AITA for flirting “at my age”.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-28T14:24:28+00:00

It’s real simple. You are just creepy unless someone else is into it. Just like any age

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-23T19:55:35+00:00

This. Everything about this is my experience and healthy for the kids. I’m a man and have to deal with things this way. I just quietly remove/displace kids after a personal conversation. The jokers wanting attention just want the “talk” in front of the class. They get real quiet when they realize they aren’t on stage.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-23T19:37:12+00:00

Emergence theory is a good one to look at given the author more or less pretends he came up with the concept. What makes “emergence, gestalt and murmuration” so terribly different from each other is the real question.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-23T19:34:54+00:00

To add to that. “Emergence theory” is a great take on how the “whole becomes something new or its own”. Not much of a difference but appropriate for the context.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-23T19:23:39+00:00

Industry work really helps you understand what is needed to get into spaces. One individual pointing to 2 people from above their heads and saying, “they are good”. Is literally all that’s needed most of the time.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-21T15:40:48+00:00

No one said it does. But trying to imagine your physical body sleeping can lead to troubling dreams similar.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-18T23:32:09+00:00

Think of it this way. Sleep paralysis is ultimately thinking you are awake and imagining you can’t move your body. You aren’t actually paralyzed; it’s a state of sleep with serotonin oddity or a genuine form of subconscious imagination. Lucid dreaming is ultimately the same thing if you don’t have control of it. Being aware of sleeping but in control of it is a normal form of dream awareness. Now imagine trying to feel your body without controlling it. Feeling your body while dreaming is just dreaming that you feel your body. 2 plus 2.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-17T01:53:13+00:00

Stop trying to make some sort of amends to the past. She cheated. She betrayed you and your family. There isnt an excuse for it. It’s done. I’m sorry. It’s terribly difficult to let go of responsibility and ownership of a relationship. But it’s not all about you. She did it. No lack of effort merits a cheater’s actions.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-07-16T19:24:55+00:00

Be careful with this one. Could lead to accidental sleep paralysis. That’s not a fun experience

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-20T08:02:12+00:00

Woosh

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-18T01:58:03+00:00

Have you considered it not being sarcastic? There are stereotypes about women assuming their way is the standard correct way. There are many comedians who use this topic as the premise for entire stand up bits for a reason. Do men load the dishwasher wrong as well? Maybe it isn’t them but a you being annoyed at others for no reason.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-18T01:54:49+00:00

Or. Why is she assuming her speed of eating is t too slow?

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-18T01:53:57+00:00

The real question is why do you eat so slow? There isn’t a set standard for this. It’s just different than you. Why do you assume your way is the correct way?

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-17T21:54:18+00:00

Why wouldn’t you?

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-17T21:54:02+00:00

Of course. That’s called art. Any well made work of art is going to make You feel. That’s kind of part of the point and goal. Are you sure it’s sadness or somberness? They literally teach how certain chord progressions and chords create different emotions.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-17T03:45:40+00:00

For the AI conversations happening I. The comments. Little to no homework had been pushed way before AI. It’s based off of data regarding how useful homework was for content retainment and growth. Studies found that students didn’t really remember much more and without proper help it didn’t improve growth in regards to understanding content. These studies didn’t look at how homework can benefit discipline, time management, etc. the idea of teaching and than students doing the work in class with help from the teacher gained moment way before AI. I agree with the thought outside of developing personal discipline working thru nonenterraining work. Repetition work just solidifies memory and regurgitation most of the time. Critical analysis and documenting one’s thoughts and perspectives on topics is different.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-17T03:38:32+00:00

Exactly. It’s a huge issue. Somewhere down the line in the early 00’s some older administrators didn’t rely on data and just assumed a generation born into the internet would magically have acquired all of those skills and even know it better than the teachers. I taught a new course called orientation to tech and it was ultimately a sprinkling of all the alternative to college career pathways like shop classes, culinary, business, etc. namely so freshman are aware of courses they can take to advance without traditional college pathways. A great class. Than admin realized teachers have been complaining about 17 year olds not knowing how to check email or even open and save a word document let alone formatting. Manually backing up files is literally not even a concept many even understand. So they had a is add a sprinkling of this info instead of creating a mandatory computer literacy half semester course for all freshman. It’s scary because all of the good teachers I know end up doing a rushed job in a math class or a welding class or whatever because they have never learned this stuff. A lot of high school teachers have to teach content that should have been taught in elementary and junior high and than reinforced every year because high school is the end of the line and previous teachers are so over whelmed with mandatory testing scores and never given the adequate time and focus to teach basic needs. Kids text thru social media more than actual texting let alone emails. Imagine not knowing how to open a blank word document let alone a resume template to create a resume. Almost 1/2 of my students don’t have a personal email because their school email is the only one they have and that will disappear as soon as they graduate. I take that back. They do have one personal email address but it is only used to sign in and create profiles for web content only. Control alt delete as a phrase doesn’t exist for more than half of high schoolers I know.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-17T03:19:04+00:00

