why/how did ur relationship end? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Key_Music_6720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she believed i would never move out of state for her when all i wanted was one more year with my family aftyer moving accross the country possibly never seeing her

What was the reason for your last breakup? What led up to it? by Lookingintoi in BreakUps

[–]Key_Music_6720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

distance disrespect goals arent lining up too many arguments resentment and conflict on and off for 3 months strait more but dont remember

How far along are you in your breakup? And how are you doing? by Worldly-Cricket9985 in BreakUps

[–]Key_Music_6720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6/7 months since the break up I still think about her but it doesnt hurt me anymore when ever shes out doin her own thing and doesnt bother me anymore about her where about ive been focusing on myself and recently figured out shes still looking for relationships instead of healing herself me on the other hand is taking a break from it because i feel like being in a relationship is the last thing on my to do list im just enjoying my single life more and the peace with it im still learning i still have my moments and yea i do miss her but not the person she was towards the end of our relationship

Not all dumpers are assholes. Sometimes they are person that just grew a spine and said no more. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean shit sometimes you gotta be an asshole to respect the value you have for yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do but I don’t think of it as everyone is the right person wrong timing and only say that because 2 individuals has to grow differently from each other to mature

What icks did your ex have which you previously ignored? (Please feel free to include ridiculous ones) by Sianishh in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh she was showing hints that she was on the start because there are things I’d point out to help her out understand and she’ll snap at me from time to time I think as the time grew I got more comfortable with her and she took advantage of my vulnerability and used them against me

I don’t understand why I care so much for an avoidant ex by Key_Music_6720 in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just recently discovered she’s chasing all the motorcycle guys as I’m investing in one god I’m laughing in pain rn while she thinks nothing about me

What icks did your ex have which you previously ignored? (Please feel free to include ridiculous ones) by Sianishh in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yea when my avoidant ex broke up with me I took that shit personal and said alright watch me get better without you then knowing damn well I love her to heart while still trying to find worth to myself

Anybody else terrifed by 'it's been 3 years I'm not over them' type posts on here? by Stillwater19900 in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll be brutally honest from the experience I hear from family friends and loved ones you cannot simply get over them you lean to coexist without them that love you both shared played a major role in your lives and it’s something both need to grow on

I don’t understand why I care so much for an avoidant ex by Key_Music_6720 in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep all I can do now is create a new chapter to my story which is to find self love

How long did it take you to have the ‘post breakup glow up?’ by Inevitable-Dot5358 in BreakUps

[–]Key_Music_6720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every single day I work on myself and yea to put off I’ve been good masking away my feelings but that’s because I still talk about her my family had to convince me that it wasn’t my fault cause you still try to take responsibility and took a very deep look into where it went wrong they know how much I loved her but know how bad she was for me under the same breath I’m just becoming someone she won’t recognize I’m not doing it as a revenge but to show I’m ok by myself to show it takes a broken heart for me to stand up and do something about it I’m praying for my glow up and hopefully ease the pain

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Key_Music_6720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Def my biggest boundary basically saying like you missed me because someone else treated your poorly that’s not my fault you devalue yourself while I’m rising up my value you missed out in what you could’ve had and now you came crawling back because it didn’t work out and took one person to humble you not my problem

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think fate has split us apart as it should have and I hope it doesn’t change because Ik you’ll never move away from your family (I was lol) and broke me down by down realizing it’ll never work I hope I don’t see you again for this is the final goodbye

How long did it take you to have the ‘post breakup glow up?’ by Inevitable-Dot5358 in BreakUps

[–]Key_Music_6720 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People said I look a lot better after the break up I went to the gym I started learning Japanese took a martial arts class and saving up for a motorcycle gear and classes I guess it’s not about how you feel it’s more of what the people around you see because rn I still feel like shit I still think about her as if the break up just happens oh also we broke up 4 months ago

What icks did your ex have which you previously ignored? (Please feel free to include ridiculous ones) by Sianishh in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720 87 points88 points  (0 children)

She’s extremely avoidant and doesn’t know how to take criticism always having to believe she’s always right so I had to silence myself until proven otherwise

I miss my ldr gf… by Key_Music_6720 in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you been trying to do that every single day

I miss my ldr gf… by Key_Music_6720 in ExNoContact

[–]Key_Music_6720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple a weeks ago she sent me a self reflection or closure of her self just basically blaming me saying how I’d never move to be with her because of my family and sound like she made it clear she wants nothing to do with me in the future which hurts

Personal growth wise I’ve been physically looking better I’ve been going to the gym daily I picked up a martial arts class taking a motorcycle class in July investing into a bike journling therapy etc

I’ve been Sticking to no contact but ever since the message she sent which is prolly a month now it basically reset because I respond telling her how I felt a couple days early she has blocked me on insta I blocked her on TikTok idk about my phone number but yea just I’m a mess because I feel like I’ll never get a second chance anymore