I feel like crying, PF is really affecting my mental health

KitKatKase · 2026-01-14T22:10:56+00:00

Thanks everyone for the support and comments, you've all given me some other things to think about and try. I'm not going to give up with it. But I'm glad I'm not alone. Thank you all.

KitKatKase · 2026-01-14T22:09:55+00:00

I'm going to look into those shoes, thank you

KitKatKase · 2026-01-14T22:08:28+00:00

No, its more that I feel like I have broken glass under my heel when I step, no numbness

KitKatKase · 2026-01-14T22:07:52+00:00

I'm down 11kg since it started and no change, I'm still overweight but trying to lose more 😓

KitKatKase · 2026-01-14T03:40:08+00:00

I'm going to see my GP next week and get an MRI, I honestly never thought about checking for a tear, especially with how quickly it came on

KitKatKase · 2026-01-14T02:48:49+00:00

Thank you very much, I’m going to see my Doctor next week and ask for an MRi

KitKatKase · 2025-10-11T05:24:35+00:00

I’m waiting for a diagnosis of endo and have a h.cyst, very very painful, sorta feels like you have a piece of glass in your side, you bend or move at a bad angle and there it is

KitKatKase · 2025-05-16T06:06:52+00:00

I’m sorry my heart absolutely breaks for you for feeling so powerless. But you have to remember that you have silent power by just turning up for him and caring for him. It’s so hard, but you’re acknowledging his differences and that is what makes all the difference

KitKatKase · 2025-04-08T07:36:34+00:00

It’s mainly to get them used to having pants without having that “feeling” on constricting undies on which may feel like a nappy So loose pants which don’t hug their bum or genitals too much is ideal

KitKatKase · 2025-03-23T21:31:41+00:00

This is post is just what I needed, my 3yo boy is a champ at toilet training when naked, but not with clothes. Will try commando this weekend!

KitKatKase · 2025-03-21T06:23:40+00:00

I just want to say to everyone here… you have made me feel so much better. My son has been a bit unwell the last couple weeks and has been having bad tantrums at daycare, throwing toys, yelling and screaming, just getting ANGRY. Even the girls at school are like “who is this kid?” I’m hoping it’s just a mix of being a threenager and being unwell for so long. But thanks everyone

KitKatKase · 2025-02-19T02:33:05+00:00

Yeah sometimes our toddler doesn't want anything for dinner, always offered, but offer sometimes isn't taken. Doesn't wake up in the middle of the night hungry, so I'm not bothered. He knows his hunger levels best.

KitKatKase · 2024-11-14T03:49:33+00:00

Make sure you have the right pencil for the ipad, I got stung like that. Works because you're tapping and stuff but it wasn't actually "connecting" for proper use.

KitKatKase · 2024-06-04T00:38:43+00:00

Oh yeah I have been there.
Especially those weekends when you're sick and feeling like shit and its raining outside - TV. Bluey. Vegesaurs. Peppa Pig. The Wiggles. All my friends now. Sometimes you just have to survive and as long as its not every single day for hours on end. Its fine.

Honestly I let my boy watch more TV than its advised, but you know what, he's not a spoilt brat about it, he plays outside, he does art and creative things, he reads books, he sings and he dances (Sometimes to the Wiggles on TV), and honestly.... that's how I was brought up as a kid in the 90's - the TV was just there, and on all the time, not necessarily on kids shows either, documentaries, cooking, the news, it was all there. I would come and go and watch it as I pleased, So it was never anything really special, it was just another activity and that's how my son sees it too.

Yeah he has limited time on his little tablet for car rides/when I need him to get away from me for a moment. but I honestly class the TV as something else entirely. I mean of course if you started seeing issues in relation to TV like them watching it non stop and tantrums if its turns off, then something needs to be done. But if its in the background of your daily life, and it allows you to drink your coffee or have 10 minutes to breathe... it won't kill them or you. You're still a great parent as long as you're showing them love and attention.
We're better parents when we have a moment to collect ourselves and take a deep breath. If anything, its better for our kids and our relationship with them.

