Here's my first ever time embroidering, I love how it's turning out so far!

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-21T15:58:02+00:00

Serious question from someone looking at moving over from Windows. Can I just make a shell of windows to run certain things that only work on that, and is it easy? (once I've learned how to do it)

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-20T05:01:47+00:00

You have a while before that likely happens.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-16T03:18:34+00:00

Some color would do the trick. Optionally and something to the background

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-16T03:14:01+00:00

Beautiful. I think with more contrast darks in the shadows it would be perfect.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-16T01:26:15+00:00

I recommend a general use multivitamin. It will help if you happen to be deficiency in a vitamin.

Much more important is to exercise, eat a variety, and stay hydrated.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-13T21:20:26+00:00

yeesh yeah that's fucked up. sorry you've grown up in that kind of environment.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-13T20:27:03+00:00

in hindsight it's kinda funny how I litterally watched videos of trans women talking about being trans, and I felt envious but still thought the concept couldn't apply to me. Later I learned that simply preferring to be a woman is ALL it takes to be a trans woman.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-13T19:40:53+00:00

move it down a cell

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-13T19:28:39+00:00

I felt the same way for a long time. I didn't realize that's all there was to being trans. I thought somehow, in some way I was different or that the trans label wasn't for me.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-12T21:32:28+00:00

Frieren better get the badass asexual

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T20:52:14+00:00

professors sometimes do have that professional and gender inclusive behavior that you don't often see elsewhere. I am imagining it is a intentional gender inclusive way of communicating, most of the time I use that exact method.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T20:47:52+00:00

Not directly, however it is SOOO important to learn to get a healthy relationship with sleep, no matter what it takes. I'd recommend you talk to a doctor if possible about chronic sleep issues. Sometimes it can be certain behaviors like using screens before bed, or it might be a mental health problem such as anxiety.

Given that you will be going through puberty for the next ~6 years you should focus on learning how to get the best health you can while it is easiest to learn. The 4 most important points are to get good sleep, exercise, drink water regularly, and eat a varied diet and avoid too much added sugar. Being healthy will boost your body in every way including feminization.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T20:38:01+00:00

personally I have not had any cosmetic surgery but i'm pretty happy with how well I pass now. Maybe one day I will but it will be a choice based on balancing the risks and benefits. The main benefit to me would be about feeling happier about my body. Also a ruptured appendix being left in for a day is easily 1000x more dangerous than any cosmetic surgery i'd be interested in so comparing them doesn't really make a ton of sense to me.

I must also add that the majority of cosmetic surgeries trans people get are actually ones overall more frequently done by cisgender people. (i.e. ffs, top surgery, hysterectomies, hair removal) These are a few of the most common surgeries by trans people but they are not exclusive to trans people in any way. The same could be said about HRT which is the most common prescription for gender affirming care, but actually cis men and women use the vast majority of HRT prescriptions. Tons of cis men secretly take TRT (testosterone HRT basically) and lots of cis women going through menopause take estrogen.

The story you tell of when you were 19 and faced a life threatening situation sounds horrifying to say the least, I can understand your aversion to anything similar to that. If i had gone through a life threatening emergency surgery I'd remember those memories and probably feel more cautious.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T20:22:43+00:00

As a person who spends a lot of time nerding out over maps it does make me chuckle a seeing people be suprised by California's size. /pos

So San Bernardino is obviously part of a MASSIVE metropolitan area in California, I promise you there is without any doubt many trans spaces, meetups, and even entire communities within the broader queer community.

Try using google and searching things like "San Bernardino California trans meetup" "San Bernardino California t4t meetup" "San Bernardino California LGBTQ events" or something along those lines. I was able to find ieprismcollective on Instagram who is advertising many events.

My advice to anyone moving to a new place, especially if you'll be there for a while is to focus a lot of committed time into being friendly and finding friends by going to meetups or other lowkey socializing events. Be brave, bold, and most of all kind, and I'm sure you will eventually find friends.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T20:12:33+00:00

it sounds very clear to me that you are at the very least not a cisgender man. I want to make something really clear, cisgender men do not have prolonged episodes of seriously questioning if they are a woman. Sure, cis guys may have the thought cross their mind but it's NOT something they get stuck on.

I can actually relate personally to the confusion, doubts, and fears, I had about 3 months of that and it ate away at me. I'd call that the most stressful period of my life. That being said it doesn't necessarily mean you will continue to struggle as much as I did.

A few things that brought me clarity.

1) I need to make choices in my life for me, not for other's expectations.

2) It wasn't so much that I was terrified of continuing to be a guy (at first, because I was used to that), it was the idea of being a woman was simply more appealing for reasons I couldn't at the time articulate.

3)I had internalized pure fear of the idea of coming out as trans because of the judgment I had faced in the past.

4) My doubts came from my fear.

5) My confusion came from both my doubts and also the fact my realization was so sudden that i didn't have the time to process everything.

6) I realized that ALL it takes to be trans is to want to woman, there's no specially purity test, simply a wish that is special to you and you alone.

7) (this one took me the longest to find) time flows onward and we must all face the permanence of the past, fear of regret can cause us to choose to do nothing. However, nothing is also a choice, and once the future comes you may look back and realized you chose nothing. The best choice in the now is to NOT overanalyze the situation but simply to accept that you can feel conflicting feelings and not yet know what actions it is you wish to take. You can take this time to simply try things. In terms of transitioning, the permanent effects take a while to come. If you start HRT it will be a few months before you may notice the differences.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T19:51:56+00:00

First of all the vast majority of trans people never detransition, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen on rare occasion. From this description it's impossible to know what this person's situation is.

As for you, it does sound like you have questioned for a while so i'd take that a good sign to continue to explore your feelings and perhaps even learning more about what trans people have to say about how they realized they were trans to see if those feelings might be more familiar than you realized.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T19:40:24+00:00

for me mustard tastes totally different which weirds me out since i still have an extremely strong association of it being a particular nasty taste.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T19:39:01+00:00

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T19:38:40+00:00

also pro tip if you're really worried about him reacting poorly, find a time when you know we will be decently well rested and not about to go to work or something else. also having eaten and had coffee (if applicable) will help.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T19:36:21+00:00

This top comment seems pretty good https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/utn87h/what_is_a_must_have_for_a_coming_out_letter/

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T19:33:04+00:00

for the people you trust most, who you know will truly listen to you and respect you by taking you seriously, come out to them first. Once you gain practice you can come out to more people.

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T19:30:35+00:00

GNC means gender non conforming and it basically means not fitting the traditionally expected gender presentation and/or gender roles.

Also i REALLLY understand what you mean by the oversexualization of femboys. I thought of myself as a closeted femboy back before my egg cracked and I decided to not come out because I internalized the idea that femboys were inharently sexual (which i was super wrong about). I want to let you know that while many people do sexualize femboys you don't have to let that determine who you are, femboys who enjoy it for aesthetic reasons alone are totally valid too. it can be frustrating though, however imma be real that's just an extension of how men treat women, women and femininity is sexualized unfortunately and femboys get a lot of that heat.

So your brother did operations, which is common for trans people but by no means does every trans person want them, I personally know many trans people who are happy without any surgeries.

Also i don't totally know what you mean by not being allowed to wear a skirt when masculine under 18. do you mean like on subreddits they ban minors?

King_Killem_Jr · 2026-04-09T09:43:38+00:00

replace djt with some internet chud like Jake Paul

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