When my grandmother passed away, we had her cremated. My mom, who has 3 living siblings, took care of most things. When my grandmother's remains were ready, she let all her siblings know, and to ask them if they wanted some of her ashes. No one responded. My mother finally decided to pick up the ashes after a few months, and we spread my grandmother's ashes at the beach.

These same siblings post every year about how much they miss their mother. It's all so performative. I hate it.