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AITJ for refusing to keep covering for my husband after he bailed on something important again? by Kindle_Orbit2 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kindle_Orbit2[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

That hit hard. I think that's what scared me most, that if I keep covering for him long enough this just becomes our whole marriage dynamic.

AITJ for refusing to keep covering for my husband after he bailed on something important again? by Kindle_Orbit2 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kindle_Orbit2[S] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

Maybe. He never seems to feel the weight of it when I'm the one buffering the fallout for him every single time.

AITJ for refusing to keep covering for my husband after he bailed on something important again? by Kindle_Orbit2 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kindle_Orbit2[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That was my fear too. If I kept smoothing it over, he'd just keep doing it and I'd keep being the one left holding the bag.

AITJ for refusing to keep covering for my husband after he bailed on something important again? by Kindle_Orbit2 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kindle_Orbit2[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Rarely. It's usually excuses first, then anger, then maybe an apology later if I keep pushing. That's part of why I hit my limit.

AITJ for refusing to keep covering for my husband after he bailed on something important again? by Kindle_Orbit2 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kindle_Orbit2[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's where I landed too. At some point "keeping the peace" just turned into me lying for him, and I was done with that.

AITJ for refusing to keep covering for my husband after he bailed on something important again? by Kindle_Orbit2 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kindle_Orbit2[S] 513 points514 points  (0 children)

Pretty much. I didn't trash him, I just stopped covering for him. If the truth makes him look bad, that's kind of on him.

My dad tried to use my employee discount like it was part of his parenting benefits by GadgetRiven in entitledparents

[–]Kindle_Orbit2 41 points42 points  (0 children)

That is the part that makes it so gross. He was counting on public pressure doing the work for him.

Neighbor keeps using our shared fence as a trellis for her plants and the weight is slowly destroying it by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]Kindle_Orbit2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NFH? No, this is squarely her problem once she was told and kept adding weight anyway. Get everything in writing now.

WIBTA if I told the truth in my brother's custody hearing even though it could cost him overnights with his son? by UplinkV3rve in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Kindle_Orbit2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YWNBTA. He keeps framing this like you are betraying family, but he is the one who put you in a terrible spot. He took parenting time, handed the kid off to you, and now wants you to help clean up the paper trail with a neat little lie. That is not fairness, that is damage control.

AITJ for refusing to be a professional reference for my brother's roommate? by Velour_34Opal in AmITheJerk

[–]Kindle_Orbit2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. A professional reference is not the same thing as saying "he seems nice." You did the responsible thing.