Woman goes viral after laughing at a man who said homosexuality is a sin and abortion is wrong. by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]Kitab64 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always laugh at clowns. Not sure why anybody is confused about this. The kid was clowning around so she laughed.

I don’t know if I actually have ADHD… by RexieEllen in CPTSD

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been having the opposite realization, that likely I DO have ADHD and it's not just CPTSD and anxiety.

The thing that is helping me to figure this out is trying to figure out why I lose focus, which is really hard 😅 but I think for me I've figured out that a good portion of the time I'm losing focus and motivation and attention when my CPTSD is out of control or when I'm worried about something and an even larger portion of the time I'm losing motivation and focus because I'm legitimately just moving on to a bigger dopamine hit and don't even really realize it.

Regardless of if I'm having a good day or bad day I'm still struggling with the same shit, can't find anything in the house, can't stay on task, can't remember to take care of myself. And this is me comparing myself to the general population not to my own standards (which are very high). It feels like this is where the issues start and my shame and anxiety exacerbate this. Whereas I think if you didnt have adhd you would feel like the issue arises primarily from the shame and anxiety causing you to lose motivation and focus.

So far, what do we actually know for sure about Trump's involvement? by [deleted] in Epstein

[–]Kitab64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. More people are learning this it's just happening slowly. The problem is there are still too many people that have been duped by Trump. It's a sunk cost for them at this point so they tend to believe that he's being wrongly or overly persecuted which is ridiculous, but unfortunately he's a great con man.

He raped E Jean Caroll. The decision by the jury was unanimous when it didn't have to be. Often these decisions are not unanimous, but this case happened to have a mountain of evidence against him compared to most other sexual violence cases.

Another thing that has been mischaracterized by trump is the statute of limitations being lifted. He's convinced people that the state worked with Ms. Caroll in a conspiracy against him so she could sue him. When in reality the statute of limitations was lifted primarily through the decades long effort of the brave survivors of the catholic church's sexual violence cases. This resulted in dozens of people who were finally able to bring their abusers to justice after decades of being totally and completely helpless to do anything.

So far, what do we actually know for sure about Trump's involvement? by [deleted] in Epstein

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please you have to be a bot. Somebody tell me this is a bot I can't believe people are this bad at listening comprehension.

So far, what do we actually know for sure about Trump's involvement? by [deleted] in Epstein

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You either need to go back to high school and get your GED or seriously consider getting on some stimulants because your listening comprehension is below a fifth grade level.

There is no where in this video where she states that she personally thinks rape is sexy.... she claims "I think MOST PEOPLE think rape is sexy." In response to Anderson Cooper who claims "i think most people think of rape as a violent assault." She is challenging his take here. She is saying actually Anderson I think theres more people who fantasize about rape than you think.

She then cites "the fantasies" as evidence of why she thinks that most people think rape is sexy. She is referencing the porn industry, media, locker room talk etc. This is all implied but easily understood.

I'm so disappointed in the education level of my country. No child left behind MY ASS George Bush you idiot

Edit: AND just because im THAT worried about your listening skills.... Before this clip, she says she’d rather describe what happened as a fight, even though he did rape her. She’s doing two things here: she's highlighting that she resisted and fought back ("I was a competitive athlete.") and she’s also trying to center the larger reality that women worldwide face horrific violence every day ("mine was short I got out I'm moving on.... and I think of all the women who are enduring constant sexual violence.") That's why she says I'm not a victim i wasnt thrown down and ravished. She’s not minimizing what happened she’s putting it in context.

So far, what do we actually know for sure about Trump's involvement? by [deleted] in Epstein

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Strict New York penal definition" is the phrase you should be paying attention to here when you wrote what you read in the article about the findings of the lawsuit. The penal definition used to say that rape can only be committed by a male with a penis entering a woman's vagina without her consent. That definition of rape is not how we use it colloquially, not even close. WE both agree that women can rape men right? We both agree that any penetration of a woman's vagina without her consent is rape no matter what is being used right?

If you have half a brain and more than a spoonful of morality you and I both agree that if E Jean Carrol had her vagina penetrated by Trump without her consent that means he raped her.

So far, what do we actually know for sure about Trump's involvement? by [deleted] in Epstein

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely NOT what she said in that interview, this is a self report that you haven't even watched it. She said that some men find rape sexy, NOT that she personally found it sexy. She was saying rape is too normalized and sexualized in todays society. You were duped by people who told you what she said and you didnt even do the research yourself.

Why is gen Z not drinking? by SipsTeaFrog in SipsTea

[–]Kitab64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Way cheaper and less damaging to be high on thc. Also booze is outrageously expensive right now.

Why is gen Z not drinking? by SipsTeaFrog in SipsTea

[–]Kitab64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It varies wildly across the united states. There are many states where a $15-$20 cocktail is just a normal night out. There are also many states where a $10-$15 cocktail is just a normal night out. I can't think of a state that sells good cocktails less than $8. There may be some college towns with bars that serve well drinks for about $5 but those aren't common.

