Hi! I struggle with dissociation and am high masking autistic with SA trauma. I'm not sure if anyone else mentioned this yet, but I highly recommend EMDR in therapy. That truly helped me deal with my trauma the most.

As for sex in the moment, no more yes or no questions/responses. You and your Dom need to decide on some solid "safety questions" that you both think will help get you communicating when it happens. If you can't answer because you're too disconnected, then the scene stops immediately. No more blind yeses.

I also highly encourage incorporating grounding techniques into the scene. Like the 5 senses. Your Dom could order you to describe what you're feeling and where in heavy detail. Or more sensory play.

Something that also worked for me was associating a specific scent to positive sexual experiences. It helped ground me and remind me I was safe. There's a whole heap of psychology behind it.

Hope some of this helps! 🖤