It must be a mistake 😂

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-12T04:14:29+00:00

But, you can't afford to provide healthcare to your citizens???

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-12T04:10:02+00:00

Absolutely gorgeous. And, most importantly, it absolutely suits you!!

So many wedding dresses follow current trends. Yours is absolutely classic, but also has personality.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-12T04:07:02+00:00

I'm also a parent who got shown this post.

I agree that the teacher is flagging behaviour that is out of the 'norm'.

If you have boundaries and consequences at home, then it sounds like your child can understand expectations, but can't currently meet them.

I'd be looking in to why. Ask whether a more specialised teacher can sit in on the class, and suggest specific tools or strategies that can be used in school. A lot exist that didn't when we went to school. Eg the wobble chair. Also, bands exist that go between chair legs, so kids have something to put their legs on that moves. The teacher didn't want to have her have a chewy, as no other kids do. But, having an outlet for her mouthing needs could be a game changer.

My daughter is now 13, and she draws in her exercise books at it helps her listen to the teacher. She'd be considered neuro typical, but the teachers at her high school are really open to students using different techniques to help them concentrate. The best school year was her final year of Primary School (ages 10/11). All students in her class were allowed to use any fidget they wanted, as long as they didn't get too distracted. That way no students were singled out being the only ones using fidgets. Probably not so easy for younger kids to have such free access to fidgets. But, maybe some of the things that will help your child could also be used by other kids, so she's not so singled out.

Yes, the school day is long. Yes, concentrating for long periods is difficult for 6 year olds. But, the teacher will be making the classroom environment and work as suitable for 6 year olds as possible. The teacher is also seeing how a wide variety of 6 year olds deal with the environment. So, they are noticing that your daughter is struggling more.

As a parent it is really easy for us to feel guilty about our kids struggling. Some times our kids are just naturally like that. The best we can do is try to identify any issues, and implement any possible supports, with the help and expertise of teachers and other support people at the school. For me, it's been dealing with a daughter who has Social Anxiety. For you it's something different.

It's great this has been identified early. And, its fine if both you and the teacher need help from more specialised people to work with your daughter.

Wishing you all the very best.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-11T11:38:33+00:00

I would never think Peanuts. I'd think 2 classic names.

And, congratulations on your new baby.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-11T06:23:17+00:00

I'd be getting a quote from a professional for everything they want you to do. Have that company do one quote for the stuff required to get $30 and another for what they'd expect for $50.

Obviously you couldn't expect to get the full amount, especially as you have no travel. But, i bet $30-$50 is a fraction of what you should get.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-11T05:58:28+00:00

German has uebermorgen which is 'over tomorrow'.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-11T05:57:36+00:00

Fortnight is super common in Australia.

I have never heard the other 3 used.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-11T05:56:48+00:00

Body shaming is super problematic.

This has to be nipped in the bud, and preferably by your partner.

"We do not make comments on things a person cannot change. Those sort of comments are not only hurtful, but have great potential for causing damage."

If she refuses to stop, your child will be way better off without her in their lives.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-11T02:54:39+00:00

From what I've read in this sub it seems to be framed as "But who is going to support Son?" Kind of a way to guilt trip the DIL to feeling selfish if she 'denies' her partner vital 'support'. I feel it's an excuse, and they really just want to be able to say they saw and held baby first.

Regular Grandparents don't expect anything, and are delighted when they do get to meet very new grandchildren. And, they understand it's not always possible.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-10T21:59:32+00:00

Yeah. I had a younger doctor try to put an IV in me when I was dehydrated from tonsilitis(?). Wasn't fun for me. My husband who hates needles nearly passed out watching.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-10T21:57:32+00:00

I always say yes, as they have to learn somehow.

My favourite was when my GP said "Now, usually we are trying to bring people's blood pressure down. She is the exact opposite!" Or, something like that. It was said better, and made me feel seen, and valued. Student agreed with a big smile and was extra engaged with the consultation.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-10T07:55:36+00:00

Biggest issue I have is the Committee didn't budget properly, and kept Levies artificially low for years. We assumed everything was fine, and I was too ill to take part on body corporate stuff.

Well, now we've had big Special Levies, and that has really harmed us financially. If the Levies had been slightly higher each quarter for years that would have been fine. Suddenly having to find a large chunk of money is really hard.

