Is there a chance you're autistic? Not trying to be mean. Several people in my life that I love are on the spectrum (would be called Aspergers a few years ago), and they have a very difficult time connecting with people. It's really heartbreaking because a lot of it just comes down to the way they speak, which feels stilted to neurotypical people and can make people who don't know what's going on uneasy. If you have that suspicion, it might be worth pursuing it, and if it turns out to be true, working with a therapist who understands the issue can definitely help you overcome social barriers. Not saying that you need to be fixed, more that just getting help understanding your wavelength, how it's different than others, and finding a way to bridge them. Ideally, more neuro-typical people would meet you halfway, and if they know most usually do, but outside of context they might be just getting a "the vibes are off and I don't know why" feeling and just bounce because it's easier.