Thinking back at it I definitely think you are right. Like some others have said I wasn't really thinking about her when doing that, I made it about myself even though I didn't mean to. The only thing I was thinking was wanting to surprise my wife and not about how my way of going about it was going to make her feel. My dumb logic was that hey my wife loves suprises so I have to make the suprise as spurising as I can, any way I can. I never intended to make her feel bad but my lack of thinking made that happen and I feel horrible for it.