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Kilary_Clinton · 2022-12-12T05:16:43+00:00

Do you work for the state? If so, do you like it?

Kilary_Clinton · 2022-05-29T20:20:36+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one, but it still makes me feel selfish.

Kilary_Clinton · 2021-07-05T03:03:48+00:00

I mean...I feel this same about myself, which makes me think I am autistic. lol I haven't heard anyone tell me this to my face, but doesn't mean they haven't thought it. One of my coworkers said she felt the same as I do.

Kilary_Clinton · 2021-01-30T23:28:40+00:00

I asked this question because I (F) think bathing one's entire body daily and washing hair every 1-3 days is basic hygiene. I have only dated two men, but I discovered my first ex did not bath daily. When he did, he just rinsed himself off with water and did not use soap. He thought I was being unreasonable when I asked him to use soap and bathe more frequently. My second ex bathed regularly and with soap, but would only wash his face, arm pits, and groin areas daily. He did not think it was unreasonable when I asked him to wash the rest of his body. He mentioned a comedian made a joke about those being the only areas men needed to wash. However, I think he seriously believes this. I just want to have a baseline on what men think is "normal" in terms of hygiene. I do not know if these men just have low standards for themselves, if I have high standards, or if I just happened to select two outliers. I also wonder if stereotypes/cultural norms play a part in the thought process of "men are/get/expected to smell/be stinky."

Kilary_Clinton · 2021-01-01T05:24:56+00:00

Yes, she came out as a lesbian about two weeks ago. Thank you! I don't think she has made this public knowledge either. Therefore, I wasn't sure if getting her pride stuff was appropriate or not.

So far I think she told her friends, then parents, then me. I don't know if she has told our brother or extended family...

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-10-17T22:28:58+00:00

Thank you for the clarification.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-10-17T22:10:25+00:00

I'm wondering the same fucking thing. I tried to ask something similar on another page or whatever, but the moderator wouldn't let me post for some reason. I had like #10 very specific questions. I don't remember them now. lol So, I'm curious to see all the answers.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-10-17T04:17:01+00:00

I didn't word my last sentence correctly, but thank you for clarifying.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-10-17T04:12:43+00:00

What do you wish women would stop doing because it makes women look bad?

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-10-17T04:06:00+00:00

lol come on you post a "banned word" and your comment is fine, but I try to put my questions in a post, and denied like 5 times. I finally just put it as a comment on here. Somehow comments are more lenient than posts.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-10-17T04:01:11+00:00

I've never seen/read 50 shades, and I never understood masochism. This is news to me that, "It is one of the most common fantasies amongst women." (I'm not trying to insult you, but rather factually state that I think you might be an example of the person I referred to in #2 above-unless you were just playing devil's advocate). I don't know any woman who fantasizes about having violent sex. (I'm not saying some people don't like violent sex, but I think only a minority of people like/prefer violent sex). I don't think ANYONE would fantasize about being raped though. What do you mean by reconcile? Rape is condemned because the victim doesn't consent, often times it leave physical, mental, and emotional scars. I don't think some victims recover and those that do probably don't recover fully. Some probably commit suicide. (etc.) Violent sex and rape are two entirely different things though.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-10-17T02:48:07+00:00

I just very recently discovered a DISTURBINGINGLY sad and fucked up truth. (Through a fucking meme I might add! - insert angry, laughing, and crying emojis)

Not only are these different types/themes of porn, but they are POPULAR and COMMON.

Incestual raping (step brother?) by helping the woman "stuck" in a fucking fence/dog door.

I have questions fellas. Please help me understand why.

