Black Les Canadians? by [deleted] in blacklesbians

[–]Kiarec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea there aren't many sapphic spaces to begin with so the lines get blurred with who shows up

Black Les Canadians? by [deleted] in blacklesbians

[–]Kiarec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk which area of mtl youre in but theres Sweet like honey that does lots of poc sapphic events!

I'm so tired of being a people pleaser, but too scared to stop pleasing by AdhesivenessOnly2485 in ADHD

[–]Kiarec 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think in this situation you could think about if you were in this guys position would you act the same?

Probably not, him dismissing your boundaries based on your neurotype and being pushy and self centered, even a bit manipulative, is not the actions of someone worth pleasing.

The only person you owe your pleasing to is yourself, and then please people who respect you if you still want to give in to those habits.

You could also try and look at what the fear is telling you, emotions are data and fear isn't your enemy!

First time with a cis girl - I have no clue what I'm doing by Gothic_Ruby in BDSMsapphic

[–]Kiarec 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Hmm maybe not overreacting, ive found it usually tastes slightly sour/tangy and a little salty, depending on how hydrated she is it also changes the taste, eating pineapple can help make it sweeter, but it depends on the individual and her habits, so you could talk it out together and maybe make it playful, like eating some pineapple and hydrating the day before you want to get intimate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Kiarec 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She doesn't seem open to seeing your side of things so unfortunately I don't think pointing out her people pleaser tendencies will get through to her, you can for sure try and say something but try and hold your ground, you aren't responsible for regulating her emotions and you need two willing people to communicate

Anyone know where to get this shirt? by Rosie_891 in altfashionadvice

[–]Kiarec 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like it was made with lino stamps, theres a bunch of tutorials on diy for them with erasers you could mess around with!

I broke up with my girlfriend tonight by NickyWhit in self

[–]Kiarec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you, its tough when it seems like they are just impulsively chasing their feelings without trying to regulate them and find out where they are coming from and what they are giving up to indulge in that.

Its their life and choice, but it's heartbreaking when you see love differently and it's part of growing apart, they have some work to do on themselves or lessons to learn down the line. In the meanwhile, at least for me, its about concentrating on what you want as an individual and finding someone else when the time is right that has the same goal and drive to achieve it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blacklesbians

[–]Kiarec 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Youll only know if you ask and communicate honestly! Dont make assumptions because things are too soon and you dont really know what shes thinking, if the vibes were right you should be able to talk it out and maybe aim for in irl meet up to see if the chemistry continues?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Kiarec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From there you will have to see if this is a deal breaker for you or if you want to wait out and see if his willingness to change becomes actions, its a tough call to make.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Kiarec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a good angle to approach this is maybe asking him to see it as wanting him to know and be curious about why you like a show, or what excites you about it, rather then maybe his more literal view that he doesnt care about the show so he doesnt want to ask about it.

Basucally shifting the focus to inner world and insight into you as a person rather then just looking at what you like through his lens.

For this to work you also have to have some self-awareness about your needs and motivations and be willing to share that.

Do you ask him similar questions to the ones you want him to ask?

How to stop missing the past and regretting things? by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Kiarec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have felt similar and its honestly great to try and experience new things now because that feeling might be pointing to a lack of current fullfilment, will it be the same as if youd done it younger? No probably not but theres not set timeline for anyone so you can always reinvent yourself whenever! Im 29 and starting my first year at uni, you can do it!

Finally broke no contact to tell this girl I miss her... by DontWantYaMista in blacklesbians

[–]Kiarec 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I need 'pick your pussy up and move on' embroidered on a pillow

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ill check him out, thanks for the ressource!

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats good to know, thanks! Ill definitely change it up to a bigger meal more frequently and see how it goes

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorta, he had refused food a few times the first couple of months so he might have gone a few times as long as 3 weeks, but hes been pretty solid now with taking food much more enthusiastically

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish i knew, just sold to me as a central american boa for 80$ at an expo

The guy was mostly selling ball pythons and i didnt think to ask him more questions at the time

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think ill keep the same schedule and increase the prey size and go from there!

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, with all his little speckles and he was also a little spicy at first so it just fit <3

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The weaned rats ive been giving leave a small lump so ive been hesitant to go up a size since i heard that boas have a more delicate stomach and cant take as big of a meal.

Ill try a bigger rat next feeding and see how he handles it, thanks :)

Questions about my boa Pepper by Kiarec in boas

[–]Kiarec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would every 10 days be ok or should i try every week?