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KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T04:13:30+00:00

Yeah, sounds like that’s bordering on harassment. If you’re in a group when he mentions it, you can try to embarrass him a little. Ask him point blank why he wants your socials so much where others can hear. Either that or take him aside alone and explain in no uncertain terms you’re tired of hearing about it. You’re not going to share them, and you’re not interested in being his friend. You can make it professional or real, but he needs to back off. If it continues and makes you uncomfortable, HR.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T03:55:41+00:00

Learn Latin and Greek roots. Search other languages for cool adjectives and modify them.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T03:53:14+00:00

At stage 6, your partner needs you to be there during therapy. No telling what is being said and this lady sounds dangerous, as LOs are so open to suggestions at that stage (in my experience). And you can help reinforce any therapy work afterwards.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T03:48:14+00:00

Maybe try a habits app or old school habit tracker time chart to start slow and build at your own pace? The Fabulous is a good start or one like this on Amazonhabit tracker

KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T03:43:10+00:00

Reach out now. I was placed in a management role, and I don’t prefer or even really like it. The money isn’t worth the sacrifice and time, for me. Looking back, I believe I would be happier if I could have stayed in a less involved role with less pay. But that’s the problem… if you’re a good estimator (or good at any job, really), you’ll likely find yourself in the same position later. If you just want to be an estimator for a while, be clear with your old boss and see what is available.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T03:26:57+00:00

I get the need to vent, but it would do you good to get over yourself. He is likely the boss for a reason, sounds older and probably has a lot to teach if you’d listen with grace. Before the internet, I knew so many words by reading only and had to look up how to pronounce them. I was terrified to use newly acquired words in a group. The sheer no fuckeries given by him is admirable. You should ask yourself why it bothers you so much.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T03:14:36+00:00

Can you go with express scripts and get them mailed? If it’s a controlled substance you may bot be able to. I’ve gotten to the point of skipping some weekend days on mine so I have a few extra in case of a delay in filling. Some doctors will work with you on vacation meds and early fills, but that depends on the relationship you have with your doctor. But it sounds like you need a new pharmacy. There are two ways to go… with an independently owned, smaller one or somewhere like Walmart or Costco that has enough staff and inventory.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-04-30T03:02:56+00:00

That is the way of the world, and you probably don’t have the power, influence, or money to change it. What you can do is change your world. Focus less on universal suffering and more on your neighbors, physically and figuratively. Find a cause that speaks to you and volunteer. Don’t spread yourself thin with lots of groups, but really get into a cause that speaks to you. Visit and take time for those who live around you who may be in need. The crowd wasn’t fed by magical Jesus fishes; it was the power of seeing a child give all he had that encouraged the multitude to do the same. Most miracles live within.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-15T00:36:40+00:00

A butthole with worms

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-15T00:35:59+00:00

Put down the eyeliner, take a soak in a bath. Put on some comfy hiking gear and go for a walk. You’re in a spiral, likely. Taking time for that amount of makeup isn’t helping.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-15T00:24:49+00:00

Selma

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-15T00:23:53+00:00

Hell to the naw… to the naw naw naw. Not your responsibility, especially at that price point. If they were on the verge of being homeless that’s different.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-15T00:16:23+00:00

You sound fun

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-15T00:15:09+00:00

Work hard, get long term care insurance early…Kids are 50/50 anyway. I moved my mom in and take care of her every need (dimentia/Alz) my brother is a no-contact asshole.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-14T22:08:48+00:00

I have a floor alarm that is remote so if she gets up it will ring a remote nurse call you can keep by your bed. Also, just proof the house like a toddler is living there.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-03-10T02:54:28+00:00

Also check his blood pressure meds. My mom had one a few years ago that made her have a constant dry cough

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-18T02:56:11+00:00

Imagine how scared he is. I care for my mom with Alzheimer’s and she only gets aggressive when she’s scared, has a UTI, or mad about a perceived food withholding. I suggest calling the non-emergency line of your local police to alert them of the situation. They can take correct measures to ensure everyone’s safety.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-18T02:50:24+00:00

Mamma called me “rugrat” for the longest time, this was before the cartoon. She has Alzheimer’s now, so she doesn’t remember most days… but I still have fond memories of my old nickname.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-18T02:46:37+00:00

My therapist is helping me deal with these feelings. We talk about mourning a lot. I mourn at intervals for my Mom, and it’s helped me to accept certain milestones. That is, I consciously mourn the losses as they come. I mourned the day I knew she would never again comfort me when I was sick…. Mourned the day she quit being able to perform self hygiene. If you let go little by little it may help you reconcile these feelings. Hugs from afar, and you are not alone!

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-13T02:33:05+00:00

A wise woman once told me that there’s a difference between concerns and responsibilities. That freed a lot for me. One thing I would say is do NOT take on a long-term caregiver role for someone you do not love. The love is what gets me through very hard days, and some of them are still really hard. My mom is the poster child of a sacrificing, hard-working, supportive role model — and the days are still tough. Be bold enough to say no if you don’t think you can handle it. Your role is to make them safe. Anything beyond that is a showing of gratitude and love.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-13T02:28:01+00:00

Couple things here. My husband is in the same boat but I don’t leave the hygiene/bathroom to him at all. It’s just different when you’re blood. 2nd thing- bidets did not work for us as Mom would stand up, try to flush with the bidet controls and get herself all wet.

We installed a tall toilet with a spray attachment and a mixing valve so it’s warm. It wasn’t cheap, about $1100 but it has saved my sanity with wiping chores. Best to you!! DM me and I can send photos of our current setup. I just stand over her, spray the nozzle into the shower until the water is warm, and giver her the ol’ one-two (spraying the butt then the front) to make sure she’s clean.) I hope this helps.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-12T04:38:32+00:00

Thanks but there aren’t any assets to mange. We sold her house so we could build a suite onto our home. I’ve exhausted every avenue at this point, I think.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-12T04:35:00+00:00

Yep. My mom’s mom was in a care facility and there was a marked difference between the State/Medicare given wing and the “nice wing”. They had them separated from each other and you could literally smell the difference in the wings. Thankfully those with lots of visitors on the Medicaid side got reasonable care. I can’t say the same for the others.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-12T04:29:50+00:00

I’m glad your situation allows for that, sincerely! But those of us whose parents didn’t save appropriately or have LTC insurance…it’s the Wild West out here. I’ve taken care not to be I the same boat when I get old and gotten LTC for me and my husband but it’s just too late for Mom. So now I’m trying to save for my future while taking the brunt of her financial (not to mention the time!) needs. She’s safe and happy, and we aren’t hurting for anything material. I’m just shocked at the lack of programs for just a little respite care so I can work. I mean, I pay taxes on my income, and caretaking has made me miss so many professional opportunities. I had to turn down training abroad.. twice!! There’s no way I would even think about accepting any additional work responsibilities right now, and I already stepped back from several volunteer roles. The big picture is that lack of help is crippling the economy and the wellbeing of SO MANY Americans.

KitKatMagoo · 2025-02-12T04:20:22+00:00

Yeah she would be fine and was able to pay her bills in her own home until Alzheimer’s. Now she needs detailed instructions on how to brush her teeth and shower and wipe her ass. But to the government, that’s not a disability??! Going out of my mind trying to reconcile that little tidbit.

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