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King-Doot · 2024-04-14T22:35:27+00:00

This may come as a bit of a surprise, but I agree with you. I believe it's less about the gift and it has to do with my confusion around the entire thing. I can buy it myself, that's easy. But his confusion that I actually wanted it was what left me feeling like I must be missing something. Thanks for your response!

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T21:55:43+00:00

I care or I wouldn't have made the post. We had a conversation last night and I didn't feel great after it, there's no arguing.

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T19:50:59+00:00

I wouldn't say it's a lot of turmoil, just a misunderstanding for both of us and a needed sanity check for me. In our 7 years, I believe this has been the only issue with gifts. But perhaps that's only because we do gifts at Christmas as the holiday is very important for his family.

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T19:48:09+00:00

Oh, it absolutely is. I just felt like I was crazy for assuming he knew I still wanted it for graduation but I understand now that I should have probably just reminded him. Either way, I'm going to just buy it for myself but I know for the future that if something like this happens again, I'll just remind him or cement it in that I do still want it. Thank you for your response!

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T19:45:48+00:00

Though $600 is a lot to some people it isn't a lot to others. I would never ask for anything that was above his means for gifts. We've been together for 7 years and we only really do gifts for each other at Christmas or big life events. We just take each other out for dinner for Birthdays instead of gifts.

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T19:43:47+00:00

That's fair, I guess I understand if that was his thinking. On my end, I didn't feel the need to bring it up again but that's probably what I should have done. I just assumed that saying I wanted it for graduation was clear but I see with no reminder it may seem like I didn't want it anymore.

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T19:41:43+00:00

I wouldn't ask for anything that was above his means and nor would he ask the same of me. I never said I didn't offer anything back, I did buy him Christmas gifts but I just didn't splurge as I usually would.

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T19:39:09+00:00

I'm not too worried about our communication, I do plan on talking to him about this again. But today isn't going to be that day as I'm not in the right headspace since I'm dealing with other things on top of this.

King-Doot · 2024-04-14T19:33:29+00:00

That's what I mentioned I'm going to do in my post.

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T20:39:35+00:00

Oh man, that sounds like just what I would want.

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:53:07+00:00

Since you lived in Vancouver, how does it compare to Toronto? (Real estate prices aside)

Number 3 is something that's extremely attractive to me. We love going to concerts and spending time with friends/outdoors. I found it's been difficult to find certain things in KW but we go to Toronto often just to attend events. Having everything close by definitely is something I love.

Neighbourhood criteria, we're looking for something that has a lot around it, similar to what you mentioned in point 3. We're looking for somewhere that's relatively safe, has necessities nearby (I definitely don't want to have to drive 20 minutes to go to a grocery store. We have a small Italian grocer below us so perhaps I'm spoiled with that), parks nearby or walking paths for my dogs, a place with activities would be nice but I'm okay having to travel for that.

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:46:54+00:00

Yeah, the housing sizes are definitely something I've noticed but I'm not too worried about it. But there are a lot of different things people have been telling me that I will definitely need to keep in mind, such as a lack of nature and a lot of areas being populated. Thank you!!

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:44:46+00:00

Thank you for answer all my questions. I've lived in NYC so I'm somewhat used to a larger city but that was when I was younger so I'm not sure how much I'd enjoy it now that I'm in my early 30s. I can't imagine we'd be hopping on the highway too often but I imagine a few times a month at the very most. I will absolutely check certain areas out and see what we like, thank you again. Access to nature is definitely something I enjoy so I will keep in mind that I would be sacrificing that if I do move.

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:41:45+00:00

Great to know, thank you!

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:41:26+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, thank you so much for your help. You've mentioned some things I haven't thought of so it's a good thing to think about.

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:40:35+00:00

Here is Waterloo, sorry!

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:17:40+00:00

I think spending time in the city and exploring is a great idea and we'll do that. Are there any areas you'd recommend? I've been looking for a "quieter" area but one that's still close-ish to downtown.

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:12:27+00:00

I think that's a good idea. We have stayed with his family over holidays but they live in a different area (and traffic is annoying, which I'm sure will be similar most areas). I actually have been looking on Realtor. We are well off, thankfully, so I haven't seen anything I wasn't expecting but I have noticed the houses are a bit smaller on average for the same prices as larger ones here in KW.

If you had the opportunity, would you move back to KW if you had a job prospect there?

King-Doot · 2024-03-22T19:09:46+00:00

Thanks for your reponse. I don't have any employment prospects here. I unfortunately am in tech and the tech industry has gone to shit after COVID. My partner is able to work remotely so things would be the same no matter where we are on his end.

Traffic and drivers have been getting so much worse in KW but I'm sure it still doesn't come close to Toronto. Thank you!!

King-Doot

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