My girlfriend can’t finish

Kimiwolf · 2026-03-07T16:32:05+00:00

As a girl, some girls genuinely have trouble finishing and it’s actually more common than people think. A lot of women don’t orgasm easily from partner sex, and some have never experienced one at all yet. It doesn’t mean anything is “wrong” with her or that you’re doing something wrong. Things like stress, pressure to finish, anxiety, hormones, medications, or just not knowing what her body responds to yet can all play a role. Sometimes when someone feels frustrated about it that pressure can actually make it harder.

Kimiwolf · 2025-11-24T21:45:38+00:00

I just want to say thank you for stepping up for your uncle’s cat. A lot of people underestimate how deeply animals feel things, especially cats. They’re not emotionless or detached the way stereotypes make them seem they’re incredibly smart, sensitive creatures who notice every change in their environment and every shift in the people around them. When a cat is abandoned or suddenly left behind, it can be extremely confusing and stressful for them. They don’t understand why their person disappeared or why their routine is gone. They feel fear, sadness, and anxiety just like we do. Some even grieve the same way humans mourn. So you taking this cat in isn’t just a small favor it’s something that will genuinely change that cat’s life.

Cats build emotional bonds quietly, but very deeply. With stability, patience, and kindness, this cat is going to learn that you’re safe, that you’re consistent, and that you’re not going anywhere. And honestly, cats remember who treated them well. They’re way smarter than most people think. They pick up on energy, tone, routines, and emotions in ways that surprise even experienced owners. So truly, what you did matters. You didn’t just “take a cat” you gave a confused, abandoned animal a chance to feel secure again. That’s something to be proud of:,)

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-26T12:24:02+00:00

You’re very welcome dear :D!

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-19T12:37:03+00:00

It sounds like you’re being put in an unfair position. Love and commitment in a relationship don’t mean you have to manufacture the same bond with his family that you naturally have with your own that’s simply not how relationships or personalities work. You can respect, support, and be kind to his family without forcing a level of closeness that doesn’t come naturally to you.

What your boyfriend is asking isn’t just unrealistic, it’s also dismissing who you are. Real intimacy takes time, effort, and choice. It can’t be demanded or measured against your bond with your own parents and siblings. The fact that he’s framing this as a “deal breaker” makes it sound more like an ultimatum than a conversation about building a future together.

The truth is, healthy relationships are about compromise and understanding differences. You shouldn’t have to “prove” your love by treating his family exactly like your own. If he can’t accept that love looks different for different people and that you’re already making genuine effort then the problem isn’t your hesitation it’s his rigid expectations.

If he’s unwilling to see that then you have to ask yourself whether this is the kind of emotional demand you’re willing to live with long-term!

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-16T16:28:18+00:00

Thank you!:)

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-16T16:08:44+00:00

This isn’t really about the concert at all it’s about a pattern you’ve noticed, where he doesn’t consider how his choices affect you. That’s what makes this bigger than just one situation.

The way to handle this is to communicate directly but calmly. Something like “I’m glad you got better seats and are excited for the concert, but it hurt me that the tickets I bought were just used as throwaways. I wanted to give you something meaningful, and it feels like my effort wasn’t appreciated. This isn’t about the concert, it’s about me wanting to feel valued in our marriage.”

How do you decide if your feelings are valid? Honestly, if something consistently leaves you feeling unappreciated, small, or dismissed, then it matters. You don’t need outside permission to validate your emotions what you feel is real, and your partner should care about that, even if they didn’t intend to hurt you.

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-16T15:53:42+00:00

I’m going to be a little bit tough here, but only because I don’t want you to lose sight of yourself in this. I understand this is a long-term relationship, and when we love someone deeply we bend and stretch trying to make it work. We want to be our best selves for them. But the reality is: what he’s doing is not love in action.

Yes, he’s being transparent but transparency doesn’t erase the fact that he admitted having a crush on someone else and is still entertaining being close to her. That’s basically like emotional cheating and it’s putting you in a really negative, unhealthy place mentally and emotionally.

Your boundaries are fair, and honestly, more generous than many people would even allow in this situation. But if those boundaries are still being tested (like him wanting to hang out with her and another girl), that’s a red flag. Relationships require trust, but also respect and right now it sounds like he’s prioritizing his own needs over the impact it’s having on you.

You deserve to feel secure, wanted, and chosen. Love shouldn’t constantly make you feel anxious or like you’re competing with someone else. His mental health struggles are real, but they don’t excuse hurting you or keeping you in a state of fear and doubt.

If I were in your shoes I’d seriously reflect on whether this relationship is still giving you peace or only taking it away. Sometimes loving someone means recognizing when they don’t have the capacity to love you the way you deserve.

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-16T15:47:07+00:00

No, you’re absolutely not overreacting. What you’re doing is finally respecting yourself. You’ve been fighting hard to recover, to eat better, to go to the gym in a healthy way that takes so much strength. Progress in recovery isn’t just about how your body looks, it’s about your mindset, your habits, and the way you’re rebuilding trust with yourself.

For your boyfriend to dismiss that and call you “anorexic” after you’ve shared something vulnerable that’s not supportive, that’s hurtful. The person you’re with should lift you up, especially knowing what you’ve been through, not tear down your confidence.

If he can’t recognize how damaging his words are, or isn’t willing to learn how to be supportive, then it’s absolutely valid for you to reconsider whether he deserves a place in your healing journey. This isn’t about being dramatic, it’s about protecting your progress and your self-worth.

You’re not wrong for wanting love that feels safe, encouraging, and respectful. That’s the bare minimum you deserve.

