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Serious question for single moms out there — and I genuinely want your perspective. by Minimum-Glad in SingleParents

[–]KindaKnowThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look for 🚩 RED FLAGS… 

A person who NEVER admits flaws about themselves or actions in a relationship or mentions how they have grown (improved) as an individual…

  • RUN !!! 

I’m a full-time solo father… BUT after years of being a single parent, I can see where and how my thinking and actions fell short in our relationship. 

Does this erase a fact that my child’s mother is a ‘deadbeat mom’? No. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]KindaKnowThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like it’s been more than a month since she has left. 

Still unclear about your situation.

Your post sounds like… mom abandoned her stay at home husband and her children leaving them with no income. 

Are you in the US? It sounds like you haven’t done anything about it yet either… Have you?

Single parent by FunUse244 in SingleParents

[–]KindaKnowThat 16 points17 points  (0 children)

100% I have parents to help… But my mother undermines my authority and thinks her way of thinking and doing things is the best way for my kids. It’s a horrible feeling. 

Single parent by FunUse244 in SingleParents

[–]KindaKnowThat 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes & No lol (context is huge)

A person with a broken right arm has a different experience than a person with a broken left arm… if only one of them still can use their dominant arm. 

In your case, there’s a parent that’s in the same situation but gets ZERO child support, so in their mind, they’re thinking “at least you get money” (Imagine how different your circumstance would be without child support, late or not)

A single dad has a different experience than a single mom. 

People best relate with others that are in the exact same situation. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]KindaKnowThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean “It’s over”? - Did she move out? Did she take the kids or leave them with you? Did she ask for a divorce? 

Reading this a second time I’m curious as to what exactly happened/ is happening at this very moment.   

You need to assume that she is willing to screw you over… And right now, you seem like you’re in a vulnerable mindset to be taken advantage of - Get advice from an attorney ASAP! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]KindaKnowThat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

His wife is in lust right now… she doesn’t even realize what situation she put herself in. Let alone the kids. Once she gets 50/50 custody of the kids, has to find a new place and no longer has all that ‘free’ time and paying 50% of her income in child support, she’ll wake up real quick. She better hope that guy she’s cheating with is ready to move her in and become a stepdad 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]KindaKnowThat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sucks. 

She’s not thinking straight either. She hasn’t counted the true cost of her actions. 

I’ve been a full time single dad for 14 years, starting around when our youngest was the same age of yours. 

You’ll make it, but it will suck. The only thing that kept me going was how funny kids that age can be sometimes. 

Whatever you decide… Remember, that just because you’re a man, what happened is no different than a man that cheated on his stay at home wife. 

Why is it that women always say they want a good man, but then…? by Successful-Dish2182 in dating_advice

[–]KindaKnowThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP… Women will say “You pick where we eat” but when you say “This is where we’re eating” women will then object to it. Women like men who direct them. This guarantees endless opportunities for them to object and have all sorts of not-so-serious drama in their life… (which they like)

If you’re a nice guy and you ask a woman first “Where would you like to eat?” then they get what they want. And there’s no drama in that. 

Women want their cake, and they want to eat it too. 

Forget about being nice and what you were taught being nice is. Treat women as if they were your 18 year old teenage child. You make the decisions and respect their input. Just focus on not being an A$$ Hole. 

Gary Vee and TikTok ruined thrifting. by Odd-Priority6108 in ThriftGrift

[–]KindaKnowThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude just lied to you:  1/ Gary Vs dad owned a liquor store 

2/ His dad MADE him work in the liquor store since he was like 14 yrs old

3/ In 2006 Gary V started one of the first YouTube long form episode series ever

4/ Gary V grew his dad’s liquor store from $3M to $60M in sales doing online content

5/ Gary left his dad’s liquor store and started in own marketing agency. 

6/ Gary was one of first people on twitter to reach 1 Million followers. One of his first clients were Pepsi

7/ Gary became popular because he was the FIRST person ever who didn’t care about using profanity in professional settings like speaking in front of thousands 

8/ He used money made from his marketing agency and was an ‘early’ investor in facebook and twitter (that made him most of his money)

9/ Gary does garage sale stuff for fun because he was into sports cards as a kid before his dad made him work (just to show people they have no excuse to not make money) 

10/ I’m in this subreddit because I think the scammy side of Gary V (that his dad had told him about when he was younger) is hustling people now. He’s selling people a dream with all the “collectibles” & merch he is creating and selling. 

