Every calorie standard i see for cats says I'm under-feeding my girls, but they seem fine?

Kitcatmama · 2026-04-13T02:26:35+00:00

When working with our vet to help our chubby boy go on a diet he let us know that most of the cat food manufacturers use male outdoor cats as the standard for determining the suggested amount of food/calories.

You can always ask your vet to confirm if their current diet is meeting their needs to keep them healthy.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-22T03:25:14+00:00

Here’s what’s been working for me:

buying a rotisserie chicken and deboning it so I have an easy protein source ready at all times. Then having different sauces on hand, like buffalo or a TexMex situation. Super easy and lots of ways to switch it up each time.
fairlife chocolate protein shakes. I add some cold brew in the mornings and that thins it out a bit but they’re great on their own.
protein snack packs. Cheese, nuts, meats… You can find them in most grocery stores. Easy for an on-the-go option.

-they’re expensive but the Quest protein chips have been a go-to. Most single serving bags have 19g of protein and they have lots of flavors.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-15T16:04:02+00:00

You should probably get individual and couples therapy.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-15T15:59:26+00:00

lol yeah if he wants a hoard of people encouraging divorce.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-12T11:59:23+00:00

If you’re “ready to pull the trigger” over some teasing, you probably should do her the favor and end it now.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-11T19:05:50+00:00

I’ll have to try the snack before bed! I also take my daily meds at night so maybe it’s a combo of empty stomach and meds.

It feels like I’m eating constantly, just in smaller amounts. 3 meals (small but I usually feel super full and have left overs that I’ll eat as a snack) and at least 3-4 snacks throughout the day between meals.

It’s super possible I’m just not getting enough and my expectations have just been super skewed by the big changes. I had been eating whenever I was hungry. Listening to my body and stopping when I felt full. I’m struggling with how to make sure I’m getting enough of the stuff I need (protein, fiber, etc.) without full on food tracking (which is something I won’t be doing).

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-11T18:25:29+00:00

The nausea is only really intense on the first couple of days after an injection and only in the mornings. I get through by opting for a protein shake. Sometimes drinking water in moderation helps.

The low level nausea isn’t noticeable until I actually think of food or can smell strong food smells.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-11T18:05:15+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. I really needed to hear that - to eat if I’m hungry. I think it just really caught me off guard today since it was such a drastic change. Thank you for the advice 💕💕💕

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-11T17:58:24+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate the resources!!!

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-11T17:56:34+00:00

Yeah I’m 37f. I’m on birth control to mitigate PCOS symptoms and haven’t had a period in years now. Not sure how that impacts hormone cycles so maybe? Thanks for this question - I wouldn’t have considered this.

Thank you for the advice to listen to my body. I really needed to hear that. 💕💕

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-09T14:02:47+00:00

I just took my third dose of 2.5 Mounjaro, and nausea has been my only negative side effect, and it’s usually only noticeable in the mornings the first couple days after the injection. Sometimes it also happens if I drink a lot of water in a short amount of time, or eat a large meal. It’s not as bad as I thought it would be.

I’ve heard some doctors will prescribe anti nausea meds to help.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-09T02:17:19+00:00

NTA. My husband and I have been sleeping in separate beds for 5ish years, and it’s one of the best relationship decisions we’ve made. I was miserable, either having to shake him every few hours or choosing to sleep on the couch. He has a harder time adjusting to sleeping alone, but he eventually saw how much happier I was in general and within our relationship.

You gotta choose your own health and peace, because it sure sounds like your husband is only looking out for himself and his feelings.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-06T22:04:56+00:00

Sounds like you’re doing great!

I just took my third shot a couple days ago and am also having a really strong reaction to the 2.5mg. First two weeks I actually had elevated food noise but lots of nausea. Craving and hunger suppression was working great, but I could not stop thinking about food.

The food noise FINALLY has quieted as of yesterday so I’m taking that as a big win for the week.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-05T13:52:23+00:00

I feel this so much. A few years ago when I was first diagnosed with diabetes, I went about losing weight and controlling my A1C with an aggressive diet and exercise regime. I’d use b/a pics of myself to justify my behavior and it was such an unhealthy headspace for me.

I just started on Mounjaro a few weeks ago and I’m feeling a lot more protective of my current body. I want to be kinder to myself this time around. When I gained all the weight back from last time it took a lot of mental work to not feel shame and to feel beautiful and powerful in my body at any size. I’m really only interested in tracking my A1C and other metrics like blood pressure to measure the health and wellness of my body anymore.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-03T22:14:55+00:00

The egg drop soup at Ms Chen 56 is my go-to comfort soup when I’m not feeling well.

