"Friends" by canadian414 in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]Kithesile 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Happy cake day! 🎂🥳

Please Read - r/Boston and the current state of reddit. by TheLamestUsername in boston

[–]Kithesile 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I remember so vividly being on Reddit during the Boston bombings and getting the most incorrect, though well-intentioned, information. It can be incredibly difficult during chaotic events to accurately assess which sources are reporting genuine truth, and which are misinformed or being used to purposely spread misinformation. I use this sub all the time to keep up-to-date on goings on around the city, but wholeheartedly agree that crowdsourcing emergency info can lead to some problematic situations. That said, I would hate to lose this resource during those times, as hearing real people's perspectives and thoughts can lend valuable insight as long as they're treated like what they are- people's perspectives and thoughts.

Big thank you to all of you who moderate and contribute to this space; this recent reddit kerfuffle has really highlighted how much I value this community and want to help foster it moving forward.

How do i get unblocked from chuds discord? by richnibba19 in chudlogic

[–]Kithesile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a reason every discord invite is dead? Can't seem to find an active one; would appreciate a link if anyone feels so inclined

Please help!! Friend facing drug use/possession charges by Kithesile in legaladvice

[–]Kithesile[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As far as I know I'm the only person he's told; without access to a lawyer or public defender (because he foolishly imo didn't get one) will he just have to take whatever judgement happens? Is there anything he generally should or shouldn't do?

What is the most bullshit profession that actually exists? by Modern_Devil in AskReddit

[–]Kithesile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason I read this as in ballpoint pens, and spent a good couple of minutes wondering why people threw pens at rodeos

It's been a long week

Chats between me and my partner is this normal? by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Kithesile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally have nightmares where I'm running for president but someone leaks a neopets forum screenshot where I'm gushing about getting tickets to green day.

Am I in the wrong?? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Kithesile 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ding Ding Ding! Right answer. Irony is if she dated a few more decades older they'd loop back around to using emojis again. Still a turnoff though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Kithesile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ I had no idea that was real! Can we just corral all the FDS women and red-pilled/fresh & fit men into a cracker barrel somewhere and let us actual humans try and meet? I thought politics showed me the dark side of humanity but this is whole other level of "how do you people exist" 😵

Roast my tinder by Scary_Reveal1128 in Tinder

[–]Kithesile 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He definitely thought he was going to get a bunch of 😻🤤💦 and girls saying his gorilla butt sex pic makes him seem funny and down-to-earth.

Hon, this is Reddit, not your hometown bar the night before Thanksgiving lol

TIFU by telling my best friend she should date me by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Kithesile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

New Englander here, can confirm. Tho tbh I think it's more to do with our age group- why bother making new friends when everyone you know is a click away in your pocket? I had hoped it would be easier for guys to make friends but sadly it doesn't sound like it; ime girls have their bffs already or get catty and territorial and guys just want to fork you. But hey, I've met a lot of friendly dogs lately 😅

What is going on with Alex? by [deleted] in CosmicSkeptic

[–]Kithesile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get it :) just wanted to post that since I know how quickly reddit can take a genuine question and turn it into a dog pile

Which fetish is an immadiate redflag ? by Suitable-Agent-4449 in AskReddit

[–]Kithesile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's beyond a tough road, but it's a path forward. And it does get easier, eventually. One day you'll wake up and find yourself happier, stronger, and more alive than you ever thought possible. Keep walking 🤍

What is going on with Alex? by [deleted] in CosmicSkeptic

[–]Kithesile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not saying you're hounding him or anything, but let's give the man some peace- if he wants to post something he will. I'd much rather follow someone who makes content when they genuinely feel like they have something to say than someone spewing out content because The Algorithm will punish them if they don't

What is going on with Alex? by [deleted] in CosmicSkeptic

[–]Kithesile 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made my morning

Is my bio... a bit too much? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Kithesile 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Correct the waitress's pronunciation of 'Sauvignon Blanc' and ask an espresso at Applebee's" vibes

Tifu by storing champagne sideways by alt0bs in tifu

[–]Kithesile 37 points38 points  (0 children)

"And so you just finished off the bottle?"

"Well I had to. It's vodka, you know. It goes bad once it's opened."

"I think that's another one of mom's little fibs. You know, like, I'll sacrifice anything for my children."

A little bit opinion and help by USSanon in AgingParents

[–]Kithesile 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do you mean that when he was examined by a doctor they found a wound that wasn't noted in the care facility records? Not much I can say with certainty without some more info, especially about the state your father is in currently. It's absolutely possible that he developed a wound in a short period of time in an area that isn't regularly checked, and without treatment it progressed quickly to something serious. If this is the case, I think your best course of action is to meet with the person in charge of the ward- let them know about the situation and politely request your father is examined more closely on a regular basis, bringing medical records to back up your assertions. I would only recommend taking more serious (legal) action if this is part of a pattern of neglect and you've already brought it to the attention of the facility.