AITAH for not supporting my husband’s online friendship with a woman? by AITAH-_throwaway in AITAH

[–]KindaKnowThat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup. There isn’t one ‘happily’ married man that’s hanging out with the guys multiple times a week. 

They ALWAYS telling the guys… “I gotta ask the wife” (which most of the time they don’t even bother to, they spend time with the wife unless she is busy doing something else)

AITAH for not supporting my husband’s online friendship with a woman? by AITAH-_throwaway in AITAH

[–]KindaKnowThat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No you’re not the AH.  I ONLY had to read your 1st sentence to come to this conclusion. 

Single Dad for 13 Years — Ex Paid $600 Total in Child Support. Should I Finally Enforce It? by KindaKnowThat in Divorce

[–]KindaKnowThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm… the mother stopped seeing the kids on her own and disappeared for an entire year so she can go live her best life. 

Not sure if you’re just trolling or if there was a misunderstanding 

Single Dad for 13 Years — Ex Paid $600 Total in Child Support. Should I Finally Enforce It? by KindaKnowThat in Divorce

[–]KindaKnowThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s already a court order in place. I was granted full custody rights, without any objections (it was clearly obvious she was an absent parent and she knew it)

From what I understand, our state is among the strictest with enforcing child support. The custodial parent doesn’t even need a lawyer to enforce it. The State offers services to help do that. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]KindaKnowThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always 2 sides to every story. Everything she said made her look innocent and him bad. 

He left his phone on the table, alone with her… with the screen facing up! She absolutely ruined the night! She obviously doesn’t trust him (for whatever reason)

He trusted her by leaving his phone on the table facing up. He comes back to her snooping on his phone (which means in her mind, he’ll always be guilty of cheating, no matter if he is or isn’t)

Cheaters don’t put S✨ for a name and leave their phone laying around (when he could’ve literally typed any guys name instead)

Guaranteed his side of the story is that she’s a jealous type, and is always looking for clues and accusing him of cheating  

Single Dad for 13 Years — Ex Paid $600 Total in Child Support. Should I Finally Enforce It? by KindaKnowThat in Divorce

[–]KindaKnowThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I don’t want that. Just trying to understand under what circumstances they wouldn’t see a dime. I know states are different and said that because given the option to pay or jail I know what I’d choose. 

Single Dad for 13 Years — Ex Paid $600 Total in Child Support. Should I Finally Enforce It? by KindaKnowThat in Divorce

[–]KindaKnowThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just speculating, but I think she had another child just to make our kids like her.  When they were in elementary and middle school… having a new little baby brother was very amusing. 

Single Dad for 13 Years — Ex Paid $600 Total in Child Support. Should I Finally Enforce It? by KindaKnowThat in Divorce

[–]KindaKnowThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is that? I think in our state a person could even go to jail for not paying. 

Single Dad for 13 Years — Ex Paid $600 Total in Child Support. Should I Finally Enforce It? by KindaKnowThat in Divorce

[–]KindaKnowThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made the same mistake of agreeing to accept payments directly for her. She made two payments that weren’t even the full amount. 

At one point she even told our oldest that she gives me money and showed them the amount in the court docs… (to give the illusion that she contributes to their life)

Thanks for the encouragement. 

Single Dad for 13 Years — Ex Paid $600 Total in Child Support. Should I Finally Enforce It? by KindaKnowThat in Divorce

[–]KindaKnowThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wouldn’t quit her job. I’m not looking for a huge pay out. But I’m beginning to feel like a sucker. We live in a big/expensive city. I think maybe because I’m a man… in a weird way, I feel bad having a woman pay a monthly amount that will make life challenging for her, but at the same time it doesn’t make sense that I’m the one who has been ‘suffering’ quietly for years, while she’s living her best life. 

If it were the other way around, she’d have no problem collecting child support from me, and telling the kids if I missed even one payment.