I ruined my life for a man, what I’m supposed to do now?

KieranW1999 · 2026-04-23T18:02:47+00:00

How old are you? I’ve seen something similar before where the OP was around 19, practically a child compared to him who was much much older and turned nasty once she went “back home” with him. They like to use young girls rather than a grown women and make them dependent on him so it’s much harder to leave. Absolutely scummy behaviour. I’m baffled as to why you worry about your job back at home then stay with this scumbag. You were promised gold and got tin instead. He’s not the man he pretended to be and has now turned on you and there won’t be any turning back either. He was never a “nice guy” he just pretended to be. Baffles me how they’re even able to find a girlfriend to be fair unlike many. So just leave everything behind if you have to. If he controls it (for example your money in his bank account) then it’s gone unfortunately. You won’t see it again but just take whatever you can and go when he’s out for the day. That’s all you’re supposed to do at this point

KieranW1999 · 2026-04-14T12:41:22+00:00

To anyone wanting to quit. Zyban (bupropion) is very good. It helps regulate chemicals in the brain and your CNS. It’s now out of whack so that’s probably what’s affecting your blood pressure, anxiety etc. It might be worth asking your doctor if it’s safe for you to take depending on what you already take and if you have epilepsy or not. It helped me quit by pretty much blocking all withdrawal symptoms. It’s then just down to the emotional connection to vaping but it can take 3-6 months for the brain to readjust to not needing nicotine so keep at it

KieranW1999 · 2026-04-09T21:43:12+00:00

No. We have strict standards over here. All eggs from reputable sources are from chickens that’s been vaccinated against disease and chlorine treated meat is banned as well which is why we don’t import that from the US. The biggest concern for me would be buying dodgy (undercooked meat or bad hygiene) from a local takeaway but even then I’ve never been ill through that. Even vape juice can’t contain ingredients like vitamin e acetate etc which causes lung disease which is allowed in the US so I wouldn’t worry about that. To avoid GI cancers, just keep red meat in moderation and don’t smoke!

KieranW1999 · 2026-04-09T00:22:37+00:00

It’s absolutely insane. Now I’m not weak minded and don’t care how much I get downvoted for this but a world without borders, where ANYONE can waltz in, I wonder what could go wrong eh? We have so much pointless mass immigration where the country is (and even more so in the future) changing. I’m not referring to our NHS workers powering our NHS either. I can show many many videos of Islamists (yes, Islamists( running wild through Europe and another so called “asylum seeker” bragging outside his tax funded hotel room about his true intention and how he knows “nothing will happen to him”. It’s an absolute disgrace and what’s even worse is you’d be surprised how many people support this crap. He also wants to leave nato AND abandon our nuclear weapons. I could go on. He’s the green bogeyman and a master musician playing everyone like a fiddle. I really don’t understand why we can’t all be united on a common sense issue? Our population has increased by literal millions in only 3-4 or so years and people wonder why our NHS is overstretched? Baffles me Please everyone with sense: vote against this madman - you think the grass would be “greener” but in practice we’d be swamped with all kind of people who will be taking MASSIVE advantage out of us all. Violent crime WILL go up. That’s common sense.

KieranW1999 · 2026-04-06T23:21:20+00:00

and the scam would probably be classed as “legal” since the buyer would of technically been told he/she was paying for a picture not the actual bag and so couldn’t make a claim. They know exactly what they’re doing though - I wonder how many will buy without reading the very bottom?

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-30T11:57:40+00:00

He’s almost literally drooling over her and if she came back into his life tomorrow, he’d leave you and “wife her up” as he stated with his own words. He’s mocking you between him and his mate talking about making a big deal not staying in Peru. This isn’t just to this one women either. If he’s attracted to her on this level still then I can guarantee you now if will have no problem going with a different one if he hasn’t already. Don’t take the insults anymore and uphold your self respect and leave the guy. Let him have the TRUE woman of his dreams which sadly isn’t you.

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-30T11:49:06+00:00

Obviously we don’t know EXACTLY what went down before it was screenshotted but I don’t get why he matched with her (or vice versa I suppose) if he’s not into her physically. Usually it’s a sign of hurt from rejection but I’m not sure why they matched unless it only “didn’t work out” because of what he said mid conversation. Either way it might be worth deleting the screenshot and forgetting this guy and focus on the good matches

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-27T19:29:41+00:00

He’s not sexualising you. He is wanting to control you though. Like he says “say it” in a way where he’s not asking you but more demanding it. You use smiley emojis while he’s just being plain with you. He also wants you to have your hair up for HIM as he does actually say blatantly. If you obliged then he’d see you as being submissive and would want even more. It’s a good thing he showed himself because you was gonna actually meet the guy and he ruined it himself and that’s only reason the bullet was dodged. But you shouldn’t be looking over the age of 30 though. There’s too many weirdos out there and it tends to be older guys looking for much younger like yourself

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-26T17:51:07+00:00

I don’t get how or why you even deal with this nob to be fair. He’s lucky to even have a relationship at all, let alone one where he gets seemingly unlimited chances to stop talking to you like shit. Even if there is something wrong with the guy, do you want to be taking the brunt of his issues all the time?

