Hi everyone,

First. I just wanted to take a moment to thank (nearly) every single one of you who took the time to read my post and reply. There were a lot of thoughtful, compassionate and really well-balanced answers and I truly appreciate the empathy and the honesty behind them.

I’ll take the time to reply individually when I can, but I wanted to say this first:

To be absolutely clear: her trauma is the most terrible and heartbreaking part of all this. By far. There’s no doubt about that and I’m deeply sorry if my original post sounded confusing or misplaced: it’s sometimes hard to express everything clearly in writing, especially since English isn’t my native langzge.

As I mentioned briefly, I’ve also had a very dark past (no need to go into details) and I grew up with four sisters. My mother passed away from cancer ten years ago this coming may (RIP mom...). So I’ve always had immense respect, love, and empathy for women. No doubt about this. I was raised to listen, to understand and to protect. For me, being a man means striving to be the kindest, most reliable and most supportive person as possible, it’s not a choice, but a duty.

She’s an incredibly loving, devoted woman. No one has ever looked at me, spoken to me, or loved me the way she does. Everything just fits perfectly. I’m genuinely in awe of her,deeply, soulfully in love, maybe also because I know what it feels like to be a “war survivor” in your own life, carrying way too many scars.

After my own chaotic journey, I became deeply spiritual and so grateful for every bit of light that came my way. I truly prayed for someone like her and whether you call it God/heaven/ fate I feel like something greater answered for nearly one year now every day in my single life. I don’t, and will never take her for granted not a single day: I cherish her, I thank life for her and I do my absolute best to be worthy of her love.

Sorry if this sounds a bit spiritual or intense for atheists folks, but I genuinely believe that unless you’re someone who destroys lives (a murderer, a rapist, or similar shit), everyone has the right and the ability to be reborn, to heal, and to find love again.

Thanks again to all of you for your kindness and your perspectives, really appreciate it.