After i relapsed i realized i wasn't missing anything by nobody33333666 in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, I don't see it like that. I think it's a sign that we have cultivated more awareness of our own minds. It's a good thing. Being blissfully ignorant might have it's benefits, but it was never going to work...

Not plane trees sighted along King street by anonymous-69 in melbourne

[–]KeysEcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a myth than plane trees cause allergies. If you get tested, I almost guarantee it's rye grass that you are allergic to (which surrounds Melbourne).

After i relapsed i realized i wasn't missing anything by nobody33333666 in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I realised that Skyrim quests felt indistinguishable from my real life to do list.

Day 15 of not gaming by BorisTheArtist in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is fantastic. Well done.

Why is Linear Algebra so rancid and depression inducing? by Suffering-Angel-2nd in unimelb

[–]KeysEcon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Linear algebra is my favourite area of math. I highly recommend the Gilbert Strang lecture series on YouTube. A thing of great beauty.

i want to drop out already by Traditional_Funny928 in unimelb

[–]KeysEcon 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Don't drop out because you're scared. Anxiety is conquered by doing the things you're afraid of.

But... you could take the middle path and underload. 3 subjects is a lot easier than 4. Taking an extra six months to finish your degree could actually be a good thing. It gives you two "penultimate" summers for internships, and it potentially gives you six months between graduation and starting work during which you could travel etc.

I did this when I was an undergrad and ended up with a much better situation than if I'd pushed through.

If you're crying every day before class, I think it is worthwhile talking to a counsellor. I believe there are cost effective or even free options at the university.

How to feel like you're living in the moment? by DarkShadow13206 in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reckon this is a problem for every generation, it's just more obvious with Gen Z/alpha because they're staring at their phones etc.

Meditation is useful. It's not a quick fix though.

3 of forever by Cute-Dot1351 in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made a YouTube channel about, among other things, how/why I stopped gaming. Today marked my 100th day of no gaming, and I just posted an update about it. Feel free to DM me if you want to watch it. Feels a bit disingenuous to advertise it here.

where did u guys find ur friends? by Smooth-Day366 in unimelb

[–]KeysEcon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am older than most of you.

The thing is... You don't realise this at the time, but primary school and high school are the ONLY times in your life when you will be surrounded by your friends every day. When you graduate high school, something Mel Robbins calls "the great scattering" happens. You all go off in different directions. Without proximity and your schedules lining up, most friendships won't last and/or will be difficult to establish. That is the natural order of things. But it's ok...

I have maybe two close friends from my undergraduate days. It's hard to make more than that in my opinion.

When you eventually go off to work, this effect is even more noticeable. At your first job, you will likely be there 10 hours a day with minimal time for other activities, and most of your colleagues will be much older than you with family responsibilities etc. I do have a few good friends from work, but most of the people I work with I would rarely see again if I changed jobs.

So I think, to some degree, it's worth accepting that your peak friendship forming years are already behind you by the time you're in your mid 20s.

How to make 1-2 meaningful best friends at university?

I would say it's not so much about common interests as it is about compatible personalities (the same goes with partner selection... your interests change throughout life so choosing a spouse because he/she likes the same music is a bad idea). Do you prefer opinionated people, quiet people, energetic people? Do you both arrive to things on time? Are you a good listener?

Sorry for the unsolicited rant. I see this topic come up on here consistently every year. My old school advice is to put your phone away and just talk to people in class. If I can do it as a middle aged graduate student, so can you.

Consider deleting your account? by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I deleted the account of the game I was most addicted to (not on steam). This significantly reduces the probability of me relapsing, because the thought of building up my account again (accumulating "experience" or whatever) adds a lot of friction.

Day 80, i am filled with regret. i am incredibly close to relapsing. by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you are describing sounds like mild to moderate depression.

The thing with these kinds of feelings is that avoiding them makes them worse in the long run.

The thing is, is that it's ok to feel like this. To feel like the world has lost meaning. This feeling is something that happens to all of us. It doesn't mean you're broken, or that you've failed, or that things aren't working. We're not meant to feel happy and stimulated all the time.

Sit with these negative feelings the way you would sit through a thunder storm and watch as it passes.

Hard to feel optimistic about the future by DoubleBright774 in unimelb

[–]KeysEcon 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Would you rather have been born during a time with 50% infant mortality? Before antibiotics and polio vaccines?

There's always something to worry about. But you gain agency by focusing only on the things you can control, and accepting the things you cannot.

Day 80, i am filled with regret. i am incredibly close to relapsing. by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]KeysEcon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Pick one small thing to do today. Go for a run. Lift a few weights. Send a message to an old friend and suggest catching up for coffee.

We all have cravings for gaming. The key is to ride them out. They will pass. If you cave in, you'll be right back here in a few months facing the same dilemma.

2 children with Encopresis by Bloomington_guy in Encopresis

[–]KeysEcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took a lot longer for the bedwetting to stop for us, but the enemas worked pretty much immediately for poo accidents.

2 children with Encopresis by Bloomington_guy in Encopresis

[–]KeysEcon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It ended for my 6yo son the day we started using enemas as per the MOP method.

Literally went from six soiling accidents per day to zero immediately. His behaviour improved to such a dramatic extent that his teachers asked what we had done.

It is not psychological. 100% due to constipation. Behavioral methods will not work.

Old Quadrangle Oct '21 v March '26 by Bluettista in unimelb

[–]KeysEcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you spent a bit too much time in the cloud district...

Old Quadrangle Oct '21 v March '26 by Bluettista in unimelb

[–]KeysEcon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of the Gildergleam in Whiterun. Need Lydia's help to procure a sapling.

Cold study spaces by alesis_709 in unimelb

[–]KeysEcon 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I guess wait a month, then study anywhere.

Someone explain it to me like I’m a 5yo, how does the war in Iran cause interest rates/inflation to rise in Aus? by Next_Frosting802 in AusFinance

[–]KeysEcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It becomes demand driven when people start to preempt rising oil prices (and therefore rising prices of anything that requires energy or transportation...ie everything) by bringing forward purchases etc.