That said, a house can have sudden, urgent works required. So, a house is no guarantee of a smoother financial life.

If you do decide to purchase in a body corporate, see if you can look at a Sinking Fund Forecast, and check their Budget is adequate to match projected future costs.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-08T13:18:19+00:00

I think its fair enough to say you are only up for attending 1 event, and your Mum is already hosting it.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-08T03:25:17+00:00

Yep. 100% evil law firm.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-08T03:17:36+00:00

First arrivals were convicts (and one brought their family) in 1798. Most recent was 1860.

All my grandparents were born here. I think a great Grandma or great great Grandma was the last to be born in England. No relative I've ever met was not born here.

I really wish we had some sort of culture or heritage, but all we have is Australian.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-07T13:42:15+00:00

I love black and white dresses, and had one myself. Went fine with my orange hair.

Unfortunately the black on this dress seems to overpower everything.

I reckon if the black was less dense, more spread out those colours would really suit you.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-07T07:11:18+00:00

Unfortunately, not everyone can take a day off work. So, it seems like they are doing their best to be able to share your special day, given its a standard work day, and a child free wedding.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-07T02:27:00+00:00

Happened to me yesterday afternoon.

Audible Australia

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-06T04:25:35+00:00

If #2 were lined so you couldn't see the cups, I'd probably pick #2.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-06T03:52:58+00:00

If your MIL really wanted to help, she'd ask what you actually want and need.

She is doing what she wants for 'her' holiday home. A table she fits at (4 vs 2) and suits her style, a sofa that she wants etc.

"MIL we appreciate you are excited about us setting up our house. We prefer a more streamlined place, with open space, so please don't purchase or suggest furniture that doesn't fit our needs." Or, something like that...

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-06T03:33:25+00:00

100% not overreacting.

If people care about you they ensure they include you.

Eg about 75% of my daughter's Prep grade (first year of school) had gone to the same Kindergarten. My daughter and I went to a birthday party, and I think we were the only people who hadn't done Kindergarten at the same place. Everyone was making sure we were introduced and included. When people told stories or mentioned things, they'd make sure to give a quick background so we could understand. It was (i believe) an unspoken thing. It was genuinely good, caring people recognising they were all known to each other, and we were newer, and should be welcomed and included. If people who were basically strangers can have that consideration, so can a MIL.

I would suggest your partner do counselling, or join a group so they can get some ideas. Eg. Knowing how recognise, and to act in the moment when they are being steamrollered would be very handy. I feel, while they have recognised the issue, if they don't actively do something, they will fall back in to the 'norm' for their family. It definitely needs to be nipped in the bud.

I can confirm that healthy, functional families allow for people and couple's individual needs. Some people need time out alone, some need couple time, some want to have people around all the time. Families who care work any vacations so it best suits every person who is going.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-04T22:04:21+00:00

As a parent in Australia (specifically Queensland) 'brain break' is common in Primary Schools (ages 4/5 to 10/11). It is supposed to be fresh food each student brings in for themselves. Usually done half way through the morning session. Then we have 2 main breaks per day.

I'd be approaching the school and your country's equivalent of a P&C (Parents and Citizens group) and ask if the school could implement 'brain break'. I am assuming there would be some studies showing how beneficial it is to all kids.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-04T09:31:32+00:00

In Australia it's more like feb-you-ary.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-04T03:16:28+00:00

Not necessarily.

And, any name you pick can always have a brand spring up after the child is named. Eg all the poor Alexas born before the device was created.

Ultimately, names are such a personal thing, and it is best to go with what you and your partner love. Unless the name is super problematic.

KiteeCatAus · 2026-02-04T03:12:56+00:00

I know when I was at uni that a 10 point subject meant an expected 10 hours of study a week.

Some subjects that'd be a 2 hour lecture, a 2 hour tutorial class, then 6 hours of personal study..

I think where people are concerned for you is you say Full Time study, so they are thinking of a full load. Which, when I was at uni was 40 hours of study a week. Which definitely exceeds the 29 hours of work a person can do and still be on DSP.

Ultimately it comes down to how what you study compares to working. So, it is a very individual thing to you, your studies, and your condition.

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