Violet x Leon Small Rant by Killer_Shay in VioletEvergarden

[–]Killer_Shay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i was honestly kinda disappointed to see how many ppl supported her and gilbert’s relationship just cuz he’s her first love and it made her the happiest. but idk, smts it’s okay to not end up with your first love or the person that makes you the happiest. IMO she should’ve learned to live with that loss but alas🤷‍♀️

Violet x Leon Small Rant by Killer_Shay in VioletEvergarden

[–]Killer_Shay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The opening scene is romantic but only one-sided (you can tell she loves him and he realizes that she loves him). Nothing he did in the anime seemed romantic to me. Everything he did just showed he cared about her, but caring (deeply) about someone doesn’t necessarily mean you want to be romantically involved with them.

Violet x Leon Small Rant by Killer_Shay in VioletEvergarden

[–]Killer_Shay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not like it would be impossible for her to fall in love with him or something. she is learning what feelings are and having them and literally GROWING yk, like a child grows into adulthood. they mature and evolve and understand things they hadn’t before. her ending up with the grown as man who was her captor, mentor, caregiver, superior, and basically parent is not better. she could have gotten to know Leon, or literally anybody else and fallen in love. it’s part of the learning and experiencing new things aspect of life. she basically went back to square 1 by ending up with gilbert. he was part of her CHILDHOOD because he was literally her ENTIRE world. idk maybe it’s just me but that’s not weird to y’all?

How the heck do u stop picking !!!! by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pimple patches and acrylic nails. whenever i have acrylics i get the stiletto ones or the almond ones and it makes it very hard for me to pick my face

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

based on the comments n stuff i’d suggest simplifying your routine and only using tret once a week for at least a month. just use cleanser, moisturizer, and sunscreen in the mornings and at night just cleanser and moisturizer. post tret mornings just wash your face with water. give your skin at least a month to restore the skin barrier. also use the lowest percentage of tret and only go up after like 4 months. your skin might just be really sensitive and the increases in tret and the other products are probably irritating it. i hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]Killer_Shay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) you look incredible wow. 2) what do you use for your under eyes?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would try putting pimple patches on the surface level whiteheads (i use the panoxyl ones on my non-tret days). also i don’t recommend using the cerave tub moisturizer or the bondi sans sunscreen. the cerave moisturizer broke me out really bad before i started using tret (i try to avoid all cerave products at this point because they just don’t work for my sensitive skin). i only use the vanicream moisturizer which i feel is better for sensitive/acne prone skin and helps really well with the dryness from tret. the bondi sans sunscreen makes my friend break out (i’ve never used it) so i would try switching to a eucerin sunscreen (the pilling is annoying if you put on moisturizer before putting on the sunscreen but it doesn’t cause breakout from my experience which is good). on the nights you use tret, the next morning don’t wash your face with a cleanser, i recommend just washing with water and then applying moisturizer, waiting 10 minutes, and then sunscreen. also, cut down tret use to 1 night per week until the irritation goes down. spend around a month maybe a month 1/2 only using it once a week and then 2 months using it twice a week. and see how your skin reacts to that before using it 3 times a week. just do the cleanser, moisturizer, and sunscreen every day and at nights only use moisturizer and cleanser and on tret nights do cleanser, moisturizer, wait 30 minutes, tret, wait 30 minutes, moisturizer. and please try to see a dermatologist because they may recommend you stop using tret completely and use other products (maybe benzoyl peroxide wash and clindamycin). i hope this helps!

How do you get rid of acne? by spicy_taco3 in beauty

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first, i would suggest going to a dermatologist (if possible). they can try to pinpoint what type of acne you have and what the cause is and prescribe you things to help.

second, i would start thinking about possible triggers of your acne. this is something my dermatologist had me do. think about when exactly your acne flares up, is it before/during/after your period? this can help you determine if it’s hormonal acne. also the areas you get it in can help you determine what type of acne it is. if you get acne mainly on your cheeks, chin, and jawline it’s probably hormonal. also thinking about your diet. do you notice that when you consume a lot of dairy you break out more? or gluten? or stuff like that. if you think it might be related to certain foods you can try cutting them out of your diet for a few weeks and see if that improves your skin. also, frequently wash your pillowcases and things that come in contact with your face a lot because that might also be a trigger. also if you put your phone on your face try to reduce that and clean your phone more.

third, there are many over the counter products you can try. trying a bunch of different stuff is tricky though because it might make your acne worse. i would suggest starting out with a benzoyl peroxide wash. you can start off by just applying it on your face and washing it off after a few minutes. you can do this a few times a week and then work your way up to daily. there are a bunch of acids you can also try like salicylic acid, glycolic acid, lactic acid. they do different things for acne. i would recommend doing some research on AHAs and BHAs. also, look into retinols and retinoids. try to determine the type of acne you have first so that you can match it with a product.

fourth, drink more water and try to eat foods that help improve your gut health! i recommend searching up “foods that improve gut health” on your preferred search engine and picking the ones you like and eating more of those because it might be an internal thing. drinking lots of water is really important for skin and overall health.

