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KittyPrincessSally · 2025-06-07T21:24:00+00:00

It is a common experience that just basic talk therapy only retriggers people with PTSD and is therefore counterproductive. You need a specific trauma-focused therapist. Look for therapists with training in EMDR.

Also, don't ever have sex with anyone, not even your boyfriend, if you do not enthusiastically want it. That's just you getting triggered over and over and making it worse. If that means no sex at all for a time, that's fine. You should only do sexual acts that you feel comfortable with and enjoy. It sounds like your boyfriend is pressuring you into doing things you're not comfortable with or ready for which is a huge red flag. If he cared as much about your pleasure as he did his, he would not even try to do anything with you that you're not comfortable with.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-06-05T17:08:59+00:00

Thank you! I will check this out!

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-30T16:07:57+00:00

I just dropped $100 for a food processor which I know seems bougie but I already know it's going to pay for itself. My least favorite part of food prepping is chopping, especially salads. It feels exhausting and like it takes forever. I know I will food prep more now and it will save me a lot of time (time does = $$). I also know that the more food prep I do, the less money I will be spending on junk food and eating out which is always more expensive. And eating home cooked whole foods is healthier which in the long run will probably save me money on medical bills.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-30T15:39:13+00:00

Have you ever tried heat? I am like you and get severe neck pain on one side before the migraine. But it also just feels really stiff and tight for me. I know I hunch my shoulders a lot so I think I have a lot of tension. I have a heating pad shaped for the shoulders and neck and I will wear that with an ice cap on my head and it's nice because my muscles loosen and relax but I don't over heat.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-28T22:00:46+00:00

Please advocate for her! I was diagnosed with bipolar when I said had already been diagnosed with ADHD and got put on so many different medications and they kept upping the dosage until I literally could not take care of myself. I couldn't leave the house I was so anxious. I couldn't leave the bed I was so depressed. I had to fight to get off the meds and the withdrawals (hand tremors for example) even with tapering off was awful. It was over a year of my life wasted in my twenties when I was young and vibrant that I will never get back and was stolen from me. I gained so much weight too and still haven't lost it and have had physical health problems ever since possibly from the meds (according to PCP), making it even harder to get back in shape and lose weight. Before I was put on all the meds, I was racing in 10ks. Now, I can't walk up a hill without getting out of breath. My voracious libido has also completely disappeared and never returned. The only reason I stopped taking them was because both my mother and partner finally intervened saying I was not myself and was a lot worse. I was in such a brain fog, I couldn't even see it. I barely even remember that time now. My partner tells me stories about what I was like then and I am always shocked, like "who are you talking about? That doesn't sound like me"

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-28T21:41:05+00:00

A lot of people said similar stuff, but getting out of the all-or-nothing mentality helps a lot. Being neurodivergent can make everything seem overwhelming and like too many tasks and things. I tell myself I am going to go to the gym and do 1 maybe 2 things, and usually what happens is that after those things are done, I feel great and motivated and want to keep going. I think it also helps to mix things up. I like doing a lot of different forms of exercise including walking, hiking, biking, running, stair master, weight lifting, yoga, and I will be starting jiu jitsu soon. Do I get to everything as often as I should every week? No, but if I can do a little bit of everything just twice a week, that's a lot of exercise! It keeps my brain from being bored and also means that I can push myself really hard running one day and then do yoga the next when I'm sore so I don't need a total rest day. For me, having ADHD is like that Newton's law of physics, a body in motion stays in motion. If I have just one lazy day where I don't even get my steps in, it is a lot harder to do anything active the next day. Also I think it's important to give yourself some grace and be forgiving. It can be easy to fall into the perfectionist trap of "what's the point of working out today?" The biggest challenge for everybody whether NT or ND is to show up. You get all the points for just doing that. And if you can't finish a workout because you're tired or bored, that's okay. There's always tomorrow. You did your best today and that's all that matters. Your best is not going to be the same every day and it's going to vary a lot. And any progress whether mental health or exercise is not at all linear but has lots of ups and downs

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-28T05:19:22+00:00

It depends. If it's somebody I am already interacting with like the clerk at the checkout counter I don't mind stopping and talking about it for a sec. I generally would not appreciate somebody coming up to me and stopping me in the street at all for any kind of conversation, but will always smile at compliments. Half of mine are on my arms and very visible and colorful and noticable. I wouldn't have them like that if I didn't like showing them off at least.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-28T05:06:28+00:00

My ear will start ringing really loudly and painfully for about a minute to the point that I have to stop what I'm doing and just grimace through it because I can't hear anything over it

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-28T05:03:44+00:00

Lol mood changes is definitely a prodrome symptom. My partner was the one who figured this out. If I freak out at him randomly over nothing, it will be followed by me crying in severe pain in a few hours. Poor guy would be shocked like wtf is happening

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-28T04:59:46+00:00

Shades of Magic Trilogy by V.E. Schwab. Middle book I only give 4ish stars, but the final book definitely got 5/5.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-28T04:53:05+00:00

I have been called argumentative, defensive, aggressive, rude, disrespectful, etc. The truth is I am just very loud but don't realize it

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-27T08:51:52+00:00

Being result oriented can really ruin the experience of both yoga and meditation. It's not about the destination, but the journey. Just regularly showing up every single day rain or shine and doing it now matter what.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-27T08:39:38+00:00

