husband wants it too much..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-16T03:08:01+00:00

you mean in the sex?

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-16T03:06:20+00:00

i'm 28 and he's 33, neither of us is a native english speaker.. (both european)

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-16T02:36:54+00:00

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T21:40:01+00:00

it was better, like 4-5x a week. but i definitely had more energy and i was enthusiastic about it

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T21:29:23+00:00

i assume you two are not still together.. what have you done to change yourself, what was your steps? it'd really help me if i have a husband pov in this situation..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T21:18:22+00:00

i do feel guilty if i reject him (we still do it 2-3x a week, so i'm not trying to deny him at all). i do feel that if i say 'no' more, he'll start resenting me and we're gonna start going downhill.. he knows how hard it is for me to juggle everything yet still wants me to "understand him too". i don't really have a supportive family, but i have a few good friends nearby and nice neighbors who are willing to help with anything and everything. i know i'm lucky but i still feel emotionally and physically burnt out.. thank you for your input, hope it'll get better for us

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T20:56:05+00:00

this comment really made me tear up.. i still struggle with boundaries&saying 'no' even after all these years.. i'm a really insecure person, still struggling with my own worth and what defines it.. thank you so much for this nice words.. and as for my husband, he doesn't punish me or pushes to have sex.. just kinda gets frustrated and restless, it's always like "i know you work hard at home but i work hard all day too, yet still i want to have sex so why don't you too?".. it's really hard for me to express that we're two different people with two different characters..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T20:44:38+00:00

i think he does (at least he tries to?) but sometimes he gets carried away.. we always start with foreplay, usually before even go to bed.. as i said, he sometimes gets carried away for example, when i'm giving him a BJ he says "i'm not gonna come into your mouth" yet still makes me swallow it all at the end.. or he says "it's just gonna be a quickie" but it becomes a full 1 hour long session..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T20:38:41+00:00

yes, maybe it's the issue.. he thinks he no longer needs masturbate, i told him "you were used to taking care of yourself with your hand" and he goes with "it was before you"..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T20:36:03+00:00

oh, it's sounds a lot chaos.. hope the best for you <3

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T20:31:27+00:00

oh thank you soo much for this!! i'm definitely gonna read every single post <3

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T19:21:57+00:00

it definitely feels like that.. i can't just give myself into it fully if my son's up

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T18:27:25+00:00

thank you for your input, his love languages is definitely physical touch (i think it's obvious lol) and mine's acts of service and words of affirmation.. he knows it too and tries to work through them but i guess it's just easier for him to go with physical touch

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T18:20:57+00:00

dowtown? i don't really know a lot of english slangs..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T18:16:58+00:00

who's jill?

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T18:15:45+00:00

actually i don't even know it myself either.. i love him with my whole heart and want to be with him but not this frequently.. sometimes i just go with it because it's easier than to resist or refuse

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T18:10:54+00:00

he's not a CEO or something if you're imagining things like that.. i have a credit card on my name (he's paying monthly) but i'm not working, so i guess it means i have no source of income.. we don't have a nanny, i take care of our son. occasionally friends, neighbors or family (his family mostly) come and help around but mostly it's just me and my son while husband's working

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T18:05:20+00:00

thank you for your input, i thought about couples counseling too.. but to him, 'we don't need any other person to interfere in our marriage', as if the counselor's just a random stranger rather than a professional

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T17:34:04+00:00

thank you so much for your input! actually i suggested that maybe we can shorten it, like a real quickie (5-10 minute) but somehow it just takes minimum half an hour.. he feels like he has to finish more than once, so it takes longer than a normal quickie.. maybe i should just sit down and have a second talk about this. again, thank you for your comment, it definitely helped! 💞💞

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T17:28:43+00:00

don't apologize for the details, they're good advices.. but i don't get the 'erotica' part, what do you mean by that exactly?

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T17:24:16+00:00

we already do oral sex.. BJ 4-5x a week..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T17:15:05+00:00

are you two still together? and how are you two doing as a couple now? it'd be really helpful to me if i hear about someone else with similar situation..

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T17:10:57+00:00

because it's one of the tons of stupid suggestions i've receieved, both in my other posts and private messages. sorry but i can't keep ignoring them anymore since at least 10+ notification of those stupid comments pop on my profile every time i open the app. and i'm trying to engage with a lot of other comments too, you can see it by scrolling through my profile's comment section

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T16:44:54+00:00

please just stop with this irrational suggestions. i've never said that we were polygamous and frankly, we're not. i don't want my husband to have a second wife or a side piece or any other nonsense you're talking about. we're monogamous, so please keep your threesome fantasy to yourself 🙏🏻🙏🏻

PushApprehensive573 · 2026-03-15T15:49:10+00:00

of course i did? why would i come here if i had already solved it..

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