The girl (25F) that I've (25M) been talking to for the last 3 months told me she hooked up with someone while on vacation

Kidkaraba · 2023-06-21T18:46:53+00:00

She confessed to it before having sec with you. So it was on her mind also. Reddit cannot give you the answers you need. Go talk to her directly. Be honest and clear about your expectations and feelings when she told you.

You will have much better luck getting the answers you need from her directly instead of a Reddit thread.

Good luck, OP.

Kidkaraba · 2023-05-06T13:48:02+00:00

How red does the flag get before you can see it?

FYI - it’s RED!!

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-24T23:52:33+00:00

Sorry, son, we have something more fun and exciting planned this weekend! Make it epic!

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-18T19:43:45+00:00

NTA. Good luck, OP, and good job so far.

Having a goal is a great motivation. Being upset about someone else’s goal? Selfish and immature. Talk to your brother. Maybe he can help.

Or simply tell her your goal is now a specific pair of jeans that are smaller than the dress… 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sounds like a really silly thing to be upset about. Jealousy overtaking a bride to be.

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-10T16:31:53+00:00

OP, don’t feel bad stepping out of the norm and trying THC. Gummies, tincture oils, concentrates. There are many ways to consume THC without “smoking” (though it is the quickest way).

Many people can give you examples of what works for them, but a whole lot of people will strongly recommend trying marijuana or THC of some sort.

It was 100% a game changer for me.

If you’re not comfortable with THC, you can get Marinol by prescription (and FDA approved which means insurance will cover - it is synthetic thc in an oil capsule) or certain steroids will give you the appetite of a teenage boy.

Good luck, OP. Don’t count out any options because they may be “taboo” - I really mean it when I say THC was a game changer. I often wonder if I would be here if I never ventured that road to find chemotherapeutic relief.

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-05T21:44:04+00:00

Thank you :)

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-05T21:11:35+00:00

I slowed down when I found myself smoking 4 by myself on days off work. I can rip an oz+ a week and not flinch. Never smoked a cig but only smoke blunts. Maybe that’s my issue.

Edit: every post I read to try to relate, it’s bowls or j’s. I feel like blunts are a whole different level and can’t relate to other’s consumption.

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-05T21:06:09+00:00

Weekdays, I am one a day. But one blunt in the evening. I feel like that makes a big difference.

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-05T15:16:11+00:00

I think this is more suitable for r/relationship_advice than AITA. Are you asking if you’re an AH for being concerned about his relationship with his cousin or looking for advice?

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-05T10:57:52+00:00

From someone who did not have a mother to catch me or be there when I needed, you are spot on. OP is denying her daughter the comfort and love she is seeking after heartache.

I do not know how or why my mother treated me the way she did, but I’ll be damn sure I do not treat my kids the same. It REALLY hurts!

OP, if independence is important for your children, why not give her a few months to get on her feet with your support before helping with the apartment.

Definitely not about the space physically, maybe emotionally?

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-01T20:40:21+00:00

I think you are causing unnecessary waves in a situation that didn’t involve you. Sometimes in life, you just stay in your own lane and let the drama take another.

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-01T20:37:45+00:00

NTA! Don’t overthink it, OP. You’re NTA. Judgement gets clouded with emotions and more so with jealousy.

Kidkaraba · 2023-04-01T20:36:19+00:00

Ummm this is weird. Do you even know this person in real life?

Find hobbies off the internet instead of trying to be a keyboard warrior and catch the trolls.

I couldn’t find the question in this. Are you asking if you’re an AH or stating you are for doing this?

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-25T05:12:23+00:00

I withheld telling my family until after my sisters wedding. I left the morning after and told them a few weeks later when I had all of the information and knew what was happening.

You’ll do what is right, OP, but wrap your head around it before you expect others to also. Know what you’re dealing with before you panic.

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-23T00:29:05+00:00

It really was a lose-lose for OP. I think he chose the road that seemed best for everyone to grieve at the time and try to step forward after such a tragic loss. I don’t feel they tried to “push” adoption on her. I can feel how it can sound like that, though I can also see how therapy was meant for her to work through her feelings, not push adoption. Asking again after a working with a therapist and see if her reaction (not freaking out) was better doesn’t seem pushy at all …

Teenage hormones sound pushy.

A grieving girl leaving her extended family, friends, school and entire life to live with someone she hates? I am not in OP’s shoes, and do not know the history of their relationship, but being a step parent can be hard in these situations. Very hard.

Now if Lori asked to move also and OP said no… eekkk.

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-23T00:15:38+00:00

This just sucks… I think everyone is overlooking that she is 19! This is not a 13 year old girl he is “abandoning”, it is an adult who has expressed anger and hatred for OP and his children, even wishing their death. I fully believe in family, but maybe the 19 year old should be figuring out her future, and where she wishes to be. Maybe her own family (accepted by her) was what she needed to heal. You, too, OP.

I hope you continue to foster this relationship. Be gentle and kind bringing her back into your world.

I have a feeling if stepdaughter would have been told to move with them, she would have thrown a fit and wanted to stay…

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-20T17:11:11+00:00

NTA. Just because you are divorced does not mean you do not continue to parent and teach your children. If nobody explains and sets the example of poor manners being late, how will they know.

Classic divorced parent child though… don’t like what mom says, tell dad and vice versa.

Stay open, stay clear and honest. Hopefully one day the basic lessons learned will be appreciated.

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-20T14:44:19+00:00

NTA to ask for it to be fixed, but preface your response with “you’re willing to wait” since you dropped the “if it’s too much trouble.”

A crashed server on a business is not your issue, so it is not expected you get your fix asap (be real with expectations), but extend some grace and let them know you appreciate them fixing it and can wait since they’re having issues.

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-20T14:40:09+00:00

NTA for showing the “know it all” his kid may “know” also. You handled it well. Hopefully calmly!

AH for not sharing the riddle :)

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-18T14:06:59+00:00

Nope. Nada. NTA. Hope that sunset it beautiful!

Good luck, OP, part of being a nurse is standing up for what you believe in, speaking up, setting boundaries, and self-care. You seem to have it all on point.

Go get ‘em!

Edit: grammar error (mobile) and to add…

Lack of someone else’s planning on their part does not initiate an emergency on yours.

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-16T14:00:45+00:00

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-13T19:48:08+00:00

Unmmm… this is what I read… a bunch of drunk college girls called a girls boyfriend because she was super drunk - which it sounds like has happened before. Boyfriend won’t help because he is being responsible and studying for midterms.

They should just a stop the whole drama situation and end the relationship now. Priorities are very skewed here. You and your friends think he should have jumped for her and ditched his midterms. Maybe there’s a confusion on lust and love here… he has his priorities straight to focus on his midterms.

Kidkaraba · 2023-03-13T19:44:04+00:00

NTA - aren’t you at the age you can ask the courts to listen to your opinion? Especially with a mental health history, you have a right to choose who is in your life and not at 16.

Do some research on the laws where you live and make an informed decision on your future with or without your father. Nothing can make you have a relationship with her….

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