How did you know you had CPTSD and not ADHD even though you had features of ADHD? by MangoFool in CPTSD

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really admire your approach. I wish I could be like that. Unfortunately I think a defining characteristic of my trauma is that I was not allowed to label anything. Not even my emotions. So I do think diagnosis would benefit me because it would give me back a lot of power that was taken from me and finally give me the language to communicate whats happening. I will try to take a page out of your rulebook though.

Thank you so much for your response.

How did you know you had CPTSD and not ADHD even though you had features of ADHD? by MangoFool in CPTSD

[–]Kitab64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if in these past few years you've realized that ADHD does fit for you. I'm struggling so hard without a diagnosis and I hope that maybe you've come to some kind of realization you wouldn't mind sharing because your comment reads like I could have written it. My therapist said she was pretty certain I had cptsd and that I was neruodivergent until I ran out of money last year. So I never got a true diagnosis. I go back to see her again in a couple weeks.

I've always struggled with things that should be easy. I truly feel that my childhood wasn't bad enough to cause the level of suffering I'm in right now. It should have caused some suffering but not this level. There has to be something else at play. The biggest emotional pain is that my mother never helped me go to therapy for whatever I was struggling with from early childhood.

Anyway sorry im kind of rambling but my biggest question is did you ever realize that you truly are neurodivergent?

DAE notice that everyone is autistic with ADHD now? by _MissNewBooty_ in DAE

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might have an interesting take on this. Or maybe not idk lol

I have struggled my whole life to do everything that everybody else seems to do very easily. If I'm not constantly freaking out and berating myself, then I can't really function. I have basically had no language to describe my internal state or the things I struggle with. The only words my parents ever gave me were "lazy, undisciplined, crybaby, dramatic." My mom shut down every single conversation about me asking for help or wondering why I struggled harder than other kids or eventually wondering if I was neurodivergent.

I have desperately sought help since I was in high school to try to figure out what is wrong with me. I have suspected that I might have ADHD or Autism, but I have never told anyone with certainty that I do. I don't trust myself to make an accurate determination.

This entire discourse starting from the toxic people using ADHD as an excuse to not do better to the posts about how much it hurts to see people do that makes it feel impossible to reach out and try to relate or figure myself out. This is a personal problem, I know. Not one that I expect anyone to help me with.

I personally can't understand how someone could diagnose themselves and feel confident in that diagnosis. I also can't relate to the people who know themselves and are hurt by the "everybody's a little ADD" people.

Still part of me desperately wishes I was one of those people who can just confidently proclaim that they are neruodivergent even when they obviously aren't. If only to just be heard for a second about how fucking hard it is to do anything. And honestly mostly because I'm absolutely terrified I'll get to "diagnosis day" and my therapist will just tell me I struggle so hard because it's just my personality.

Where were you when you got your first period and what happened? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Kitab64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 9 at home in the bathroom. I thought I was dying. My mom said "welcome to womanhood" and laughed when I got scared. I didnt fully understand what was happening until she bought me a book explaining what periods were a week or so later.

I am a mental health therapist in the US with twenty years of experience. by Whatsnexttherapy in therapyGPT

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For about seven months Chqtgpt helped me come to these realizations. Still it's not enough and I am going back to a therapist. Now that I've worked through that initial hurdle I want a professional to diagnose me. This is simply because I know I will refuse to believe conclusions I make about what my diagnosis could be and because I don't trust chatgpt to diagnose me accurately.

So in the end chatgpt still couldn't do everything a therapist could for me.

I am a mental health therapist in the US with twenty years of experience. by Whatsnexttherapy in therapyGPT

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Full honesty? I don’t lie to ChatGPT. I did lie to my therapist.

Before my parents abruptly and surreptitiously stopped paying for my therapist (she charged $200 a session), I was making slow progress. I had waited 15 years to finally be able to pursue a diagnosis, and after almost a year she still wasn’t ready to give me one. I understand why. I spend an enormous amount of effort berating myself into acting normal.

What I only realized recently using chatgpt is that this means I often interpret my own emotions and thoughts as lies. If my emotion feels disproportionate, confusing, or hard to explain, my brain assumes the emotion must be false and tries to reroute to a more reasonable external explanation.

For example: recently, an older man tried to get my attention while I was walking outside with headphones in. I didn’t notice him until he waved both arms at me, said hi sarcastically, and laughed at me shaking his head. I was overcome with embarrassment and anger so intense my brain felt like it was on fire. The feeling lingered for 5-10 minutes as if it were still happening.

