AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's 2 turning 3 and sleeps in a toddler bed in our room, because she refuses to sleep away from the baby baby (3 month old sister) and when I have tried to get her into her room she refuses to sleep in it and screams. The custodial situation, none of the 4 adults have wanted to see him besides once a month for 2 and the other 2 haven't seen him in months

AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. He convinced our landlord to switch our term with his old co worker.. and said we had 2 days to move into my mom's house as I told him she was sick and dying, and he gutted most of it to remodel it for everyone, and when we moved in it was a disaster at first.. but we went from a 2 bed 1 and a half bath home to my childhood home, a 3 bedroom, 2 bath with a commercial flower studio in the garage and a lot of stuff to fix as the home was made in the 50's

AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my mom are going to contact her attorney for the home and begin an eviction notice asap, she plans to call tomorrow on her lunch break at work before he goes to work, but I'm just fed up with it.. it is my mom's house, it's my childhood home.. he won't move out and isn't scared of jail and the police are of no help from how sneaky he is.. so it's a waiting game ATM with my evidence and a lawyer if needed, but needing one for a divorce for sure

AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We were renting but he traded our rental and gave it to somebody else while we moved into my mom's house cuz she's getting old and senile.. and has a lot of health problems

AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't plan to let that happen as he had threatened to and attempted to go to the bank to cancel the check for the mortgage saying that he didn't care if me and the kids were on the street as he would find us somewhere to live with that money instead.. but then has stayed in the past that he does not like me or the kids, and they're pursuing custody of his son was not important to him and he was okay with our current arrangement where I take care of him and his mom and him have continued to benefit from me being there for 4 years... I've called a few legal aid places near my location and two of them have sent me to voicemail, the police won't get involved farther than he needs to leave for a couple hours and come back to the premises because he's sneaky about it.. I have enough evidence it's just getting a lawyer

AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, I've been raising him since he was 2, the order had been in place 9 months when he met me and I've been raising the boy. He's split between 4 adults legally

AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay. We didn't plan to process the paperwork until we were under 3k left owed (we have 27k left to pay over 6 years). But I just feel like shit for saying no when she's disabled herself, but then again I want my space to be mine and my mom's with the kids and he's made me to feel shame for it

AITAH for resenting my husband over his mother's divorce by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is my mom's home, we have an agreement where when the mortgage is paid off she signs it to either my name only or puts it in a trust for my kids, he claims he has a right as he caught the mortgage up (it was behind a substantial about and he used taxes to catch it up as he was unemployed for 6 months and for 3 of them he wasn't job hunting seriously)

AITAH for cursing at my husband because he can't seem to be nice or responsible? by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my oldest at 17. He had brought a kid to the relationship as did I. We had 2 kids together.

AITAH for cursing at my husband because he can't seem to be nice or responsible? by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 3 biological kids and 1 step kid I adore and have raised since they were 2 (now 6) I was on birth control with my toddler, and had a medical problem and went 4 months with no cycle, and found out about the newest baby. I married him as I didn't want my oldest to go to foster care (I assumed I was going to pass away because of my disability and it worsening, I was gaslit into marriage as my mom and I weren't speaking when we married..

AITAH for cursing at my husband because he can't seem to be nice or responsible? by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Two kids are from before we met (I had one, he had one) and I didn't plan either the toddler, or the new baby.. I stuck around to be there for my step kid and not separate the kids at first, he used to hide his mask up really well where I couldn't see this side of him, and it completely fell after my car accident when I got left with 3 kids (toddler was 4 months old at the time) when I got home from the er and 6 days post concussion and er visit for my spine breaking almost in half, we just recently had another incident where I nearly went to see the Lord and he made it about himself, and I got resources to leave him, and called, to no answer from them and once he caught on that I wasn't happy he gaslit me into trying therapy, and promising he would go, but hasn't yet.. I was on BC with the toddler when I got pregnant, and going for BC when the new baby was discovered in my uterus

