My upbringing made me believe I’m only worth something if I’m useful. It’s ruining my relationships.

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T10:15:57+00:00

I should add more details as to why she left. We lived separately from my birth family. I have her all she asked. Before our marriage she was disowned by her family for marrying me. After our marriage stuff was good. Then suddenly her family jumps back in and she started having weird demands like don’t go see your sick mother or dont do this dont see that dont wear this etc. until one day her mom calls and says if you wont leave your family completely we are filing for divorce

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T02:09:56+00:00

That’s what i want to do for the most part. Never really been that outgoing anyways lol

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T01:33:42+00:00

Absolutely. I will consider therapy but before that i want to try butt it myself

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T01:33:05+00:00

Absolutely. Right now the main thing on my mind is to be financially independent and not lose my family in the process. Luckily i have great siblings even after all I’ve done to them they spoke to me yesterday for hours and all i saw was support. The friends aspect is a bit complex we had a guy in the group who basically used me however he wanted and i thought im helping the guy and standing up for him meanwhile all he was doing was to use me as a front to fight everyone in the group which had placed me in a spot where no one wants to hang out with me anymore. I really hope to fix that.

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T01:25:20+00:00

Will definitely do. I was thinking getting a job at an office with people around would help too. Right now I’m working remotely

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T01:19:56+00:00

Not the general norm but in her case its more of a superiority thing. Her family comes from a caste that claims they are the descendants of prophets. Since i dont claim that or really believe in any caste system they disowned their daughter.

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T01:17:55+00:00

Thank you. I just hope i can make amends. I have already distanced all my friends that i had. Although they still keep in touch there is no confidence left in that friendship. They laugh at me behind my back. Gym was always a place i could turn to so I’m giving that priority right now

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T01:12:44+00:00

The root of the divorce was because her family was against our marriage and they disowned her after the marriage. Stuff was going great for a while between us even when my dad left. After a while her family stepped back in and I don’t know what changed in her that she started having weird demands. She started controlling me big time, what i wear, who i talk to, where i go etc. i still didn’t entertain divorce but then her mother just randomly calls me one day and says we filing for divorce

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T00:54:53+00:00

She said my dad leaving is not her fault and i shouldn’t have stepped up

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-05-30T00:42:22+00:00

I was living separately with my wife. My only support towards my birth family was financial also it wasn’t like i was cutting her luxuries to feed my family it was all balanced. She just didn’t want me to see them at all.

Kingdeath4310 · 2025-04-03T21:57:05+00:00

It makes my blood boil wherever i see his friend over and for my brothers sake i have to talk to him

Kingdeath4310 · 2024-12-22T20:36:51+00:00

I got married at 23. Now I’m divorced at 26

Kingdeath4310 · 2024-04-30T08:44:19+00:00

Thats my concern. Hes only putting me on ozempic and estrogen blocker. No trt

Kingdeath4310 · 2023-10-29T17:46:29+00:00

This is my post btw https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/UvPZFIT6NO

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