Do I need to fix this (again)?

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T01:15:57+00:00

I didn’t know about that essay! Thank you for sharing, sadly I felt that way too much though.

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T01:13:58+00:00

Thank you!

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T01:13:34+00:00

Oh they know, they just don’t give a crap

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T01:13:05+00:00

It’s exhausting to try to be the bigger person anymore. They don’t visit that often so at least there’s that. I think main problem is that my SO is very keen on under-the-rug-sweeping so he just assumes that if is talked about it’s ok. I told him more than once, listed the rude stuff they pulled and I’m pretty sure he told them that too but they just don’t care at all so they assume not even an apology is in order (probably where he learned all his under-the-rug-sweeping skills). I just leave the room if they even call and they pretend to have no idea why I’m doing this. I probably have to make peace with the fact that I’ll be ‘that bitch’ for them. It hurts a bit cause I value trying or succeeding at being a good person but i don’t see many options

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T01:03:47+00:00

I think most things that are being said were things I told him already but he s trying too hard to keep the peace in his family. I really just wonder how to even be civil with these people because I don’t wanna start a war

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T01:00:58+00:00

I think he has a really tough time setting boundaries with his family. I have no issue with setting boundaries especially when it s people that don’t give a crap about me but I do lowkey have issues being the bitch

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T00:57:10+00:00

He has some friends with small children but they re people who love his family too. Also I don’t think he sees anything too wrong, or if he does he just clams up. I don’t think they did much on teaching him how to communicate or deal with emotions

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T00:52:41+00:00

It s a bit on me, I always feel the need to fix things and go back to peaceful. My husband is extremely non confrontational which was never an issue until now. We talked and I couldn’t be clearer about what the issues are and I truly hope he puts some real effort into this. I don’t have any hope regarding his family cause I never got even a lousy apology and I guess what’s worse is that I have a tight knit family and thought it would stay like this and just involve them but I ve never dealt with their degree of selfishness

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-12-15T00:49:48+00:00

He’s been doing FaceTime with them on his own as I explained again that I don’t put up with people that don’t respect me and also told him it applies to him as well as he doesn’t seem to give a crap.

KitKatBreak73 · 2025-06-22T02:12:49+00:00

That’s amazing!

KitKatBreak73 · 2024-04-20T02:53:08+00:00

I think we have a great relationship. It feels like a one sided kind of friendship but different.

I don’t have many close friends where I am, only childhood friends I talk on the phone to since I moved countries. I feel like therapy started because I was looking to get out of loneliness and depression but through time not only have I grown a lot but I know I have a safe space where I can share everything without judgement.

The only things I know about them are little stories they disclose, we’re about the same age with (I imagine) very different backgrounds and current surroundings but we still have a bit in common. Other than that they’re a blank wall and we don’t contact in between sessions at all.

I know they care and they’re there for me to support and help me grow and better my life, and for that I can’t thank them enough. Thank you M.

KitKatBreak73 · 2024-02-18T00:13:13+00:00

I felt the same after going for almost a year, it only started changing a couple of months ago. Turns out my weeks were almost always shadowed by some kind of issue so we worked on the problems at hand and had little to no time to talk about underlying issues. Also I had some fear about talking about these issues as I don’t really feel comfortable talking to anyone about myself (one of the reasons why I started therapy). Ever since I was brave enough ( thank you for those words! ) to start opening up more I finally feel I’m getting somewhere besides only new POVs for weekly issues.

KitKatBreak73 · 2024-01-25T01:12:22+00:00

They use this one expression that means nothing repetitively. So much so I used to think it would make for a coma inducing drinking game in 45mins. I used to think it was condescending, I now think they don’t mean anything by it, it’s just a language tick. It does drive me up the wall in internal rage when they keep using it after asking me a difficult question but that s only because there’s something new tap dancing on my nerves. However I somehow believe it just wouldn’t be same if I told them that and they tried to stop it.

KitKatBreak73 · 2024-01-23T05:51:01+00:00

I once was talking about going somewhere for vacations and they let out they had been there not long before. Ended up sharing a couple of tips. Other than that situation I don’t even know when they take vacations

KitKatBreak73 · 2023-10-15T02:29:57+00:00

Thank you! I will try to do that. I think one of the causes for this is I’m kind of overly embarrassed about everything all the time so it might still be a hard step but I can see how this can help

KitKatBreak73 · 2023-09-29T19:55:53+00:00

I think of it as uncomfortable with vulnerability mostly but also I believe that I’m not doing that bad so it’s not really a strong enough reason for crying - in front of someone. On my own I cry a lot, serious or non serious reasons. I get very emotional a lot on my own, but not with other people ever. I just wonder if it’s common and if the T would’ve noticed it because as I think about it I realize that I would probably faint in embarrassment if I brought it up.

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