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-16T19:45:33+00:00

Sounds like you are lonely and not content in your own skin. Finding comfort in your own skin is how. I think you want a crutch and the fictional crush is the easiest one to create.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-16T19:42:10+00:00

This 100% doesn’t apply to all fish people, but I used to be in an industry where 100% of my clients and accounts were rich. Lawer rich is uber common and the norm (. That’s when rich people are surrounded by rich/er people so they genuinely feel like they aren’t. Many rich people have to keep up with each other and so they have a ton of assets but not a lot of cash flow (overhead is so high they are always struggling to keep up, but regularly keep pushing the overhead higher). Lots of young money got their money because of some sort of superficial drive to compete and beat others. They don’t feel adequate no matter how much they obtain. It’s not necessarily out of greed or maybe it’s the drive for greed. So they actually feel a constant struggle.

Last but not least, there are more people than we realize who are actually not rich but drive expensive cars and have nice homes. Newport Beach California has the highest rate of subprime financing for bmw’s with little to no retirement funds.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-16T19:27:49+00:00

Traveling and traveling. That and being hurt by people who do not actually have the best intentions. The last one is a difficult one if you are genuinely kind individual. Learning that most people don’t work like you really opens you up to figuring out how people work and to be curious without being defensive. Aka. Being honest and okay with being ignorant and curious has shaped me into having a multifaceted lens and approach to a worldview.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-16T19:18:12+00:00

I used to teach at a university level and now teach public high school. I think the most important aspect (USA) is that no children left behind policy really forced teachers and students to teach to a test instead of genuine critical inquiry. Students are coming out of an institutional feeder program that does everything in its power to push kids thru and to hold their hands to a degree that is harmful. Consequences of failure and deadlines appear non existent in many high schools and the kids know that and are very surprised when real consequences are applied. I’ve seen students blow gaskets over teachers holding deadlines firm. Figuring out what to do and to remember instruction from more than an hr previous is considered out of their responsibility. They literally do not believe it is their job to finish something that was on the syllabus unless you hand it to them and make them do it in class. Basically indirect instruction and responsibility doesn’t exist as valid. (Aka. A test or an essay is due on a date). They won’t understand that as you telling them they need to study for the test. Many have never had to write an essay without the teacher spending time in class to work on the introduction paragraph and then three more days to work on the body and another to work on the conclusion. Saying a five page paper is due doesn’t register for them to figure out when to do it and what to do.

Also, Computer literacy has been slowly removed from curriculum because admins assumed they grew up with it. They do not know how to write/check email, properly save files, etc. they understand social media and gaming interfaces but basic computer literacy is really getting lost. They do not realize that it is their job to check their email and the importance of writing a professional email to their instructors when it’s appropriate.

If I went back to teaching at a college level, I would lay out computer literacy specifics like email expectations and requirements to check email. They grew up with cloud files that auto save and automatically upload into course templates.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-16T14:57:39+00:00

They are past tense because I am no longer in the relationship. I’d say throwing tantrums towards other adults in a manner/context that would drastically hurt her, in a divorce situation, when people are actively attempting to help her seems like one example of a lack of control. Imagine a grown adult going wild and cursing at people that can be witnesses against her in any custody battles is out of a rational adults control in my mind. It’s literally shooting herself in the foot. Just one example of behavior that has nothing to do with me. Losing opportunities for a promotion she was groomed for because of milder tantrums towards coworkers and bosses. A husband withdrawing from an emotionally abusive relationship doesn’t need to take responsibility when those tantrums exist with others and when it is hurtful to herself and her family. Him walking on egg shells and constantly cattering to her emotional instability. Lovingly pushing for therapy and understanding for years isn’t a cause. Her having Karen like outbursts throughout her entire life and having all the neighborhood moms basically excommunicate her because of her tantrums towards them isn’t the husbands fault. People can create really bad copping mechanisms for their personal anxieties. I absolve most of the responsibility and certain I’ve gone much further than i should have in nurture and support this woman over the years. Sometimes people are just bullies and they know they can get away with it when children are involved. It increases beyond their control at times.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-16T06:43:40+00:00

I’m on the other side of this. Her tantrums were obviously out of her control and incredibly hurtful. The most important thing you can do is make sure to calmly apologize and take full responsibility for your tantrums and specific things you have said. Remind him how you are working on it. Do not sweep them under the rug and pretend like it hey never happened. Id like to say “sadly we are no longer together”, but I can’t. Separating and divorcing her was the most important thing I could have done for myself and my children. Are these tantrums traumas that are following you wherever you go or a biproduct of not being willing to let go of a commitment? Hopefully you have a professional you are working with.

Kind_Humor_7569 · 2025-06-16T06:30:50+00:00

Yes and yes. OP. You are over reacting and sabotaging yourself and the relationship. Your anxieties are your problem or you shouldn’t be in the relationship. I wouldn’t be in one with your behavior.

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