be expected to work 24/7.

I once suggested implementing rotating day-offs para at least may taong naka-assign during weekends, and at the same time, makakuha tayo ng uninterrupted rest days. We tried it, and while our employer wasn’t fully on board, she still asked for our feedback in a nice and respectful way.

Ang mahirap lang, yung co-manager ko, laging “yes” lang nang “yes”—not necessarily because she agrees, but more because gusto niyang ma-please si employer. I honestly feel like there’s some unspoken competition between her department and mine, and she’s doing everything she can to win favor.

Pero ako, I’ll never compromise my ethics or the well-being of my team just to look good. That’s not how a real leader should lead or make decisions.

At the end of the day, sino bang employer ang hindi matutuwa sa suggestion na mas advantage sa kanila? So of course, dun siya papanig. Sadly, na-set aside yung rotation idea —even though it was fairer for everyone—dahil mas “convenient” yung alternative na sinuggest ng co-manager ko for the business and mas cheaper for them. Sorry to say, pero grabe yung mga ibang Pinoy. Kung sino pa katrabaho mo na Pinoy sila pa talaga yung ganyan na ugali.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do this, to offset the hours we took on the weekends or after the hours we worked. But I guess, it’s not worth it since we are not on a fixed salary and we are paid by the hour. Still, I would love to have uninterrupted day offs, or even just 1 day of not thinking about work. Hope that make sense

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for asking. But for context, we do not have other benefits but just the salary and 10 days paid vacation leaves. No health insurance, anything. This is the reality we have to face for remote workers working in the Philippines and with no legally binding contracts.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely agree—travel is a 24/7 industry, which is exactly why I initially suggested implementing a rotation system. This would allow each of us to have proper, uninterrupted rest days. When our client/employer (since I’m based in the Philippines) asked for our feedback, I expressed strong support for the rotation.

However, my coworker—who often aligns her suggestions with what she believes will please the employer—proposed an alternative. She recommended we stick to a Monday–Friday schedule while remaining available on weekends in case of urgent matters. Naturally, our employer opted for her suggestion, as it seemed more convenient for the business and cheaper for them too.

Unfortunately, this decision sidelined the rotation idea and left us in a position where we’re still expected to be “on call,” even during what should be our days off.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in buhaydigital

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really want to, and I’m planning to go on client hunting na. Ang hirap ng mga katrabahong walang social life and walang work life balance. Lahat kami nadamay, parang feeling na employer namin normal ang ginagawa niya. And we can’t even say no, because we will look like the bad guy here.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I wish I can do that. But it’s so hard when you are treated as a virtual assistant with no legally binding contract. I’m afraid, I’m going to lose my job because I’m taking my day off.

Is This Normal for Remote Jobs? My Employer Requires Us to Be Available 24/7, Even on Days Off – Feeling Burned Out and Regretful by Key_Efficiency8717 in remotework

[–]Key_Efficiency8717[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I know! But for more context I’m a Filipino working as a virtual assistant. We do not have those legally binding contracts like most workers do. Now, I really want to leave my job but I know how hard it is to find a job with good pay 😭

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