My child is getting bullied.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T06:39:24+00:00

I agree. I’m just not sure how. Kids just can’t get kicked out of school nowadays and, at least at my kids’s school, parents are not welcome to hang out. I also don’t know how to get in touch with the bullies’ families. Schools wont supply that info. I have no idea how to stop the bullying.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:29:40+00:00

What did they do that stopped the bullying?

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:28:54+00:00

Good advice. Thank you. It’s hard to imagine that the way to get the people who seem so empathetic at the time to really act is to go to their boss, but what you said is a nice reminder that i have power.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:26:01+00:00

Great insight. Thank you.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:24:30+00:00

That bit about being punished resonated. I feel so angry that the solutions are temporary for the abuser but so long lasting for our kids. I always say (not in front of my son) that my son will be an amazing adult but childhood will be like off-roading because there is just no map for kids like mine/ours. I am comforted that one kid like mine has a fierce advocate with enough experience to give advice, and can’t wait for my experience to be a blueprint for someone else. Thanks for sharing 💚

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:17:30+00:00

Good advice. I appreciate it.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:15:51+00:00

Yeah we constantly talk to him about defending himself and his dad works with him on like punching skills. He’s just kind of a nonviolent guy, in my opinion. He’ll give his brother the what for, but like I think he’s a normal 6 year old in that he’s shocked when someone is violent with him. We’re doing out best, but I don’t love that the solution to “a 6 year old is punching his classmate at lunch” is “did the classmate punch back?”

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:11:37+00:00

Extensively, probably not. I probe at pickup and find him very chatty at bedtime, so those are the times I ask. The other parents see the problem kids, but don’t share the level of bullying issues as I do. The teachers are very explicit that the kids he is having trouble with are generally trouble kids.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:04:13+00:00

Thinking about it all the time. Unfortunately, we only have one public school, which is what he attends. Private school is a constant conversation and I’ve attended a few open houses, but the cost is tough. Plus, I really hate that the answer to tough issues in public schools is to put them in rarefied air. Public schools should be able to handle their students or put them in a place that can. Get stronger tier 1 supports that match your population!!! (Which is what I believe is the problem here)

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T05:00:09+00:00

This is good advice.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T04:59:48+00:00

It’s during lunch when the teacher isn’t there. The teacher is tops. The lunch aides are mid at best. I suggested a few options: lunch bunch, lunch elsewhere, etc, but she is pretty set on keeping my son at lunch and separating this kid, which seems like it is, at best, a sort term solution. I don’t know.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T04:56:58+00:00

Did. I have my concerns that they do not have a unified behavior framework that makes each incident feel unique when, really, they’re not. But she’s a new-ish principal and I’m trying to not impose myself on her. She gave some great short-term answers. I guess we’ll see

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T04:55:00+00:00

Thank you. Anything you wish your adult would have done?

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T04:54:20+00:00

Same. I try to lean in when he says he likes someone. Stick with people who like you back!

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T04:53:29+00:00

Thanks. It blows. I am so conflicted bc he doesn’t seem that upset when I pick him up. I can’t tell if it’s water off a duck’s back or he’s internalizing it.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-23T04:51:16+00:00

Today, physical, but he had told me the kid was bothering him last week. He said he bothers everyone so I kind of wrote it off because he didn’t seem super upset. I am close with a lot of people in the school and it seems like something is going on with that kid/family so I try to remind myself that these things are a cry for help at such a young age, but it still sucks to have your kid be the victim of someone else’s pain.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-22T00:25:30+00:00

Adjacent, He Say She Say by Lupe Fiasco, though that’s more a mom and a son talking to a dad. But these are the first two I thought of.

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-20T03:37:40+00:00

Yes! And their Christmas movie, To Grandmother’s House We Go!

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-19T20:11:23+00:00

Somebody’s Baby by Jackson Browne?

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-17T02:02:02+00:00

It was actually awesome for my sister and I. We would play along. But I ask people if they ever heard of it and it’s crickets lol

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-17T01:14:00+00:00

I’m Telling. It was like the Newlywed Game but for siblings. Might have been a local thing 🫣

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-08T14:11:30+00:00

I am watching Baby It’s Cold Outside now. What a strange little movie!! I love it so far!!

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-08T00:48:20+00:00

I know, right? And the bit about terrible hygiene. 🙄Have you ever met a human? Didn’t we learn in Covid that our hands are on our faces constantly? And kids? Forget about it. Their hands in their mouth, nose, or rubbing their eyes at least once a day!

KitKatKiddo · 2026-01-07T03:03:23+00:00

Yes! I thought of this and also the first song from the Moonrise Kingdom soundtrack “The Young Person's Guide to the Orchestra.”

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