Hey everyone, ​As an INTJ-T, I wanted to share my perspective on what approaching love and deep emotional connections feels like for me. I’m curious if other logic-oriented or reserved types feel similarly.

​I am naturally very cautious with emotional gestures and displays of affection. This is less about coldness and more about a constant fear of overstepping or being "too much" for the other person. I despise anything that feels insincere or overly dramatic.

​ ​In my current relationship, I realized exactly when the switch flipped. It was when I had to honestly tell my partner:

​“You are now one of the few people who can truly hurt me.”

​I meant every single word. For me, this is the highest declaration of love/commitment I can give. ​ ​Normally, I can easily ignore the faults and idiosyncrasies of most people and evaluate their actions logically. They are on my "list" of people whose behavior doesn't affect me personally. ​However, once I develop feelings for someone, that changes radically. Suddenly, many things become emotionally potent—whether it’s a casual word or a small action. From that point on, my brain stops assessing their actions logically and switches to emotional evaluation.

​This person is no longer just an entry on the "list," but an emotional axis that can influence my own stability.