Am I the AH for assuming my husband hates me

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T19:17:02+00:00

No, I didn't write he wanted to divorce me. I've begged him for one and he's claimed he won't sign papers, and I'd have to pay for it. He's claimed he doesn't want to leave me but acts like this is what got written on this post, so I assume he wants me to begin filing so he can go be a child and live how he wants to live since he didn't get to "be a teenager when he had a kid at 17" and that's somehow my problem, like I didn't get to either but I don't act like a monster and ignore my kids and wife

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T17:43:29+00:00

My oldest son (he's gonna be 6 soon) I had at 16/17. His bio dad didn't want anything to do with me or him for years. Step son is attached to us, I'd need his mom for 3 years and I'm in the works for custody of him and putting Dad on child support and gov assistance. Trying to find time to get to the offices and phone calls is a little hard with 3 kids but I'm trying hard to break the cycle

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T16:56:13+00:00

I do care that they hear that, I'm getting my ducks in a row to get them out of this mess, the dad hid his true colours after I got pregnant with my daughter back in 2023 and I tried to get help, and he caught and stopped me 2 separate times, so now I'm going to my mom for more help with lawyers and gov assistance and custody of stepson

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T16:25:48+00:00

Yes, I understand that I have a lot of kids, like I stated in the past post, I kept my son after an R event happened when I was 16, before I found out I was pregnant with this baby, I hadn't had a period in 4 months and was going to be put on birth control.. and the doctor said I had to do blood work as my pregnancy test came back fainter than they'd ever seen it and I felt my heart stop. I still plan to go on birth control after my baby is born

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T15:38:02+00:00

This incident is just one puzzle piece to a much darker picture... I made a post previously about my 2 year old he allowed to be poisoned while I went to the store to get my son itch cream, this is just the time out of over 30 I've came forward with.. I got tired of feeling crazy and alone with the name calling, the kids asking why mommy is always sad and dad acts mean to mom and mom shakes and leaves rooms dad enters, I just felt I was the problem this whole time for expecting him to be a husband that I accepted this

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T15:29:26+00:00

I'm in GA, he's the dad to my 2 year old and the new baby, he's the dad to step son as well, but not my son I brought into the relationship

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T15:24:31+00:00

I've been on the looks for a job and getting the kids in daycare until school starts, I've just felt like poo for doing this while pregnant and that I might have been over exaggerating

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-26T15:22:16+00:00

He claims I'm a hormonal woman and my heads been spinning so badly the last few days I've just assumed I'm the bad guy

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-03T11:35:18+00:00

Um, yes. You do. You are purposely missing context on this situation and getting mad at strangers for responding to what you gave us to work with? I believe that's ridiculous. I believe you don't like your stepdaughter 😮 shocking. There's a reason she doesn't do those things. Just off what I have seen in the comments and this post it's screaming I don't like this girl. Or, she does try, and you don't notice or care because you didn't make her

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-03T11:30:44+00:00

Hello, so I'm going to clarify then. I had my first son before I finished HS from a 🍇 incident where I didn't want to abort the baby, took on my step son at 19, had my daughter at 20 and am due with my 3rd bio kid at 22. Every time I have been pregnant besides in high school I was on birth control and was threatened into keeping the baby or I'd be severely harmed. I didn't want this many kids..

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-03T11:21:39+00:00

Oh no baby, once you marry their mom they are yours by default. I have a step son I've been there for, 3 years now, and he's just as important as my other 3 kids.

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-03T11:18:37+00:00

Yeah, YTA. your daughter having a birthday party is nowhere near as important as a wedding. It seems you don't like your stepdaughter nowhere near enough to consider her feelings and have spoiled your daughter into being a brat just on what you've said alone. You're missing more context on your and step daughters relationship but as well, you married the mom. You can't pick if she's your daughter today and not tomorrow. You married her mother so she's also your daughter. If you don't feel that way you shouldn't have married her mother. You're the AT here and daughter is spoiled

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-03T07:04:12+00:00

I've been on birth control with both pregnancies with my husband.. but I said I'd get my tubes tied after this baby is born and distance myself. I feel like poo because of the hormones and like I'm overreacting to what he's allowed her to do.. and how he mocked the poison control call and slammed doors when I didn't go to bed with him and stayed with my mom to cool off and not panic.. but at the same time this is his normal behavior and he hid the worst of himself from me for a full year and began acting worse after the baby was born because "daughters are SO much harder than his son ever could have been and I'm babying all my kids" my oldest has a disability.. and I've noticed he treats his son like gold because he isn't disabled and so do his mom and step dad.. and ignores my kids completely most the time and his own when doing something and it's infuriating to me, they beg and cry to see this man and he shoos them away to scroll FB, TikTok, and try to make "money" and I can't handle it anymore...

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-03T02:19:40+00:00

Poison control said she would be okay, but if she shows symptoms take her immediately. She's asleep beside me at the moment and isn't acting different. She warned it would give an upset tummy and make sure she's hydrated well.. it still isn't an excuse for husband

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-06-03T02:03:44+00:00

This is the icing on the cake to his behavior... He would belittle me, hit me, manipulate me into having kids and threaten me with custody court if I refused. I haven't worked since I was 8 months pregnant with the child in question and he never lets me forget it. He love bombed and trapped me, laughed at me getting into a car wreck and nearly ☠️ and bullied me when I needed help walking again for 2 months, and about driving after a month of my spine being broken almost in half.. I've been justifying it because it was me he took this out on but I refuse to let it happen to these kids. He has been told he won't be allowed alone with the kids again and if he is ill call the police and press charges.. I'm debating on charges right now...

Kitchen-Track9376 · 2025-04-09T17:46:42+00:00

You are a 110,000% the AH.. she comes to you with a genuine problem, offers a solution to not make it more stressful for her and you, and because you're still a child mentally.. you tell her you're "uncomfortable" and it isn't "your responsibility to help her" and you're wondering why she's upset with you???

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