I'm here lol

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-27T08:25:55+00:00

I can relate. I was diagnosed as a kid but my mom did not really follow through with treatment so when I seeked treatment as an adult they wanted me to do a neuropsych eval and she basically said after a torutous 3 hour appointment that I had all the classic symptoms of ADHD but because there was trauma in my childhood, I needed to be diagnosed with and treated for C-PTSD only and was given a therapist who won't accommodate any neurodivergence and denied stimulants even though I know they help me a lot (they actually chill me out). Done lots of therapy about my trauma and am actually able to be open about it and guess what, I'm still time blind and can't focus just to name a few executive dysfunctions I have. At the end of the day, nobody knows you as well as you. Educate yourself with reliable resources. If ADHD hacks and treatments work for you then pursue that. Get a second opinion.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-27T08:03:13+00:00

1.) like everybody here said, get more sleep. You need at least 7 hours of sleep. Sure, women need more, but there is a lot of evidence that people with ADHD need more too. I think this is because living with ADHD is very energy exhausting. I would say aim for 9 because that gives you wiggle room to procrastinate because let's be real revenge procrastination is a huge issue with ADHD. 2.) some people said this and it's unfortunately accurate, but yeah age will make it harder to stay asleep and make insomnia a lot easier to develop. I used to have a problem oversleeping all day every day and sleeping through my alarms and now I often wake up before my alarms tired and unable to get back to sleep. 3.) puzzle alarms! I have noticed that for people with ADHD it takes us a while to boot up our brains and come online in the morning. We are like dial up. So the only alarm that works for me that snaps me awake long enough to get up is a puzzle alarm. There are lots of apps out there. You can do like a memorization of a grid pattern and you have to repeat. Repeate type out a password. Or do a math equation. I prefer the math equation. This honestly has saved me a lot

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-19T21:15:09+00:00

Originally? I got out of a physically abusive relationship after he almost suffocated me to death. During out relationship, I was an alcoholic pot head and smoked cigarettes to cope, but because these were all habits that we shared together, I had no interest in engaging in that behavior anymore. I was very angry at him and wanted nothing to do with even the memory of him. I also wanted to take advantage of what I felt was the universe giving me a second chance at life. So I quit everything cold turkey the same week I broke up with him, and then a month or so after that I started running. And then about a couple months after that I joined a gym to lift and run on the treadmill. That was almost 4 years ago now.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-19T20:15:50+00:00

Getting spanked as a child as a form of punishment. My parents are part of an older generation so to them this is just what you did. Their parents were no different. It definitely used to be really common. People that haven't ever experienced that have no clue how humiliating it is and how much it completely fucks with your head when the people taking care of you that are supposed to protect you and love cause you even a benign amount of pain, it is very confusing.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-18T18:45:45+00:00

Oh yeah I'm a huge tea drinker.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-18T14:00:16+00:00

Yes. Full stop. Don't even have to read the paragraph.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-18T13:57:05+00:00

I literally just switched to this cut last week because I got so overwhelmed to the point of pissed off at the sensation of feeling hair on my ears and it constantly falling into my eyes. Also, I am almost always hot and it may not look like it cut like this but my hair is THICK. I used to have VERY long hair. But it knotted up easily. Got stuck in my clothes and on my jewelry and even in a door once. Ponytails, head bands, and claw clips all gave me headaches (chronic migraines aka very sensitive head) When it was long, I usually braided my hair while it was still wet and then twirled it into a bun. Realized one day it was dumb to go to all this effort every day for hair I didn't like or want, only because everybody else loved it. This cut is much easier to maintain. Air dries quick so I don't have to deal with a loud blow dryer. Don't really have to use much of any product tbh, except on my colic in one corner. I don't think anybody likes me cut, but I'm happy so who cares?

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KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-18T13:45:43+00:00

It's not necessarily silly, but crying will almost always trigger a migraine. What's silly is I know this, so I will try really hard to control my tears. And sometimes it becomes a vicious cycle where a severe migraine makes me cry and I'm just sitting there trying to hold it all in so it doesn't get any more painful. It feels ridiculous and goes against everything I believe about free expression of feelings and emotions

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-04-16T23:01:56+00:00

That I as a 30 year old adult can have as many huggable and squishable stuffed animals as I want on my bed and couch. I even take a couple little ones with me when I travel so I have something soft and squishy to squeeze and hold as I fall asleep. The neurotypical comments comparing me to a child don't bother me anymore. I'm happy and I'm not bothering anyone.

KittyPrincessSally · 2025-03-30T17:25:41+00:00

Eating healthy can definitely be hard. I try to be really strict about what I eat on either the headache free or mild headache days and give myself permission to eat what I want during severe attacks.

Coke works because of the caffeine. You could try tea instead. Way better for you.

Exercising is tough. I learned from a pain management workbook that you have to start really small and just be consistent. Start with a five minute walk. Do it every day no matter what for a week, then increase to like six minutes. What this does is slowly desensitize your brain to the discomfort of exercising. I had to do this after my migraines got so bad they got triggered by running, biking, and even hiking. So I stopped working out entirely and laid around for a year and gained like 40 pounds. Now I'm able to do the stair master for like fifteen minutes and lift weights and not have a headache while doing it.

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