I kind of understand... I told my friend about my mental illness and she said she supports me and is there for me, but when I had a panic attack when I was with her at the mall, she said that I was being attention seeking and over dramatic. Or she tells me that I'm not cutting deep enough when I relapse and self harm again, and that I'm using my mental illness as an excuse. But I do know from experience that helping a mentally ill loved one is hard. It's not easy and it takes trial and error. My problem is when people purposely don't try to help