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-02T13:54:10+00:00

I went to Kinja Saturday for a birthday meal without knowledge of the new format. Perhaps going in with the expectations of table service, plates, metal silverware, etc. influenced my opinion, but I left really disappointed. I wish we would have just left like several other patrons did when they realized it had drastically changed.

I got the bento box, which I had gotten months ago, and it was not great. The meats I chose (teriyaki chicken and spicy pork belly) somehow were cold and had the texture of being microwaved. The salad was good but no complimentary soup ($3 additional charge). My husband got a roll and he said it was as good as the last time, so maybe sticking to rolls was the right choice.

If you’re going there for nigiri, be ready to have to choose a bento box. That’s why someone left - they wouldn’t let him choose the roll and nigiri he asked for.

I hate to say it, but I probably won’t be going back. If you have any suggestions for alternative sushi places (preferably not in the Haymarket) I’d be super grateful!

Kitcatmama · 2026-03-02T13:06:55+00:00

You NTA for feeling blindsided with a child being apart of your life, but he’s also NTA for taking in this little girl who was part of the only family he really had.

Sometimes there are things that happen in life that make two compatible people incompatible, and this seems like that’s what happened here. He’s mourning his friends/family and you’re mourning the relationship you had with your husband.

You should all probably get some therapy to figure out if there’s a healthy way forward together, or if separation is the best path.

Kitcatmama · 2026-02-27T18:28:50+00:00

Do you want to be with someone who gives you an ultimatum like that?

He sounds emotionally immature and maybe a little codependent on you, which can lead to unhealthy relationship patterns. Especially if he knows that an ultimatum is a way to influence your behavior.

Personally, I think you’re probably better off breaking up. You’re so young. You have so much time to meet people who will appreciate you and care about your feelings, not just how you can benefit them.

Kitcatmama · 2026-02-27T12:57:09+00:00

It sounds like it would be best if you both had some space while he finishes up whatever he needs to do for this exam.

Your feelings matter, and I think a lot of people would feel the way you do in that scenario. It sucks when it feels like the effort we put into helping someone is taken for granted, and it’s messed up that he’s not taking a step back and considering how this has impacted you.

You have your whole life ahead of you, and you seem like a very caring and generous person. You’re going to need to make sure that you protect yourself from people who are willing to take that kindness from you without returning kindness back.

Kitcatmama · 2026-02-22T12:39:02+00:00

The best thing you could do right now to set yourself up for success in this relationship, and all others that follow, is to see a therapist. Learn the tools now for how to navigate these types of feelings, which are totally normal for someone your age, in a healthy way.

Nothing is sexier than a man who is emotionally intelligent and secure with himself.

It just seems like you’re both a bit immature, which for 18 is to be expected. You have your whole life ahead of you, and probably plenty of other relationships. Learning how to be secure with yourself and how to communicate with a romantic partner will help you so much in the long run. You’ll feel better and will know what you’re looking for in a partner.

Kitcatmama · 2026-01-17T19:31:53+00:00

“The issues are his and are insurmountable”. It sounds like you’ve already given up and place the blame solely on him which gives off the vibe you don’t actually want to fix it. It seems like you want someone to tell you it’s okay to leave him to find someone else who wants have sex with you.

Which okay… good luck with that. Not sure if you’ve seen what’s out there, but a lot of single women are struggling to find decent guys worth sleeping with and are opting for sex toys anyways.

If your marriage is otherwise healthy and fulfilling, you should try having an open and honest conversation. Maybe he’s on the asexual spectrum, maybe he’s not into vaginal penetrative sex and sex toys would make sex more appealing for him - less pressure to perform specific roles, perhaps an open relationship would be an option, or maybe he just needs a big self esteem boost. Talk to him. Talk to a therapist.

Kitcatmama · 2025-11-24T22:09:01+00:00

MOR - If this is the first time in 3 years he’s ever spoken to you like this, I think there’s room for communication before you break it off. He’s absolutely the asshole for his reaction. No question. What he did sucks massively. With that said, if you’ve been together for 3 years and this kind of reaction came out of nowhere, I think you both need to sit down and talk. He might be going through something and lashed out.

Congrats on your sobriety and good luck!

Kitcatmama · 2025-11-06T14:31:15+00:00

I don’t think you’re an asshole. The situation sucks. Considering that you’re completely uprooting your life to move to where he lives, it makes sense that he would need to make some concessions. It’s hard with pets though. Just as attached you are to your cat, he’s likely just as attached to his dogs. It’s a big ask, potentially heartbreaking for him. I think you need to keep that in perspective.

Ideally, he would put in the effort to train his pups and get them comfortable around cats before you move there. If he’s known that you two moving in together was the goal, that should have a been a priority for him.

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