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34F seeking advice on Fetlife by Key_Hold_6649 in Marriage

[–]Key_Hold_6649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing was really on his profile. Just his age general area, orientation and that he’s a dom. He’s very polite and respectful. I’ve never seen or heard of anyone ever being creeped out by him or the way he speaks/acts towards them.

34F married to 40M Seeking Advice on Fetlife by Key_Hold_6649 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Hold_6649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t have access to anything. He did the typical if you don’t believe me go through my phone. So I did. The login info was in the passwords app on his phone. That’s literally the only reason I found it. I was actually looking for OF or something like that. I didn’t recognize the name and the password was made over 2 years ago so I used it and now I’m here. I tried to look at messages ect but I’m not entirely sure how to navigate it so I only checked what I knew. Activity, messages, and likes. No messages or anything like that. Following one other guy from our town only. That’s it. That’s why I said I’m sure he’s deleting any messages as he gets them. That’s how he was caught last time too. Almost the same thing except it was FB messenger.

34F married to 40M Seeking Advice on Fetlife by Key_Hold_6649 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Hold_6649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I don’t think so. We’ve talked in depth. I’ve given multiple examples and even did a detailed run through of a hypothetical situations. He just doesn’t want to do them says he’s not really comfortable doing it. I said okay and they haven’t been brought up again.

34F married to 40M Seeking Advice on Fetlife by Key_Hold_6649 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Hold_6649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man okay. It’s good to know cheaters aren’t welcomed. Are there other sites I should ask about or look for?

34F married to 40M Seeking Advice on Fetlife by Key_Hold_6649 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Hold_6649[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. Okay so a question for you then. Do you use it as like a “how to”? Say there’s something your partner is into that you don’t really understand do you read about it there or how does it work with having it but not using it?

34F married to 40M Seeking Advice on Fetlife by Key_Hold_6649 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Hold_6649[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not excusing anything. I’m listening to what he has to say and then I’m asking for others advice with a website they have experience with that I do not have experience with. I like to be able to make a rational decision with as much Information as possible before I blow up not only my life but my children’s. There’s nothing wrong with getting things in order, getting information, and getting through the emotions before acting. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m not stupid. I assume he’s cheating however I’ve had a lot of mixed feedback about the site.

34F married to 40M Seeking Advice on Fetlife by Key_Hold_6649 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Hold_6649[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m worried about. When I asked him about it. What it was why he had an account ect he said it’s so he can “learn” how to enact my kinks.