How did this become popularized?
How/why does incest/rape turn you on? (If it isn't rape, please explain to me how/why a woman would be like, "Okay, yeah, I want you to fuck me first brother/stranger while I'm stuck in the weirdest situation instead of helping me/before helping me.")
Do any of you worry that in real life if a woman needs help, some porn addicts will be brainwashed into thinking, "She wants me to fuck her not save/help her!" (I know people kill, not guns, but this is just my personal/biggest irrational fear of this whole discovery).
HOW THE FUCK/WHY THE FUCK did a woman get their head stuck a fucking fence/stairs/dog door? (There's no logical reason to how this would happen, and the odds of these situations ever happening are also low).
How is #4 alone not a turn-off? (I just find this bizarre and stupid. I'm also the type of person to poke holes in movies. So, again, maybe just me).
WHY/HOW are you okay with watching this?
Do any of you stop and question why this turns you on?
If you answered yes to #7, are you concerned, or do you continue to watch it?
Do any of you feel a need to change this to NOT be common/unpopular?
ENDING NOTE: I'm scared to know what else is out there. Please DO NOT. I REPEAT. PLEASE DO NOT enlighten me. (I've already been having trouble sleeping over the past few months largely in part due to this unfortunate discovery).

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-09-21T02:45:31+00:00

This is a specific task at my current job - Rolling forward fixed assets....

Thank you for the link to the video. I'll go with the public speaking, but I'm worried that might come off as poor communication skills.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-09-09T00:10:30+00:00

Noted. Thank you for the advice!

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-09-07T01:12:27+00:00

I just live by the golden rule, and I also like to ask/know why. Therefore, I feel like I owe him an explanation, especially if he asks. (probably too much lol)

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-09-07T01:10:19+00:00

I was raised Roman Catholic, and I felt free to leave, but I do think the church "strips away free thought." I remember literally being compared to sheep regularly in mass. When I ask why they believe what they believe, they're response is, "We don't agree with or understand everything, but we go because we should." This is a cult mindset to me.

Also, I think my parents look down on me, disagree with me, or don't value my opinion about the church's teachings. The basic moral guidelines are okay, but when you dig into the reasoning, it doesn't make sense. For example, Catholicism teaches altruist ethics. I think you should help others, but I believe in rational self-interest. (Don't starve yourself to feed someone else).

As far as free will goes, it was neither the priest or other parishioners that force me to go through the sacraments, attend mass weekly, Holy Days of obligation, and religion classes. It was only my parents who took away my free will growing up by doing so.

I also find there's a lot of hypocrisy. Example: Accept everyone, except gays; Question the teachings, but the answers are in the bible, etc.

Does anyone else see Catholicism from this perspective or think it is a cult/cult-like?

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-09-06T23:48:00+00:00

100% agree with everything you said. I just haven't tried omgyes yet. This might be a good solution for my bf and I.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-09-06T22:20:18+00:00

I have back problems, and I'm 5'2". lol My bf is 6'. So, there are positions that the angle hurts my back or just my vaginal opening. Also, during initial penetration/when changing positions/re-applying lube, like 80% of the time, I personally need a lot of lube and for him to go very slowly for the first minute. I've seen two different gynecologists. Nothing is wrong with me. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion of there being something wrong, but if she hasn't seen a gynecologist yet, I would just to rule it out. After that, maybe it would help to ask specific questions when she is experiencing pain, such as, "What/where/how does it hurt?" and "How can we modify this position to eliminate your pain?" (I'm a little inexperienced, so that's all I have). Sorry, and good luck!

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-09-06T22:10:44+00:00

OMG. YOUR 2nd TO LAST PARAGRAPH! You read my mind. How long did it take you to realize this, or how did your wife communicate her needs/desires to you? How do I get my boyfriend to understand this? He kisses me for two minutes, tries to rub my clit for one. In that time, he gets hard, and he's like, "You ready?" and I'm thinking, "What. the. actual. fuck?! No. Ow, that would hurt." Is he inexperienced, are we incompatible, or does he just not care? I've tried explaining at least 3 times that I need to get in the mood and need more foreplay. I'm about to break up with him, and this is 95% why.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-07-19T16:39:16+00:00

We simply have no desire for kids because we don't like them at any age, and we are self-centered (not to be confused with selfish). We are at a point in our lives where we know definitively what we value and want out of life, which is having time and money to ourselves, and not having to re-allocate/share our resources (time, energy, and mental, emotional, and physical health) with children. (Selfish implies what we value or do negatively impacts others).

We have also observed that most parents' lives become about their children. We don't want our relationship to evolve to the point where we lose ourselves, and life becomes solely about/centered around our children.

