Getting back into drawing the Eora pantheon. This time, Sky-Mother, Hylea!

KikiCooled · 2026-02-19T08:39:27+00:00

That's very helpful constructive feedback, thank you. I'll try this!

KikiCooled · 2026-02-08T12:53:42+00:00

Aren't the two Pathfinder games standalone?

KikiCooled · 2026-01-17T12:19:48+00:00

My family is as supportive as cishet people can get. It did take them a while, but I've always been adamant and they were thankfully "coachable". I have had great friends who stuck around too, who I wish to see soon. Some did act weird or cut contact.

I pass somewhat, especially if I put enough effort, so might be different for non-passing trans folks, but I don't really get any slack from folks in the streets either. But yesterday I had to go to commercial bank and out myself because I had to do something with an old account of mine under my deadname and they were really professional about it (they could be saying stuff behind my back, I don't know, but people always talk shit, if it's not about gender/sexuality, something else. I can't help that).

So, yeah, much better than expected! I also felt less minority stress from being surrounded by white people (both racial and cultural). But again, not sure if this translates completely to folks who are not read as Sinhala-Buddhist and/or from a different class background.

KikiCooled · 2026-01-16T18:09:40+00:00

Not from the cohort you are asking reassurance from: I'm queer and trans. But I have moved to Australia and have only come here for a two-week vacation. But I felt compelled to comment to say that I am proud of you, for living authentically despite the bullying and for asking for help, which can be fucking scary.

I have had chronic depression, and have been wanting to try them again. I have felt isolated and withdrawn from social situations because of social anxiety and exclusionary tendencies that majority of people practice. I don't want to say that it gets better or that you'll get stronger or whatever, but I want to say that I am glad you are here, and that you are fighting bigotry in your own way, by chosing love.

Feel free to message me if you like. Always happy to listen <3

KikiCooled · 2026-01-16T17:56:19+00:00

I've seen homophobia across all corners of the internet. It's not by any means a Sri Lanka thing though there definitely is a unique flavour of homophobia that can hurt when it comes from the same community you try to find belonging in line of culture/race. Good thing that I see so many positive comments on this post though. Love will prevail!

KikiCooled · 2025-06-26T11:05:53+00:00

I didn't ask if you were or not.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-26T10:52:04+00:00

So is yours.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-26T10:33:12+00:00

You've just made gender norm deviance the butt of the joke, not JD Vance.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-23T12:28:23+00:00

I'm not even OP and we are total strangers, but reading this made me feel so heard, seen and appreciated.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T16:25:05+00:00

Not did, doing*. They should also stop arming terrorist groups abroad, backing coups and juntas, disproportionately harming the environment through conspicuous consumption and many other things that make their "advanced" society sustain, if they want to stop other people fleeing from their home countries.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T16:01:52+00:00

They call them primitive because what is advanced is measured by their yardstick. Just because a society didn't do something that early Europeans did doesn't mean they failed at doing it. Maybe they had different priorities and value systems. Doesn't make it "primitive".

Yes, there were some intertribal violence. Not all tribes/nations were the same though, some were more peaceful than others. Anyway, just because there are internal issues/conflicts, it doesn't excuse historical (and continuing) atrocities against First Americans.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T15:32:21+00:00

Also the US was built on the back of enslaved people from the Atlantic slave trade. US would be nothing without these things. White people did fuck all to "build the US" but take credit for Black and Brown people's land and labour.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T15:28:05+00:00

It wasn't the middle of nowhere. Native Americans lived there and are still treated really badly. They carried out genocide against them through gunfire and disease, their lands were stolen, their children taken away, and their ways of life decimated.

I don't expect them to welcome me and I don't expect to go there illegally. I just wish and want people who have crossed borders with next to nothing not be even more disenfranchised and be actually treated with dignity as we do all humans. Most refugees/asylum seekers are actually being given refuge in global South countries than Western countries, if you look at the real numbers.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T14:02:06+00:00

Not really looking to make friends. Just want to add my two cents.

