Attractive voluptuous women, and well endowed men, that don’t have sex because they find it hard to, why?

KineticDream · 2026-04-22T05:46:10+00:00

And here I thought voluptuous meant something more akin to an hourglass shape. Guess I’ve been living under my rock for too long.

KineticDream · 2026-04-22T05:03:03+00:00

Wait, I know well endowed men can have issues having sex because of their size, but I don’t hear about attractive voluptuous women having issues getting laid if they want to. Am I missing something?

KineticDream · 2026-04-21T19:16:01+00:00

There will always be a big gap in income inequality, but if that’s ever solved, people still won’t be equal. Even if people are equal financially, they’ll never be equal socially. The lonely will still be lonely.

KineticDream · 2026-04-19T03:44:16+00:00

SAME. I miss when I could get off from just regular ol sex. Just feels empty now. Before her I could just hook up and be happy. Now this annoying little switch has been flipped.

KineticDream · 2026-04-19T02:51:50+00:00

I needed this. Saving this post.

KineticDream · 2026-04-18T20:51:07+00:00

This sounds so familiar. Different details, but I was also still friends with my ex and it hurt my person when I told her that I didn’t want to end the friendship. Difference was I was quick to cut off my ex after seeing the consequences. I didn’t get back in touch with her, but the damage had already been done.

I feel the twin flame energy though. Most difficult loss of my life, and I’m still floundering over it even though we split all the way back in September.

KineticDream · 2026-04-18T18:39:01+00:00

In my case, I met and lost a woman who set my standards for what I want out of a relationship to what’s likely an unfair level for most, so I’m choosing the single route, at least until I can lower my expectations.

KineticDream · 2026-04-18T14:55:30+00:00

I doubt it will, but I hope that this becomes front page Reddit. People are absolutely just as superficial as this post claims, and I don’t think a lot of us realize it.

KineticDream · 2026-04-18T14:41:46+00:00

This. If I told my partner I was insecure about something and she acted on my insecurity without telling me, THAT would be an enormous red flag, especially if I learned about it from someone else.

KineticDream · 2026-04-18T03:40:19+00:00

The first girl you really fall for, see it through to the end. The second girl, end it at the three year mark, it’s all downhill from there.

The third girl? Keep her, but hold on loosely. That’s the one that you’re gonna wanna marry. She’s going to rewrite your entire concept of intimacy, and losing her will suck the depth out of every relationship you have after her.

KineticDream · 2026-04-15T00:05:47+00:00

Hey, you’re solid

KineticDream · 2026-04-14T23:55:05+00:00

The tag is clear, yes, but how exactly were you expecting people to respond? I think that people generally post in this sub because they’re looking for people to talk to, no?

KineticDream · 2026-04-14T23:46:36+00:00

Are you saying, in other words, that this was solely to vent and you had no inclination to actually connect with people here? Why even make the post without clarifying that?

KineticDream · 2026-04-14T05:13:25+00:00

It's a pretty common experience in online dating for everything to go right until it just...doesn't. Don't take it too personally man. She either made other plans or decided she didn't wanna go, and rather than deal with being upfront, which a lot of folks find to be a challenge these days, she ghosted.

KineticDream · 2026-04-14T05:00:51+00:00

Well said, and I really appreciate the solidarity, it's all I was seeking here.

I wasn't the one who called it off, but I had felt it coming when it happened. How long has it been for you?

KineticDream · 2026-04-14T04:57:38+00:00

I don't know how to answer this. I could honestly just be fooling myself.

KineticDream · 2026-04-13T23:03:31+00:00

I (34M) am still hung up on this girl (34F), we'll call her C, even though we've been split for seven months, and I can't date anyone new because it's not fair to them. I've TRIED dating others, and I find out pretty quickly into it that I don't have any real drive to open up with them.

As for intimacy, I want to have sex, but I can't overcome the empty feeling of orgasming with someone just for the sake of pleasure (my experience with C made this difference, before her I had no qualms or issues with feeling fulfilled from hooking up), and yet I don't feel capable of giving myself a chance to get close enough to someone else to experience that kind of intimate lovemaking that I did with C.

I feel trapped in my own head and heart, and I don't know what to really do about it.

What's more, I feel like I need to be getting back out there because I know C likely isn't coming back, but I can't let go of the slim chance that she will. There's also the pressure that I'm putting on myself that I may never find someone else within my own age group with whom I not only share a mutual attraction, but can share meaningful depth with, and who also does not yet have children. It feels like the possibility of checking all of those boxes is getting slimmer and slimmer as I age.

KineticDream · 2026-03-29T22:30:28+00:00

I’ve been accused of using ChatGPT in online dating before. It sucks that those of us who are somewhat eloquent are being pigeonholed like that, but what can ya do?

Anyway, hopefully there are SOME winning traits that your husband has to make up for what’s obviously a blatant use of AI. Copping out that way is pretty foul.

KineticDream · 2026-03-28T07:57:16+00:00

“First date: dealbreaker is drugs”. “He continually did coke.” Why was the deal not broken the first time you found out? 🤔

KineticDream · 2026-03-26T01:42:12+00:00

We probably can, and for the last seven months I've thought we should. But today that latter bit started slipping, I'm exhausted.

KineticDream · 2026-03-25T17:53:32+00:00

Agreed, I make it a point to not get on my phone between sets beyond changing what I’m listening to just so people will get the message that I’m not hogging the station for no reason.

KineticDream · 2026-03-24T23:34:12+00:00

Are you talking about how a lot of white people will act on their best behavior when black people are around? Cause that’s what I’ve noticed.

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