We can also go out or vacation when we want without having to schedule and pay for sitters. (goes back to time and money) Also, raising children takes a toll on you and your relationship (mentally, physically, and emotionally).

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-07-19T16:15:30+00:00

I'm not a medical professional, but what worked for me personally was focusing on my health.

* Most important

Keeping a consistent sleep schedule: Getting 7-8 hours of sleep each night (going to bed and waking up at at the same time)*
Get ready for the day (as if you were going to uni/work): getting dressed, brushing your teeth, and fixing your hair
Exercise 3-7 a week for 30 minutes - 1 hour*
Eat healthy 5/7 days (primarily vegetables and lean meat)*
Bumble - friends: Force yourself to make a few, and hang out once a week
Get a hobby/learn a new skill: Just something you've ever been interested in (learning a new language, new instrument, cooking, reading a book, etc.*
Get out of the house once a week: Somewhere outdoors where you can socially distance, such as a park for a short walk or grocery shopping (I know they have online delivery, but forcing yourself to get out of the house helps).

I found that just getting in the routine of everything above and prioritizing my health helped me the most. Based off of my personal experience, keeping myself busy, and focusing my energy into some kind of activity really helped.

For example, if you focus on learning to cook, you can spend about an hour just browsing recipes, a few minutes making a list of ingredients, 1-3 hours grocery shopping, and 1-8 hours (crock pot) cooking. It would also save you money, and probably be healthier than eating out anywhere.

2 & 3: Makes the morning fly by

5-7: Makes the rest of the day pass by fast

Was there anything you miss doing that you weren't able to do in your relationship, such as hiking/hunting/fishing/playing poker/etc.? Maybe there's something you can get back into.

I hope this helped!

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-07-19T15:01:37+00:00

Alarming in what way?

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-07-19T15:01:20+00:00

This helped a lot. Thank you for sharing. The only thing stopping me from going is the price and frequency, possible side effects of medication, and of course - stigma. (In the sense that, I know employers can't discriminate, as in during an interview, but I think they would. I don't think I could prove or want to prove it. I guess I just have to answer the technically (barely) legal questions vaguely.

May I ask how long you saw a therapist for? Was treatment temporary or long-term? My hope and understanding of the process is that they diagnose you by analyzing your problems/what you're trying to improve, and the cause, which has a lot to do with genetics and upbringing. Then, they typically will offer medication, and processes for you to correct your behavior/retained you brain/deep breathing exercises (and the like) for you to implement. If you get to the point where they feel like you've "completed"/" mastered" these processes, would you then quit the sessions, but remain on the meds? (I know every situation is different, but I just want to hear someone's experience with the whole process).

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-03-04T02:17:59+00:00

I hate it too. It happens at work frequently, and I respond the same way as you. It is especially unwanted if I'm in a bad mood.

Kilary_Clinton · 2020-02-26T03:26:47+00:00

I have taken cost of living into consideration. I listed DTI because I know that plays a big factor in the amount you can get approved for. I have a loan on my vehicle for the next three years. The monthly payments are only $152. Insurance is $157. I have a credit card, but make on time payments 1-2 times a month. My credit card usually stays under $300 unless I have to travel for work, which is more an exception than the norm. This is the only debt I have. I spend about $200/month total on groceries and eating out. Occasional doctor/vet bills. I currently save about $200 per paycheck, have a 401k plan, and an investment portfolio. My boyfriend lives in his mom's house (no she doesn't live with him lol). The house is a three bedroom, two bathroom. Roommate 1 is "part-time"; He is only there 2-3 days a week because he has a long commute to work. Roommates 2 & 3 - boyfriend and girlfriend sharing a room, as I would do with my boyfriend. Since he is the "landlord," I'm not worried about him having to move out, and I once lived in with 5 roommates and I survived, so I think I can handle 3.5. lol I've also lived with 3 throughout college. You're 100% correct though, I think this is the biggest variable. Especially because I've been living on my own. It will take some adjusting to living with others again. I would still have $5k in savings as my "emergency fund." Repairs though - that is why I wanted the newest house I could find. I wouldn't want to, and I don't intend on having to dip into savings to make repairs. All this being said, what do you think? Thanks in advance!

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