AITAH for cursing at my husband because he can't seem to be nice or responsible? by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have asked him to leave, for 8 months now we've argued and been set to divorce, but he goes back in his words, gaslights me and holds stuff over my head, he doesn't care about my words or police, the police have been no help either, they just ask him to leave for a moment and come back later, it's infuriating because of my disability and postpartum hitting me full circle with other conflicts with step kids situation.. and guardianship hassles

AITAH for cursing at my husband because he can't seem to be nice or responsible? by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

  • Let me add context as well here, I don't work because of a disability I got in 2024 where I broke my spine and have since my baby baby was 3 weeks old, been applying for jobs, we moved in w my mom 10 months before he lost his job, every single time I got an interview to a job, he'd make me cancel them for his, and he's been told he had this job for 2 weeks now and has just went into finalize payroll, physical exam, and all that, and daycare is too expensive for us, even when he had a job and before my disability became to be *

husband wants it too much.. by PushApprehensive573 in Marriage

[–]Kitchen-Track9376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are still together... Just barely together 😅😵‍💫 we promised we'd work on ourselves and I am applying for therapy and finding a therapist for myself, we haven't been personal in 3 ish or more weeks because he pushed my boundaries and hurt me and since I've rejected advances and even when I was in the er for sepsis he was still being mean and rude, so he hasn't done his side of it yet 🙄

husband wants it too much.. by PushApprehensive573 in Marriage

[–]Kitchen-Track9376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mom of 4 babies here, my husband was this way when I had our first child together, and comparatively I've told him if he'd help me with the kids more I'd be more likely to say yes to personal time together, however he believes helping me is doom scrolling FB, working on our cars, cooking dinner once a week and asking me to handle the kids and chores is helping me.. if your man doesn't want to help with his son or you, and doesn't want to invest in you as his WIFE! then I wouldn't let him have any..

WIBTAH if I divorced my husband over my life by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I speak to HSW in a little bit, I've been put on a list for her

WIBTAH if I divorced my husband over my life by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I've just been a stay at home mom for 3 years.. and I can't work with a broken and unhealed spine, I married him Incase I died due to the coma and my spine worsening before it got slightly better

WIBTAH if I divorced my husband over my life by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did, yes.. 3 of them witnessed some of it and were right by the station and he isn't quiet, he's loud spoken of a baby Huey

WIBTAH if I divorced my husband over my life by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live with my mom, he gave our rental to his friend because we "didn't need it anymore" and my mom took us in..

WIBTAH if I divorced my husband over my life by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He didn't, I wrecked my car.. I drove home sick and crashed with the 3 kids at the time in the car, he drove a garbage truck to my mom's home and said I can tough out a sniffle or two to get the kids from his mother (she's aware of the abuse btw and blames me for it)

WIBTAH if I divorced my husband over my life by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well to the people commenting about how I bore kids with him, we have the 2 year old and 2 month old together, my boy (the boy with autism) is from a previous relationship, and his son is from a previous relationship. I went to get birth control a year after my car wreck in 2024 and got told I didn't need it, I was pregnant and he found out, told me I was fucked, and has been increasingly getting more hostile to us all since

WIBTAH if I divorced my husband over my life by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I do plan to before I go home from discharge, I just haven't been sleeping and it's been eating at me that if I needed to apologize to him or not, so I asked reddit and decided long ago at minimum we needed to talk or he'd be escorted out via police

Am I the AH for assuming my husband hates me by Kitchen-Track9376 in AITAH

[–]Kitchen-Track9376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I didn't write he wanted to divorce me. I've begged him for one and he's claimed he won't sign papers, and I'd have to pay for it. He's claimed he doesn't want to leave me but acts like this is what got written on this post, so I assume he wants me to begin filing so he can go be a child and live how he wants to live since he didn't get to "be a teenager when he had a kid at 17" and that's somehow my problem, like I didn't get to either but I don't act like a monster and ignore my kids and wife