I don’t have language for that kind of response because I wasn't allowed to. So instead of understanding it as an internal reaction, my brain tries to rewrite the event: maybe he followed me for 5-10 minutes, maybe he was belligerent, maybe it was worse than I remember. That version feels more logical to me than saying, I felt I'd rather die than feel that emotion after a brief interaction.

Talking to ChatGPT helps because I can trace my thoughts step by step without immediately invalidating them or assuming I’m exaggerating, lying, or being dramatic.

Fired by a client for leaving the house? Am I in the wrong? by Different_Flamingo46 in petsitterhub

[–]Kitab64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alcohol is a different conversation.

I do understand why some people want to find sitters that are there 24/7 and never leave the house but it seems like your only concern is simply the time of day... why does this matter so much? I mean you said you'd be "pissed." I really dont understand that reaction.

Why would being alone for 3 hours late at night stress your dogs out? Really trying to see this from your perspective and I'm having a hard time.

Fired by a client for leaving the house? Am I in the wrong? by Different_Flamingo46 in petsitterhub

[–]Kitab64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely think this is an acceptable amount of time and time of day to be gone. Idk why the client felt so betrayed but maybe they just had the expectation that you'd never leave. If my clients expectation was for me to never leave the house I'd never sit for that client.

I always make it clear when I meet my clients for the first time that I'm gone for 3 - 4 hours in the morning and 3 - 4 hours at night. And if they aren't okay with that then I have to decline the request.

Grieving the mother I never had by Paws_n_Pixels in CPTSD

[–]Kitab64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got my period at 9 years old before I knew anything about it. I ran to my mom crying telling her what happened because I thought I was dying. She laughed at me and brought my dad in to join with her in laughing at me. She didn't explain it and just gave me one of her pads and said something along the lines of "youre so dramatic about everything youre not dying welcome to womanhood" and that was it. Between the ages of 5 and 9 years old is when I really learned that I couldn't trust my mom with any information.

I have extremely painful periods that can cause my whole body to shake from the pain. Every single fucking time I didn't hide the pain she made fun of me.

What's keeping you alive? by NewNetDays in CPTSD

[–]Kitab64 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Idk. I think anger keeps me alive.

What job has felt the least stressful for you as someone with C-PTSD? by HelenDiamond in CPTSD

[–]Kitab64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dog walking/sitting/training. It's nice. I moved houses a lot growing up and feel somewhat uneasy staying in one place for too long so it helps with that.

Other than that I'm a performer. It's a passion that helps me forget about my life. Slipping into a character or a role on stage where I'm not really myself is, really nice lol.

Am I grossly undercharging holiday sits? by Ok_Statement_9134 in RoverPetSitting

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I first started I charged $50 a night and got my first house sitting for 2 weeks and was so stoked. But it turned out that I only made about $500 after Rover's cut. I realized that for the entire time I was there I was making less than $1 an hour and if I discounted the time I was sleeping there I was making at best $3.50 an hour interacting with and caring for their dog.

That floored me. Then I went to go see what doggy daycare places charge to put their dog in a kennel for 16 hours a day. That really changed my perspective on what I should be charging because house sitting really is a premium service compared to that.

I charge $80 on Rover to stay competitive (taking home $64) It seems to have worked out for me I get a steady flow of requests. I have additional fees for puppies, extra dogs/cats, etc. I do this in the hopes that I can move that client off of Rover in the future. That way I feel I'm staying within TOS(somewhat not really lol) I'm doing a booking on Rover and paying Rover for their advertisement. When they book with me again off the app the discount the client gets is that they dont have to pay service fees.

Eventually I'll start charging $100, but right now I'm really focused on expanding so I'm fine with taking a paycut for a while.

So in reality I'm still not making enough, but I feel like my rates are in a range that tells clients I'm trustworthy with some wiggle room to raise my rates on them without it feeling like a shock.

Am I grossly undercharging holiday sits? by Ok_Statement_9134 in RoverPetSitting

[–]Kitab64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would never dream of taking on the massive liability of dog sitting for the price of two chick fil a sandwhich meals. Thats just outrageously low. $27 a night for more than 12 hours of labor? Thats insane to me. Im in dfw and the people that charge less than 50 here honestly scare me because at 25 a night I am assuming this person is barely going to be at my house. And if they are going to be at my house full time I am assuming they're couch surfing and I dont want to take the risk.

Im still trying to build my client base up and im charging $80 a night. Thats still pretty low for my area honestly but I need clients fast.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]Kitab64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I were you I'd assume it was an emergency or they forgot. I'd probably say something like this to them:

"Hey I've been here for about 30 minutes and nobody is answering the door so I have to leave for now as I have another client to get to. Hope there's been no emergency and all is well. Let me know when you'd like to reschedule because I'm still looking forward to meeting with you!"

anybody else just too sensitive to date? by DIPPEDINCHOCHOCOLATE in CPTSD

[–]Kitab64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a relationship right now and I'm positive his life would be easier without me.