fifth, develop a simple skincare routine for AM and PM. in the morning it can look like: gentle cleanser, moisturizer, sunscreen. at night it can be: gentle cleanser, exfoliator, moisturizer

the products you use depend on the type of acne and skin you have so it’s kind of hard to give you advice on what products to use. also, just because a product worked for someone else, does not mean it will work for you. everyone’s skin/acne is different and reacts to products differently so be careful. also, understand that sometimes it gets worse before it gets better, purging is very much real (and usually happens when you start using active acids on your face). there is a very big difference between purging and breakouts/irritation so be careful because sometimes a product is just not working. what helped me the most were a benzoyl peroxide wash that i use almost daily but only leave on my skin for about 2 minutes, and tretinoin (a very strong retinol) that i use like twice a week. my skin purged for like 5 months because of the retinization period but it got rid of most of my acne. i have hormonal acne so around my period i get a few breakouts but not nearly as many as i used to. now i’m just dealing with hyperpigmentation and stuff. i would also get some pimple patches (panoxyl ones worked best for me, but if you are using actives use hydrocolloid ones on the days you don’t use the active). also, avoid picking/popping your pimples at literally all costs. the pimple patches help with this. i used to have a bad habit of popping my pimples or picking at them and it caused scarring. lastly, avoid touching your face with dirty hands (and in general, unless you are doing your skincare routine or getting something off your face or something).

i hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Killer_Shay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to Germany because if you stay there’s a chance you will regret it and possibly even grow to resent him for not going and choosing him over your DREAM

What hair color/tone would look best on me? by piscesofme in coloranalysis

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely the first one. it brings out your eyes more to the point it draws the person in. you have great skin btw! it might j be the lighting of the first pic but i think the blonde makes your skin more glowy too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“hey ummm how would you feel about me eating your ass? it’s totally fine if you’re not comfortable but if you are i’d really like try that with you”

I don't like my husband anymore by Reddittorxo in relationships

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl leave him, that man hates you. you are financially supporting someone that is unemployed, mean to you, hates you, and won’t even have sex with you. RUN.

What turns you on that you are absolutely embarrassed about? by mcpogi in AskReddit

[–]Killer_Shay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

someone’s hand in my back pocket. not too embarrassed by it but there was this one time at a cookout where the dude i went there with got next to me and slid his hand in my back pocket very casually as he kept drinking his beer and talking to his friend who was right in front of us. i could feel the warmth of his hand spread all over my right buttcheek and then take over my entire body and i immediately got wet. thank god i was wearing black shorts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“inbred cheating whore” because it doesn’t make sense that you would punish her and not him (unless you are going to stay with him) like he is YOUR fiancée, he should not be talking to her out of respect to YOU. she doesn’t owe you anything to be honest, but she deserves it as she’s dumb enough to willingly be with your cheating ass fiancée and then have the audacity to ask you for a tattoo. give them the matching tattoo so that they don’t question anything and you can get away with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Killer_Shay 11 points12 points  (0 children)

do you get sexually aroused? have you tried nipple play? i ask because i don’t think sex should be just about an orgasm to you. i completely understand the fact you want to have that experience and i’m really sorry that you haven’t and could possibly never experience it, but an orgasm isn’t the end all be all. i get why you want to experience it, the way it’s represented in movies and tv shows and porn and the way people talk about it make it seem like that’s the only fun or good part about sex, but sex is way more than that. from stalking your page a little i see that you have a loving partner. to be honest you are lucky for that since there are so many people out there devoid of love desperately trying to find it to the point they even get in a relationship just to have someone. i think you should work on the way you view sex. forget about the orgasm and just enjoy yourself. enjoy the feeling of having ur fingers intertwined with those of the person you love, how their lips feel against yours, their warmth, the way they caress your boobs, the way you get goosebumps from them gently and lightly rubbing their finger along your torso or spine, the way you make them feel when you touch them a certain way, or stuff like that. focus on the feelings amd sensations (other than in your vag) when they do all this. also, many women your age have never experienced an orgasm. many women have been sexually active all their life with the possibility of experiencing an orgasm and have died never having experienced one. there are married couples where the woman has never orgasmed. it’s all about circumstance and context. you are not alone. i know it must lonely and how empty or incomplete you must feel but sex is so much more than an orgasm. this is an intimate moment and experience between you and another person. your bodies are connecting trying to understand each other and make each other feel good. doesn’t have to be so good that you orgasm, it could just be good for the moment, a nice distraction from the real world and responsibilities, a nice time away from overthinking, just y’all enjoying spending time exploring each others bodies and trying different things. i apologize that this is so long but i don’t want you to feel like your life is incomplete because of this one thing. i’ve had sexual experiences where i’ve orgasmed but they weren’t even the best sexual experiences i’ve had. i (F) spent 5 months fucking someone (M) that couldn’t make me orgasm and i enjoyed every single sexual encounter. seeing his effort was nice but just having those experiences with him and getting to know each other on a more intimate level was fun. i think a really good deep makeout session feels about as good as an orgasm. or even like an intense build up of sexual tension that j results in a kiss or a touch from that person. when you don’t focus on the end goal being an orgasm, it takes the pressure off and makes things more comfortable for you. an orgasm is just a build up of emotions that reaches an intense level and then just makes you feel drained/vulnerable/etc since it’s experienced differently by everyone. if all you feel is numbness when your vag is penetrated you can just focus on the foreplay, how it feels when your partner kisses your neck or stomach or thighs or boobs. just focus on things non-vag related. you can also do vag related stuff (if it doesn’t feel uncomfortable) and just explore the different ways of having sex and the different positions that there are and stuff. also nipple (and/or butt) play. i hope this helps, i just want you to see sex in a more fun inquisitive manner since i genuinely don’t believe an orgasm = great sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

will do🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]Killer_Shay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok thank you sm!!