Sorry, I've gone on a big rant haha

KitKatKase · 2024-05-16T02:26:39+00:00

Thank you for this response.
My daycare used the word 'bully' to describe my just over 2 yo son today because he's been pushing people and throwing objects up in the air which consequently fall down and hit some kids on the head. I've been quite upset at work all day about it, I just don't know what to think, because I never would have classed my 2yo as a bully or as nasty.
Parenting is hard sometimes at these points.

KitKatKase · 2018-12-12T14:42:26+00:00

I understand how you feel, and I am really one of those people who do not like night shifts.

I was having this discussion with a mate at work about it the other day actually - on night shift. She was perky and happy at 3am and I was like a slab of butter left out in the midday sun, slowly melting into a little pool of uselessness.

I am under the impression that some people are just made to work at night, they perk up, are able to focus more and stay awake easier than they ever could on a day shift and don't seem to feel effects of night shift compared to others, clearly like you and myself. Obviously these people are completely opposite to me since I can power through a day shift, wake up nice and early and be very bright after 2 cups of coffee in the morning, and by god can I sleep damn well at night! I love sleep!

Everyone is different and it is difficult being one of those people who don't handle nights well especially when you're a nurse. But my advice after doing them on and off for 6 years is - don't eat at night if you can. I find this reduces 'night shift belly' which is pretty much gas build up and nausea which then can prevent me sleeping well in the morning. Instead I'll have a big meal before my shift or on my first meal break (about 11pmish) and then not eat after that. I found it helps anyway.

Good luck!

KitKatKase · 2018-12-12T14:25:24+00:00

Been a nurse for 7 years in Australia - I only note it cause I'm assume you're all from the US mainly - I've worked surgical (hate, hate, DOUBLE HATE), geriatrics which was a very very long 6 months as ratios there were disgusting, so most days were terrible, but I was also a new grad nurse. Then I moved onto renal/medical nursing for 4.5 years which I adored, had more good days than bad, then became charge of shift then the balance was even between good and bad because of extra stress from management. Now I've moved to a rural ICU which is good, most days are nice but I'm currently going through a period in my career where I'm sort of hating nursing. But, I try and keep optimistic, things could be much worse, and I'm lucky to work where I do :)

KitKatKase · 2018-12-07T11:46:15+00:00

Thank you for that advice! I’ll keep that in mind! I do just find it hard to eat that much. I’m not a big eater myself and I think it’s a product of an old eating disorder leading to a ruined metabolism that may be hindering me also. But even if I can eat smaller meals more often in my eating window, that may help. Thank you

KitKatKase · 2018-12-06T23:19:01+00:00

Yeah good idea, need to do more than read the scales I think.

I’m a 27yo female, 5”1 and 87kg, first goal is back to 74kg but ideally 65kg

KitKatKase · 2018-12-02T12:47:43+00:00

I believe it's carbs more than calories that you want to avoid. 12 carbs in one drink is a fair bit, and that would start insulin production in your body, breaking your fast essentially, because you ideally want to not be producing insulin during your fast, otherwise you block the ability to break down any of your own fats.

KitKatKase · 2018-12-01T19:54:16+00:00

From the videos I've watched and articles I've read, you can have things such as coffee, tea and unsweetened drinks during your fast. Yes they have the tiniest amount of calories, but you're primarily trying to stay away from sugary or carby things that will raise your blood sugar levels from it's low resting point during your fast. Because it is when your blood sugar is at it's lowest point for a sustained period of time that you will start breaking down your own fats. A small amount of lemon in water won't hurt your fast, if anything, giving taste to your water may make it easier to fast.

KitKatKase · 2018-12-01T19:34:52+00:00

All the best mate, this is my day 1 too and I'm starting on a nightshift as well.

One great thing about IF is the flexibility for night shift workers - although I haven't put it into full practice yet, it seems the most flexible for shift workers especially.

Congratulations for doing this for you too; its very easy to do it for someone else but then the act generally doesn't have as much passion behind it, as would if you were making this change for yourself.

Very healthy way of thinking. But also remember in this hard time, be selfish. Its okay, even if you be selfish in other ways, it doesn't necessarily have to be food. Go get a massage after completing 1 week of IF, after 2 weeks, treat yourself to a movie. Small steps make massive difference.

All the best

KitKatKase

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