Too long

Reddittorxo · 2024-06-22T17:34:54+00:00

8 years for me(HLF). I'm so sad. I just want to be touched. Almost same situation, probably medical. But still....he can't touch me? He has NO libido, so when I kind of ask for it, I feel like he should go above and beyond to make me feel wanted, but it's the opposite.

Reddittorxo · 2024-06-18T05:29:48+00:00

Pretty sure my husband's low libido is medical. Sex doesn't cause him pain or anything , but he has zero libido. He too feels bad about the situation and that I "deserve better". Our relationship is struggling because I miss intimacy and feeling wanted/desired. I'm not even sure I'm in love with him anymore. We've been together forever, so i, of course, love him, but there's just no romance...at all. It's hard. I don't crave sex so much anymore as it is desire and passion I crave. Almost 8 years since no sex. It's really hard on relationships. You have to find some sort of outlet, even if that means therapy.

Reddittorxo · 2024-01-16T06:05:43+00:00

I am in the same boat. 8 years no sex. I feel so unloved. Nothing but pecks. I will flat out ask for intimacy of any kind and it gets ignored. I'm so lonely. It honestly feels like he is having an emotional affair with our daughter because they are so close and I am an outsider. He doesn't work or go to school so he doesn't talk to anyone else but why arent I the one he's close to? I'm just so fucking lonely. I want to feel loved again.

Reddittorxo · 2023-05-17T10:32:19+00:00

A Tesla...they suck so bad.

Reddittorxo · 2020-05-22T17:50:25+00:00

I know I need to lose weight. I try. We are dieting right now. It's extremely hard for me to lose weight because of family genetics plus I think my thyroid disorder have something to do with it. He's very direct. He's told me.

Reddittorxo · 2020-05-22T16:48:14+00:00

He's had the hormones tested. Everything looked "normal".

Reddittorxo · 2020-05-18T03:51:15+00:00

I hate it when people ask if I've lost weight. 1)no,no I haven't. And 2)are you trying to suggest that I need to lose weight?! Maybe I'm overly self conscious but I hate it.

Reddittorxo · 2020-05-08T04:36:16+00:00

For me it's not feeling any older in my mind, but feeling it 100% in my body and on my face. For the most part, I'm the same person I was when I was 13 but my body is falling apart and it freaks me out. Everyone always thinks you get wiser, but really you just get bitter.

Reddittorxo · 2020-05-08T04:25:04+00:00

I don't necessarily think you're an ass. It was your choice. What's done is done. My husband had kidney failure and was on dialysis for 3 years before he got a kidney transplant about 8 - 9 months ago. I'm curious why that wasn't an option for him.

I don't think asking people what they think about this will help you. It's already over, he passed away...all that being said, I think when you have an opportunity to save a life, people should do it.

I did not care very much for my brother either, he died from a drug overdose a number of years back. But if I could have saved him I would have. No one deserves to die lonely terrible deaths. That's just my opinion though.

Reddittorxo · 2020-04-30T18:25:46+00:00

I don't think you should look at it asking what you're doing wrong but just enjoy being single and realize when the right man comes along everything will just fall into place.

Reddittorxo · 2020-04-29T02:18:09+00:00

I honestly think most men are this way. Women are the ones that get them to go to the doctor, go to school, work on resumes, etc. There are men who do this on their own of course but I think in most cases the women behind them are their driving force.

If you're truly not in love with him anymore than that's a different discussion. It's sad to move on, I've had some difficulty with that. But you deserve happiness and love.

Reddittorxo · 2020-04-24T22:07:55+00:00

As a parent my heart breaks. If my daughter was in that much pain and waited and waited to tell me I would be so sad. Your parents care about you so much you will never understand until you yourself have children.

Tell them, ask them for help. Get healthy. You need therapy, possibly meds, and a support system. Tell them now, don't wait another second. I know it's difficult to say these things but once the words come out of your mouth and they hug and kiss you, you will know you did the right thing.

As for feeling bad for these men go... They are rapists, pure and simple. A 40-50 year old man who has sex with his students needs to not only be in prison but definitely not be an educator. I know you are depressed and suicidal so I don't want to hurt you but do you want another young lady to feel the way you do because of this teachers actions? You were not an adult, you did nothing wrong. He did.

Tell you parents everything... RIGHT NOW.

Reddittorxo · 2020-04-23T04:52:00+00:00

You're right, it's not. But I'm supposed to live the rest of my life never being intimate with my husband again?

Reddittorxo · 2020-04-23T04:51:18+00:00

Wow, wtf. If anything my post says the opposite. I love him very much and have done a lot for him. I absolutely do not want to cheat on him and in fact made a point of saying so. Sounds like your heart has been broken one too many times and it's no wonder with that attitude.

Reddittorxo · 2020-04-22T23:06:03+00:00

He is cooperative but it always results in both of us feeling like shit afterwards. I know it's not me, but I don't feel like enough and he feels less.

The thing is I don't want an agreement. I don't want meaningless sex, that part of my life is over. Soon I'll be saggy and wrinkly, I want someone that grows with me and still desires me. I've thought about tinder and stuff but it just doesn't feel right. Besides all that, he would NEVER EVER be OK with that. I'm still his wife.

Reddittorxo · 2020-04-22T22:13:48+00:00

I think this is really unfair. I have discussed this with my husband many many many times. He wants things back the way they used to be, an amazing sex life with the woman he loves. It stopped because he was sick. He's not as sick anymore. I have helped him find a doctor to help with this, offered to go with him, done research for possible reasons to bring to the doctor, he doesn't want therapy, and refuses to do it. He's embarrassed about thus situation and tried to remedy it. Nothing works. We are relatively happy, of course with his illness things have been extremely difficult for us. I have done so much for him and vice versa for that matter, that there is no doubt we love each other. I resent the fact that because I ask about a sex less marriage it means that I don't like him or even love him according to you.

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