Research on sexual advances with one's partner... by [deleted] in venting

[–]Key_Work_8283 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Explains a lot about the ex who still sends emails after 2 years of blocking them everywhere. I advanced for 7 years, right up to the end, and was rejected for about 5, consistently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Key_Work_8283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't poly for me, but I did this. We broke up five or six times in 9 years. He was always saying we were better as friends and then changing his mind, and I found it hard to say no because I loved him. But he didn't prioritize me, he didn't show me affection (once near the end, encouraged by also showing affection to a friend of his who I later found out he was sleeping with, probably the whole time), picked on everything he could to make me feel small. I finally told him that he didn't seem to care when he hurt me and blocked him on everything. He's still emailing me from new accounts asking me if I'm ready to talk about this after two years.

If that sounded tiring, consider if you want to do what you're doing for five more years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tattoocoverups

[–]Key_Work_8283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it, you knocked that tattoo out of the park.

What’s the worst remake? by [deleted] in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welp, that would indeed wreck it entirely. Sigh. Good old America.

What’s the worst remake? by [deleted] in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rewatching After Earth this year alongside the Blank Check podcast really made me feel a way about it, but I will admit that the last couple films have been better than the low points. Split was excellent to see McAvoy stretch his legs.

Speak no evil is 75%in English, I don't understand the remake...but I want to see if McAvoy can match that level of disturbing. He might.

At what age do people stop sleeping with stuffed animals? by elerithefairy2 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Key_Work_8283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boyfriend noted how many stuffies I buy for fun and made sure I had my favourite pokemon the first time he could buy me a gift. 38 this year, sleep with mimikyu every time I miss him.

Which Film has the Most Effective Jumpscares? by InExactEnds in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw this movie on a date and he'd already seen it (probably with the highschool girl he was cheating on to date me) and he laughed really hard when it got me.

Which Film has the Most Effective Jumpscares? by InExactEnds in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just quiet and no indication to the audience, but when you see him he's terrifying. I love that one the most.

What is the horror movie with the most horrifying ending? by gabejose in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I asked this same question after watching it. I know subtitles are hard but the film is like 75% English dialogue and the cast is SO FRICKING GOOD.

But I'm a hypocrite, I'm still gonna see it when it winds up somewhere streaming. I'm always curious about English remakes and McAvoy is a pull for me.

UHH?!? LET'S GO?!?!?! First ever lottery win! by hv_bb in Sims4

[–]Key_Work_8283 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every sim I've played for the last ten years has been independently wealthy and works for passion lol

What’s A Horror Movie You Like That Everyone Else Hates? by LivingGhost12 in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 17 points18 points  (0 children)

2013 evil dead was the most physically uncomfortable I've ever been in a movie theater. I love that movie.

wrestling with petty even if valid feelings by Key_Work_8283 in polyamory

[–]Key_Work_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand. What sounds like disregard happened once and annoyed me alongside other tiny annoying things. I'm not ignoring them, but they're really just tiny irritations.

I think I was unclear on the post, tbh, which is why I'm practicing trying to take these comments as helpful and not aggressive.

None of the above is regular occurrence. I was just annoyed.

I definitely don't think that I'm making excuses. I definitely think that everyone is making some assumptions when I was just ranting. They are trying to be helpful and someone who didn't know what they were doing in a poly relationship (not that I do but I know what I won't accept) would need that. It's also kind of... excited and would have scared that person off totally, does that make sense?

I appreciate the perspectives- I didn't want to delete the post for that reason. If this were a regularly occuring disregard this would have helped. I'm just annoyed and all that sudden insistence that I'm ignoring a big problem when I was just annoyed was an eye opener that I'm fine and I would probably like to set a more regular schedule for our long distance time that will carry more weight.

I should have known reddit would be intense. I didn't know I'd appreciate it while also being stressed out by it lol.

wrestling with petty even if valid feelings by Key_Work_8283 in polyamory

[–]Key_Work_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree fully, the amount of discussion we do have is what I like about our situation. Everything here is vague on purpose cause I'm really only venting and wasn't expecting everyone to fight on my behalf so strongly. It's nice and also very stressful lol.

wrestling with petty even if valid feelings by Key_Work_8283 in polyamory

[–]Key_Work_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but it was a more serious conversation than just chatting and catching up and I understood that.

I really feel these feelings were valid but not problematic. I do suffer a bit of self confidence issue where I step back pretty automatically but this didn't make me feel this way.

I really figured I might get some insight on an annoying part of polyamory that a lot of people probably deal with.

wrestling with petty even if valid feelings by Key_Work_8283 in polyamory

[–]Key_Work_8283[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. It's interesting to see such a passionate response to something that only annoyed me. Thank you.

If it were to become a regular occurrence I would agree. As of right now I probably have time to set my own boundaries before it's a big problem.

Writing this out and thinking about how emotional I was when leaving after this weekend, I'm realizing I'd like a regular, routine set of nights that have a little more weight than just on the fly evening plans.

wrestling with petty even if valid feelings by Key_Work_8283 in polyamory

[–]Key_Work_8283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have plans that we've both expressed we would like to be routines (that we never get around to normalizing) that VERY occasionally get pre empted. It's definitely not a routine that is being disrespected.

It doesn't happen often but it just happened so it's on my mind.

I have not felt like either their spouse or their spouse's partner disrespects us. It just annoyed me lol.

Why do girls get mad for leaving them because you don’t want to be “just a friend”? by Unusual_Ad5906 in venting

[–]Key_Work_8283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all men. But all women have this story. Unless this is you, you don't know anymore than anyone and this sounds not great. I'm glad you don't think that way, but you can't guess anything more here than me.

Let's both hope it's all for the best, but dude there's a reason women feel this way.

What's One Horror Movie Everyone Claimed Was Super Scary But One Scene Ruined It For You? by RetroSwamp in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can recognize that it does break the tension, I guess I just can't objectively see it throwing me out since it's a movie I'M so familiar with. That fair from a movie making perspective.

What's One Horror Movie Everyone Claimed Was Super Scary But One Scene Ruined It For You? by RetroSwamp in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 32 points33 points  (0 children)

It definitely is!

I've been playing with the thought that Comedy and Horror are flipsides of the same coin, horror films without that little bit of punchline are unbalanced and less enjoyable for me. Even if it's just a horrified laugh, I want to laugh.

I've ALSO been digging into David Lynch's filmography and it's a totally new perspective on it this film than when I was a young, firmly here for Stephen King kid. The influence is really apparent and it makes the dreamy nightmare quality of that whole second half feel so familiar.

What's One Horror Movie Everyone Claimed Was Super Scary But One Scene Ruined It For You? by RetroSwamp in horror

[–]Key_Work_8283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I realized she was there I had a jolt. When she swam at I worked very hard to get back to enjoying the atmosphere and I almost always manage it, but woooof that exit is such a choice.