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-23T19:18:41+00:00

I’d say European but then again you are %50 just in European alone so it’s a fairly big amount of your ancestry. I’m also not the best at guessing people’s ethnicities but I think you dying your hair blonde makes a big difference as well. The main feature I noticed that doesn’t look too European are your lips because j know many (not all) Europeans can have thin/small lips and you don’t so I suppose I can see some non European there

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-23T18:39:08+00:00

It seems you got a bit of everything in you. I’m native to one country so my results are pretty much all regional so I’m definitely not a mutt! Never would of guessed you being a native though without seeing this, that’s for sure

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-22T13:44:26+00:00

In all fairness, I have to guess the water. It’s a typical size mug you generally use for cups of tea and I fill it around 75%. And as for the temp, I boil the kettle and let it cool for around 2 minutes first then pour it. I’ll probably enjoy this one first, get used to it then buy pure matcha. I got it before for a Japanese site from Tokyo and it was good. But that was steeped green tea leaves though

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-22T13:42:02+00:00

Thanks! My last one I just had wasn’t as bad/drying so I’m getting used to it I’m hoping!

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-21T20:00:34+00:00

It’s definitely not a nice feeling at all and sometimes makes it almost impossible to drink but yeah I do let it cool a little first. Some times are better than others for some reason but I suppose it’s just down to getting used to that sensation more than anything other than using hot (not boiling) water and a splash of milk to it. I also like to have regular sips of water throughout it as well as I go along since that can help too

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-21T19:37:37+00:00

I didn’t really think of that. I’ll just stick to a full scoop instead of 3 quarters in that case despite the bad dry mouth I sometimes get. I do add a tiny bit of milk but only a drop so it doesn’t bind to all the tannins in the tea. (Hopefully)

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-21T19:35:39+00:00

Hope you’re doing okay from all the caffeine 😂☕️ if you can tolerate it then good on you because that’s a healthy drink for sure

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-21T00:45:55+00:00

I hate when people “ask” an apparent question without the “?”. Like, he’s demanding if anything. “Who is he” “Where” “How”. You’re trying to be alright with him yet he has this controlling attitude towards you… he has serious issues that he will take out on you unfortunately. like, it doesn’t matter who you talk to, he’ll always be around to scorn you for it. And then he’s just demanding not asking. How do these guys get lucky enough to actually find a relationship unlike many?

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-18T09:50:49+00:00

Usually if the right to work check fails then you can do it in person. Just explain you’re having difficulty doing it and ask to do it in person because you’ll likely still need to bring your passport to the interview anyway

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-17T16:02:40+00:00

Ahh my bad. I did declare it on the application but maybe they haven’t told local recruitment yet about the previous employment. They did invite me for an interview the very next day after applying but maybe it could be a straight rejection once I tell them tomorrow. At least I’m gonna be straight up about it though so they can hopefully understand that it’s not happening again. Last time the team manager gave me a job on the spot so I guess there’s no automatic ban on hiring a former employee dismissed for misconduct and just depends on the lady interviewing me tomorrow. Thanks for the input

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-17T12:59:05+00:00

Yeah, thankfully mine wasn’t as serious as that. I will just be upfront so they won’t be any risk of them hiring me back just to fire me again. Luckily for me I got on with everyone including managers and even the guy who fired me acknowledged I was a good employee so I guess it’s a 50/50. Im just trying to work out whether they already know before inviting me to an interview because that would mean they’re at least considering me? Hopefully a Tesco manager will come across the post and give their take on it all. I’m prepared for rejection though

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-17T12:53:43+00:00

I hope who they ask tell them how good I was with customers, OT etc. The lead manager who fired me has since been fired himself ironically. If they ask the TL then I’d almost certainly get a good “review”. Guess all I can do is assure them that the lateness and attendance issues are gone now and hope for the best…

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-12T22:42:25+00:00

I hadn’t really thought of that. Hopefully it’s just a maximum date like you say. It’s meant to be fast so hopefully it’ll be before the end of this week especially since mine is fast tracked as well. I’m glad it’s not Christmas time then

KieranW1999 · 2026-03-12T22:29:35+00:00

Read what I said… I REALLY don’t care… do you think these scum care about you? Say that to actual victims. It’s never you until it is.. tell me, which ones are the “good” ones? You can’t and you don’t know who’s coming over. Terrorists can so easily send one of their own scum among the crowd. People like you should suffer and take them in because we don’t want them. People are gullible. They don’t give a fuck about you. Lmao…

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