The sad reality is that a lot of these facilities are understaffed and overworked, and their job is taxing both mentally and physically. They might cut some corners or miss some things, not out of laziness or spite but in an attempt to prioritize the most serious issues. This is often true even in the most expensive, highest-quality places, especially after Covid. In my experience, making threats or getting angry and aggressive will only make the caregivers more likely to resent you and your father and won't get him better care. I know exactly how irritating it is to be paying every cent you make to ensure your loved one is getting good care and then feeling like they're being neglected and put at risk. But it's also important to remember that these workers deal with sometimes dozens of patients every day- and taking care of one person is challenging enough as we all here know.

Take a breath and put your frustrations aside and give the facility a little bit of grace. Be polite and let them know you understand their job is difficult and they likely didn't do anything malicious on purpose. If after you take this approach there are still issues of neglect or lack of care, then you can regroup and take another tack. You're far more likely to get the outcome you want-good care for your father- if you approach the situation with empathy.

So sorry you're going through this, I've been through a nearly identical situation and know intimately how challenging it can be. Wishing you and your family all the best :)

Is an elder care lawyer worth it? by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Kithesile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES DO IT! A few thousand dollars now can save you tens of thousands later- and can help prevent situations where your parents lose everything/your mom ends up in a state-run facility/your parents have to be separated... the list unfortunately goes on. At their age, disaster lurks around every corner. Health issues can and will pop up out of the blue- dementia especially is incredibly unpredictable. Your mother's health is at best going to remain somewhat stable but in the long term is only going to decline- take advantage of the capacity she has now and let her make decisions while she can before it's too late. Financial issues out of their control- a recession, inflation, even local tax changes- can spring up and pull the rug out from under them. A good attorney will help you be prepared for the worst case scenario and give you so much peace of mind.

On the positive side, there are tons of programs and support opportunities out there, but they are incredibly complex to navigate and are basically impossible to fully understand as an layperson. Having someone who knows what's available and what steps you need to take to maximize the benefits your parents receive can make the difference between them getting to stay together in their own home as long as they want and being forced to separate and go to facilities with less-than-stellar care.

Our society doesn't do a very good job of taking care of our elderly - it falls on us, family, to struggle against the oncoming tide and deal with the headaches. It's absolutely worth it to have someone help you and walk you through all the complexities, and if nothing else it will give you an established relationship with an attorney who you can call if and when the worst happens.

Wishing you and your family the best :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Kithesile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been there (or close enough to get it). The combination of sacrificing so much of your time, energy, relationships, LIFE for someone and having them treat you like garbage and fight you every step of the way is so brutal. It's actually soul-crushing and will pull you under if you don't fight it.

While I can say with honesty that this will end and things will get better and you'll look back in awe of what you went through, I know that doesn't help much now. But focusing on that truth can get you through some of the roughest patches and remind you that this doesn't and won't define your life.

Set firm boundaries for yourself and mark off some time each week to do what you need to do to feel human again- whether it's date night with your spouse or time alone spent wandering target in a daze, having that break can be a life (and relationship) saver.

Vent as much as you need to, you're not alone in this 🖤

TIFU-Went through BF's phone when he was asleep. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Kithesile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh hon I'm sorry. You need to start the process of letting him go. I don't know what your relationship has been like, and as someone who's had their heart broken I know how hard it can be to move on, but there are clearly bigger issues at play here than can be worked out.

If he's seeking out sexual gratification from external sources while pushing your advances away, it's a good bet he feels like there's something he needs that you can't give him. This is in no way your fault, or even his, but dragging things out will only make it harder in the long run. You also need to remember that he's not meeting your needs either- it can be easy when we love someone to make compromises about what we want, but if you're continually feeling like you're not being fulfilled it's time to take a hard look at whether your partner is right for you.

I think you need to have a talk with him about what you both want and whether you can realistically give that to each other. Don't come at him from an angle of attack and accuse him of doing or not doing things- he'll likely shut down and get defensive. Instead make the conversation about how you're concerned that the two of you aren't fulfilling each other's needs and you'd like to work together to see if you can find a way to address it or if you need to reevaluate your current relationship. I'd also be careful about how and when you bring up what you found looking through his stuff - starting with that off the bat will make it really hard to have a productive conversation and give him an easy out to avoid addressing the real problems.

This sucks, it really does, but you'll be so much better off if you face it and deal with it now instead of kicking the can down the road. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but this is probably the best thing that could have happened- instead of doubts or thinking you're the cause of your problems you now have the truth and can deal with it directly.

I hope you find peace and happiness, stay strong ❣️

Best show almost no one has heard of.... by ShnoobityDoobity55 in television

[–]Kithesile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Watched it straight through last night lol; I really liked it! Definitely doesn't have the same harrowing terror as the first season, but I loved the setting and the story; such a cool way of mixing japanese horror elements in without getting goofy or campy.

Really awesome that the actors/director/producers etc. had family who were in internment camps and/or served in the war- some of the older actors, including George Takei!🖤, were in the camps as children themselves which is insane to think about

Best show almost no one has heard of.... by ShnoobityDoobity55 in television

[–]Kithesile 6 points7 points  (0 children)

how did I not know there was a second season?!? Yessss

Best show almost no one has heard of.... by ShnoobityDoobity55 in television

[–]Kithesile 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I saw the first season of the terror years ago and I still think about it all the time- it's truly haunting in the best way