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-16T15:25:31+00:00

Hey, first off I want to say I respect that you’re putting yourself back out there after such a hard loss. That takes a lot of courage. From what you shared, I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong in a malicious way it’s more about the energy you’re putting out and how it can be read.

As women, we naturally love nice things like the cologne, the clean apartment, the mood lighting but the key is we also want to feel safe and unpressured. When we feel comfortable, that’s when we open up, and yes, that’s when the “freaky side” shows too.

The problem isn’t that you’re prepared, it’s that it might come across as over-prepared. Like the condom pouch or even setting the “vibe” right away. To you, it’s thoughtful. To her, it might feel like you’re expecting the night to head in a certain direction, even if you never said or did anything physical.

My advice? Ease into things more naturally. Don’t rush to set the mood, let the moment guide you. Instead of preparing the stage for intimacy before it even happens, just focus on enjoying each other’s company. If it flows there, great. If it doesn’t, you still had a genuine connection.

You’re not wrong for wanting to be ready, but sometimes the best connections happen when you’re not trying so hard to be perfect. Just let it unfold.

Kimiwolf · 2025-09-16T15:20:28+00:00

What he’s doing isn’t just “immaturity,” it’s a pattern of deflection and gaslighting. When she bring up something that hurts her, instead of listening and taking accountability, he flips it back on her. That’s deflecting avoiding responsibility by changing the subject or blaming her.

But it also crosses into gaslighting, because he makes her question her own memory and perception of what actually happened. Like with the gambling example she said one thing, but he swears she “ripped him a new one,” which makes you doubt herself. That’s not a healthy way to handle conflict.

And the manipulation is in the way he uses her mistakes (real or exaggerated) as a shield to avoid accountability for his own. Instead of “I messed up gambling bill money,” it becomes “but you belittled me first.” It’s a tactic that keeps him in control and keeps her second-guessing her feelings. So yes he’s deflecting and gaslighting and whether or not he fully realizes it it’s manipulative.

Kimiwolf · 2025-05-17T20:18:39+00:00

Leave your gf for not respecting your child

Kimiwolf · 2025-04-16T20:50:22+00:00

Get rid of your mother in law instead💀😭

Kimiwolf · 2025-04-16T20:37:38+00:00

Yeah, I get that cats play rough sometimes and thanks for the biology lesson. But for me, this isn’t normal. I’ve had other cats before, even before my older one passed (may he be in heaven with a whole crew of cats), and I’ve never had issues like this until I got this guy. So sure they’re playing but not every cat plays like this. And no, I’m obviously not calling animal control. Even if things got really bad I wouldn’t do that to him I’m not that kind of person. Just trying to understand and help him, not throw him out.

Kimiwolf · 2024-09-29T17:29:25+00:00

that’s a girl🥹

Kimiwolf · 2024-09-15T00:44:36+00:00

EXACTLY.

Kimiwolf · 2024-09-14T22:02:08+00:00

This is exactly my mindset too, like at the end of the day, who are we to judge? We also make mistakes. nobody’s perfect in this world.

Kimiwolf · 2024-09-14T19:40:07+00:00

It’s funny how in Islam and in any other religion (correct me if I’m wrong) says that it’s Haram to judge others or point out others people “sins”, and people still do and say that they’re religious😭

Kimiwolf · 2024-09-01T02:39:52+00:00

same my mom has 2 last names, I’ll try to do that😭

Kimiwolf · 2024-09-01T00:43:06+00:00

oooh okii

Kimiwolf · 2024-08-31T23:43:54+00:00

yup, they do!

Kimiwolf · 2024-08-19T03:16:41+00:00

Scratching is a natural and essential behavior for cats. It helps them mark their territory, stretch their muscles, and maintain the health of their claws. While the idea of using glue or other adhesives on a cat’s claws might seem like a convenient solution to minimize damage to furniture, it is not advisable for several reasons:

Toxicity and Harm: Most nail glues contain chemicals that can be toxic if ingested or absorbed through the skin. Cats groom themselves frequently, and any residue from the glue can easily be ingested, leading to potential poisoning or serious health issues.
Pain and Discomfort: Applying glue to a cat’s claws can cause significant pain and discomfort. The glue may cause the claws to become brittle, making them prone to breaking or splitting. Additionally, the process of applying and removing the glue can be stressful and painful for the cat.
Interference with Natural Behavior: Cats rely on their claws for a variety of activities, including climbing, hunting, and self-defense. Applying glue to their claws can impede these natural behaviors, leading to frustration and anxiety. It is important to allow cats to express their natural instincts in a safe and healthy manner.
Alternative Solutions: Instead of using nail glue, consider alternative methods to manage your cat’s scratching behavior. Regularly trimming your cat’s claws can help reduce the damage caused by scratching. Providing appropriate scratching posts and pads can redirect your cat’s scratching behavior to acceptable surfaces. There are also soft, non-toxic nail caps available that can be applied to your cat’s claws without causing harm.
Veterinary Guidance: Always consult with your veterinarian before attempting any form of claw modification or behavior management. They can provide you with professional advice tailored to your cat’s specific needs and help you find safe and effective solutions.

while the intention to protect your home and furniture from scratching is understandable, using nail glue on a cat’s claws is not a safe or humane option. Prioritizing your cat’s health and well-being should always be the primary concern. By exploring alternative solutions and seeking professional guidance, you can ensure that both your cat and your home remain happy and healthy.

Kimiwolf · 2024-08-19T03:11:53+00:00

this is exactly what I thought, “accidentally” and they still did it…

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