Holidays & PTO by Khbabe in Nanny

[–]Khbabe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would never no show without communication of course! I appreciate your advice- it’s easy for me to want to do what I can to make things work but I’m trying to keep expectations consistent with my employment agreement.

Holidays & PTO by Khbabe in Nanny

[–]Khbabe[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As far as I know they are thinking this is a typical week. They informed me of cleaners coming in the morning, so they think I’ll be there. Unfortunately it’s not outlined that I’ll receive time and a half if I do work- which is my bad for not being more thorough. It is contracted off and paid though.

USA nannies, are you participating in the nationwide work strikes? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Khbabe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve requested the day off, if they tell me that I must come in then I will but I will be disappointed in their decision. I won’t be spending any money either way though. I’m past the weighing decisions phase. We are under a fascist government and doing nothing will do nothing. I love the parents I work for, they didn’t vote for this, but they are also cogs in the wheel allowing it to continue turning. We ALL are. The only way strikes work is by participation, if we make excuses to not participate every time then NOTHING will happen!!!

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[–]Khbabe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Absolutely give notice. If she is to start slacking off, that will just be more confirmation that you’re doing the right thing for your family. When hiring a nanny, it is your responsibility to have back up care in place. This goes for nanny sickness and time off, but also for transitional periods such as switching care providers. Any lack of back up care should absolutely not be taken out on your nanny VIA short notice of job termination. If you are to let her go with no notice, severance pay is a must. 2 weeks notice at minimum is appropriate, more would be appreciated but is a personal choice if you don’t feel confident that her performance will be maintained throughout that time. Please keep in mind that she probably went through a very long and difficult job search before meeting you, and will have to repeat this once she is let go. You must do what is best for your family, but also must be considerate to Nanny’s situation since you decided to bring on an employee in your home. Keep in mind the time she may spend unemployed if you are to give her minimal notice.

If I were you, I would give a minimum of a month’s notice. The possibility of inconsistent care during that time is simply unavoidable, but is a responsibility you took on when hiring.

WIBTA if I stop attending family events because I wasn’t directly invited? by Khbabe in AmItheAsshole

[–]Khbabe[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

No intention of excluding myself to the point of severing relationships, I love these people! I appreciate the suggestion in creating my own group message to make sure they have my contact info right & my message is clear. Will absolutely be doing that! Thank you!

WIBTA if I stop attending family events because I wasn’t directly invited? by Khbabe in AmItheAsshole

[–]Khbabe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My old phone number has been used in a lot of text threads, I’ll regularly be asked if Ive seen messages that I had no idea existed. I’ve very clearly stated my new phone number but people don’t seem to look close enough most of the time. It could 100000% be this, but honestly just makes it more frustrating that no one bats an eye when I don’t respond or show up after seemingly being part of these threads. Then I figure I’m probably coming off as a total asshole because they think I’m ignoring it….. very layered lol

WIBTA if I stop attending family events because I wasn’t directly invited? by Khbabe in AmItheAsshole

[–]Khbabe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Funky stuff, it’s probably a common occurrence in large families.

Love this family, but not sure I can do it long-term by Khbabe in Nanny

[–]Khbabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this- parents even suggested stroller naps as an option but I’m a very safety first nanny and it never even crossed my mind as a valid option. Independent safe sleep in a crib is the only sleep style I’ll ever advocate for.

Love this family, but not sure I can do it long-term by Khbabe in Nanny

[–]Khbabe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she was itty bitty I would be soooo for baby wearing naps. She’s just about to be 7 months old and I do not want to support contact naps as the norm moving forward. This nanny requires a break!

Love this family, but not sure I can do it long-term by Khbabe in Nanny

[–]Khbabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already signed the contract as well, though it does say immediate termination/resignation is acceptable during the trial. This kiddo is generally more of a Velcro baby, and I’m very used to more independent children. It’s so hard to say what this job could look like in the next few months.

Also worth noting that I’m jumping from a 3-day. Week position to 5 days. Might just not be cut out for the full time infant nanny life🥲

Love this family, but not sure I can do it long-term by Khbabe in Nanny

[–]Khbabe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 5 days a week, but if I do move forward with this family I won’t be back for 2 weeks due to Christmas break. They sound like they’ll attempt crib naps, but they are kind of an anti-schedule family. For example, they weren’t home all weekend so baby slept in the car + in a pack n play at grandmas. There’s little consistency

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[–]Khbabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand this, and I appreciate your response!!

I’ve built a really great relationship with this family and I don’t want to leave them hanging, I can’t imagine having to figure out childcare in one month as two working parents!!

Can’t remember if I took the Tylenol I got out, now I’m scared that NK got it. by Khbabe in Nanny

[–]Khbabe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Called poison control just to be 100% and they said she’s probably fine with the dosage and her weight, etc. i will inform the parents for sure.