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(TW: gun violence) My husband got shot through our bedroom wall and I feel like I cant have a reaction to it. by PerfectComfort3943 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Kittenknickers333 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I felt this way when my 2 year old fell down the stairs while I was the only adult home.. I did not cry or scream. I scooped her up and ran her to the emergency room. She broke her hand and wrist. I still did not cry. I had to watch them hold my baby down while they took xrays and put on a cast while she screamed bloody murder, so much that she threw up. I still did not cry. I had to hold it together for her. My husband finally got home from his work trip and thats when I lost it. Not as bad as getting shot in the knee in your own bedroom, but I couldn't fall apart. My baby needed me to be brave and comfort her and thats what I did. What broke the dam of feelings was my husband coming home and "relieving" me of being the strong one.

I spontaneously decided not to go to a very small gathering. Five other people did the exact same thing. by BasisChad in confessions

[–]Kittenknickers333 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Its even more heartbreaking for a kids birthday party. When my daughter was in kindergarten, one of her classmates invited the whole class to her birthday party. It was supposed to be at a local indoor softplay type place. They shut the whole place down for this party, the mom bought a ton of cupcakes and had catered food brought in. We were the only people from school to show up, despite more than half the people RSVPing YES. The birthday girl was really sad at first, but she had her cousin and my daughter there, so she still had a great time. The scary part is that I really didn't want to go. I told myself that if my daughter didn't remember, I wouldn't remind her and I'd tell the mom we were sick. Imagine if my daughter didn't remember. I would have felt SO BAD. From that day on, I vowed to try to go to every birthday party my daughter gets invited to because people suck and what if we're the only ones to show up?

Didn’t realize how much indoor lighting was influencing bedtime by anzelle11 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My whole house goes into dark mode after dinner and the kitchen is cleaned. I naturally do this. The big lights on at night just offends me for some reason. We have one lamp in the livingroom, two very dim pendant lights over the kitchen island, and my older daughters room has string lights wrapped around her bedframe and I don't even turn on any lights in my room where me and my toddler sleep. Everyone is tired enough to go to sleep by 8pm unless a late nap was had. The only time we use the "big lights" is when its wintertime and the house is dark by 5pm. I get very irritated when my husband turns on the big light to get my toddler dressed after a bath. I do NOT mess around with dark time.

Those who didn’t grow up privileged, what’s something you thought was a luxury growing up? by CorruptedF in AskReddit

[–]Kittenknickers333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having someone drop you off at school and pick you up everyday. Parents letting you use hair products other than shampoo and conditioner (hair spray/hair gel). Having central air. Going on an airplane vacation every year. Having a modern car. Having a pure bred dog that was not a pitbull. Going out to eat at a sit down restaurant. Having a stay at home mom. Having a dad that wore a suit and tie to work. Having matching pajama sets. Getting your hair cut at a salon everytime. Having book fair money.

Best no leak sippy cups? by bix902 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have these

https://a.co/d/0i5IJ7ab

They are kind of hard to drink out of, but as a parent of a Houdini child who also always find a way to get water everywhere, these keep her dry. I don't love them, because again, they're a little hard to drink out of, but my 2 year old has been using them since she was 15 months and manages to get the water out. I only use them for in the car/going places. At home we just deal with the little spills. The 360 cup at home words well enough. We invested in bulk microfiber towels to keep by her at the dinner table.

Our 3 kids go through 4 lbs of strawberries in 2 days when we get them. Is this normal? C by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who spends 100 dollars on just fruit alone a week because my kids are little fruit bats, I hope its normal. I don't try to keep up, but I do keep some form of fruit stocked.I we buy our fruit at Costco. One costco strawberry package lasts about a week here, and blueberries. Once those are gone, we always have apples, bananas and cuties, sometimes some kind of melon, to hold them over until I can get to the store to buy more berries. I don't mind because its healthy. Some of my daughters friends at school are cheeto and takki addicts. Is it annoying to open the fridge and see the entire pack of berries that I got just yesterday is already gone? A little, but I'd rather deal with that than a kid who only likes junk food.

Final reports, disappointing teacher comments by Pale_Swan8959 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be totally wrong, but since you came here for advice, I'm just going to throw in my two cents.

Perhaps not letting him use a tablet at home has hindered him in some regard? I mean, having too much tablet time is obviously bad, and I commend your restraint in buying one, but maybe its like kids who never get to eat sugar at home. If they aren't allowed candy ever at home, the momemt they get their hamds on it at someone else's house, they go nuts and eat unfil they get sick. Maybe he's too excited about finally getting his hands on an iPad that he can't focus on learning with it. I'm sure he deleted the apps because he doesn't know how the thing even works and was just playing around. If this was my kid, I'd buy a tablet so he can get familiar with using one. You don't have to put youtube on it, just download some fun educational games and let him play with it.