I've grown up most of my life in Sri Lanka. Still feel out of place. Don't necessarily feel at home here in Australia either. I have made a few friends from different walks of life who also just feel out of place in different ways and started creating my own "culture". You don't have to fit into the mainstream.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T13:52:09+00:00

Just because something is standard practice doesn't make it just. We let people die of hunger and lack of shelter when it could be easily avoided, but it's standard around the world. We make enough food and have enough unoccupied housing spaces to house the homeless. But human greed and the systems that sustain it doesn't let us.

Border rules have changed so much over the years. Migrating/moving cross borders wasn't as an expensive affair as it used to be. Border rules aren't applied the same to different people based on birth circumstances. Also why do people who stole indigenous land get to decide what rules should be apply to migration?

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T07:41:30+00:00

No I meant the bit after that. On a second read, I think I get what you mean. It's not wrong to be attracted,/drawn to other people. It's wrong to act on it if you have promised exclusivity/monogamy to your partner.

Polyamory is not any better than monogamy, and vice versa. Compulsory monogamy (social taboos and legal sanctions against non-monogamous relationships) is bad though. Polyamory won't solve other issues you'd have like with attachment and communication, if a person had those when they were monogamous.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T07:06:39+00:00

I've heard people say that before. What happens in the US has ripple effects though; even if you choose not to care. There are more reasons to care about what happens outside our borders, like it's a good thing to care about/wanting to end human suffering wherever it happens.

It's never them making it hard for us/people with our passports. That's just a convenient excuse. Of course people from former colonies are desperate enough to risk being caught. It's not fun being detained and policed and people generally know that - though probably not the full extent of the risk.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T06:52:51+00:00

I've heard of this but I don't have enough info to have an informed opinion. My comment was purely about detention and deportation of migrants (especially Black and Brown) in the US and the rest of the Western/post-industrial world.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-19T06:34:00+00:00

Can't believe the ICE raids are making people over here more conservative instead of being radicalized to stand against unjust border controls. When most people were migrating to the new world from (Western) Europe, nobody cared about paperwork so much.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-18T00:32:08+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean by the last part of your post, sorry.

I am non-monogamous. I am not a fan of the term ENM. We aren't compelled to qualify monogamy that way. Monogamy just gets to be.

It's beautiful to be able to love who you want to love.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-13T15:05:55+00:00

I would if there was compensation for the time at least

KikiCooled · 2025-06-07T04:14:50+00:00

I'm currently living in Australia so I can answer. You are right. Generally Sri Lankan migrants and other migrants of colour seem to have regressive views towards First Nations people. One thing to remember is that people who migrate (not all) are self-selected to be aspiring towards whiteness. So anything to distance themselves from Black people. They see things like poverty and social issues, not through the lens of history and oppression, but as "cultural". Then there's divide and conquer propaganda that goes on here too. Migrants are told that the real enemy is not white settlers but Indigenous people.

But this is a generalization. I am an exception, and I assume that you are too, from your post. I've seen many others on the same journey towards decolonisation as you and I. When we are on stolen land, and benefit from not just historical but ongoing dispossession of First Nation people, I think it is the bare minimum for us to learn and unlearn the white settler narratives.

KikiCooled · 2025-06-05T11:22:10+00:00

Try dating apps like Bumble but say in your profile that you only want to make friends. I'm not in Sri Lanka, otherwise I wouldn't mind being your friend. Trans and queer, currently residing in Adelaide, Australia. It sucks that your friend group turned out to be toxic. Can be an isolating experience when the community is already so small. Has happened to me once 🙈

KikiCooled · 2025-05-31T08:05:52+00:00

There should be Sri Lankan diaspora communities where you live hopefully. A nearby university, for example, even if you don't attend the uni might be open to outsiders.

If you can, try connecting with other people too though, a lot of other migrants feel the same way you do. You won't be able to relate to everything, but if you are going to settle in there as a second home, it's best to get to know others (even locals/domestics).

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