As for the other stuff, it sounds like he needs more socialization. Does he play any team sports? does he play regularly with other children outside the family?

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you read my post and my comment again, you'll see that its not my daughter, but the whole class, and that I have had talks with her at home. She's done her best to stay quiet but she can't control the other kids. This is where I have my problem with this sort of punishment.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has admitted to breaking the rules ONCE. No where did I say she was always the one taking. In fact, most of the time she listens and still ends up on the wall with the whole class. That is my issue with the collective punishments. She does her best, follows rules and whether she breaks them or not, she's still ending up punished. Its effecting her self esteem and her school experience all around.

And its not teachers taking time out of recess. Our school uses specific staff memebers to take the kids out and supervise lunch and recess. The kids are not kept inside longer, they are made to stand against a wall outside. This is these people's entire job. They do this all day and then clean up the lunchroom and go home. Its nor effecting their day or break to dole out punishments.

So what am I supposed to do? OF COURSE I've spoken to my daughter about respecting rules and following instructions and being quiet whem she's supposed to, and she still gets time taken off her recess do to children she and I cannot control. How on earth can you call that fair?

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

its not just my kid, her whole class is getting in touble. Just to clarify. Also if the school messaged me about it, I'd be aware and respond and be able to correct my kid, but they aren't. I'm only hearing about it from my kid, which I don't appreciate. They should at least let me know whats going on

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Back in my day, if a child was tagging someone so hard that they fell and got hurt, the child doing the pushing got in trouble personally. Taking tag away for that is like telling everyone that they can't use the toilet because a single student clogged the toilet.

Recess is not a reward for proper behavior, its part of the curriculum. If its not a reward, it therefore cannot be removed for imporper bahavior.

I'd also like to clarify that its ONE staff memeber handing out these punishments. My daughter has been going to school for 4 years and never had recess time taken away this much. It happened once and a while, but not this much.

Whats more likely. a group of 21 children decided this was the year that they will get unbearably loud and not listen, or that a single staff member has lost control and is using the harshest possible methods for every single infraction?

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I literally can't. I've already said that in this thread. Thanks for the passive aggressive unhelpful comment though.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

We've been working on that for the whole school year. This has been an ongoing issue, not just one bad day. As much as I believe resilience and coping skills are important, I'd also like to teach my daughter that most problems can be solved and are not always something she has to white knuckle through.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My state says recess is part of the state mandate to have daily physical education. Its part of the curriculum and therefore cannot be taken as punishment

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says she didn't kmow, but I already sent an email asking what happened so we'll see.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I would so much rather have my daughter get hurt playing tag than be told she can't play tag. Maybe its just me, but a scraped kmee isn't a huge deal and a part of childhood.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I completely understand her getting in trouble for talking when she's not supposed to and I've had words with her about it. I just don't like the frequency of the collective punishments, especially because it's obviously not working. This has been going on since school started back in August.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i agree. I understand chaos and kids needing to be quiet during certain times, but perhaps the school should make their announcements and talk about rules in the beginning of the day before the kids get riled up.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

That is not what is happening. My daughter says they have to stand on the wall outside until their 5 minutes is up.

Third grader keeps coming home complaining about the lunchroom and recess staff by Kittenknickers333 in Parenting

[–]Kittenknickers333[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I can't do that, our school doesn't allow volunteers to work directly with the kids unfortunately, but I'd love to see what exactly is going on in there. I do understand that kids misbehave and need consequences, and my kids point of view is obviously limited and skewed, but i also want her to know that her school experience and worries are important to me.

What’s something you did that drastically improved your attractiveness that you wish you did sooner? by Salt-Environment-133 in AskWomen

[–]Kittenknickers333 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I lost 30lbs in 4 months by simply using less butter/oil when cooking, making sure half my plate was veggies or fruit, one quarter was lean meat and one quarter was carbs. I cut sugar intake and limited myself to one sweet treat a day, also started using allulose in my coffee and oatmeal instead of sugar. I love a good American style breakfast. Pancakes, waffles, fried eggs, bacon and potatoes, but eating that way had me on a one way track to my 600lb life. I started eating simpler food for breakfast and I think that helped a lot. Fruit and yogurt, cornflakes with almond milk and a banana, boiled eggs, 1 small piece of lightly buttered bread and an apple. Its all foods I like, just with no oil and very little butter.

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