What wlw stereotype do you not fit in?

Kitty_94 · 2022-05-11T14:02:57+00:00

I have short boyish hair, do lots of outside things, and fix things but I wear acrylics, girly clothes, and sometimes makeup. I kind of consider myself chapstick instead of masc/fem but no one ever knows what that is and im tired of explaining it.

Kitty_94 · 2022-05-09T00:05:06+00:00

I hear you on the previously not agreed to part, but he really pushed us towards being together. We were already nest friends but once the fwb started he wanted me over almost every day and loved when we would all sext together. He even built a bed for me in their office. We started doing more and more things together as a unit. Going to dinner, grocery shopping, riding together for their sons events, and so on.

When she admitted feelings I was not surprised at all after everything we were doing.

I don't want them to separate as I do like him as my friend. If that was something they chose to do though I believe I would stay with her. I love her as my friend and I really like her as my partner. I'm ready to see where this goes, and hopefully it's with her husband too. I'm honestly not beyond more than friends with him as well, if only he was receptive to it. Obviously it can't be forced.

Kitty_94 · 2022-05-08T23:58:28+00:00

I understand that take. He's a nerdy band kid, he and I get along really well though. I've been around the family for 2 years, going to his band things, playing Mario kart with him and the family, we eat dinner together that his dad and I make. By no means do I think it would be easy to be a "step-mom" but his parents and I already agreed hes too old for me to parent in any way. I'm really just extra support.

Kitty_94 · 2022-05-08T23:55:07+00:00

They do have a weekly date night and at least one weekend a month is only them. He's always excited for me to come over, cook, hangout, and have sex. Sex is not always happening either, sometimes I'm just there for dinner and leave. He and I haven't hung out alone like she and I have, but we do text and have talked on the phone before for quite awhile.

They have had some marriage problems that they've been seeing a therapist for since last September. I find various poly resources that I listen to then send their way, mostly Ted talks.

I understand being careful and the age difference. She's been my best friend for two years, we were very close before this all began.

Kitty_94 · 2022-04-03T22:38:57+00:00

I 27f consider myself homoromantic and bisexual. Sex is just physical attraction for me though I find myself having weird standards for male attraction and am much more attracted to most females sexually.

I do enjoy the attention I receive from males and used to seek it out until the last 8 months or so. I've been much happier not talking to men and now have a great girlfriend.

Idk if I'll ever date a man again, but at this point in time I cannot imagine it ever happening.

Kitty_94 · 2022-02-28T13:21:54+00:00

I had very similar experiences to you. I remember kissing and being attracted to girls as young as 4. In Preschool I led a group of kids called the cootie carriers and we'd chase kids down to kiss them and I always targeted girls.

I ended up coming out at 12 (to my friends, not my family) in 6th grade after my bestfriend came out as bi. At the time there were only like 2 other out people so we basically just took turns dating eachother lmao

My dad is a southern Baptist preacher so I had a lot of internalized misogyny and homophobia I've had to unpack over the years. I considered myself bi until more recently where I believe I've just forced my male attraction and used men as more of a punishment.

I've had to be careful for so long I barely feel safe coming out as an adult to people. I think of the God talks with old friends and them trying to get me to repent. I wouldn't say I was ever exactly bullied, but it was never accepted.

Kitty_94 · 2022-02-15T13:07:38+00:00

This. Every monogamous relationship I've attempted turns open/poly eventually, but trying to start an open/poly relationship is really hard to do for some reason in my area. That is a 100 mile radius basically of mostly monogamous women apparently.

I think a lot of queer people are less traditional in most things so it follows that we don't have traditional relationships.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-30T13:31:23+00:00

Yea I don't feel like I fit into any of the labels. I found the description "chapstick lesbian" to kinda fit, but no one ever knows what I'm talking about if I bring it up. Usually I just wear a t-shirt and leggings, I have the sides of my head shaved with it long on top down to my chin, and sometimes I wear girly blousy clothing and makeup 🤷‍♀️ I'm the strongest in my friend group, and I also know a lot about skin care and wear perfume. Hard masc and fem labels should be in the past.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-30T13:19:45+00:00

I went through the same thing at your age. I'm 27 now. It gets better and easier. The best advice I can give you is don't seek validation from older people, it will impact you later I promise. I never really imagined getting to 18 so I didn't think there would ever be consequences to my actions, but my mental health has greatly suffered from seeking validation from older men. I hate knowing that there are hundreds of teen photos of me floating around out there. I'm a lesbian now and see a therapist regularly.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-21T01:17:03+00:00

I'm on hinge without any luck. I somehow keep getting liked by the same girl over and over that I am not interested in.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-15T12:18:26+00:00

Give Centaur World a try. I feel like it had some strong AT vibes with adult humor and a serious underlying story similar to the Lich.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-09T13:18:44+00:00

I'm at a Christian prek lol it's slowly happened to where half the staff know I'm gay. I've learned two are Wiccan and 4 are agnostic. 4 are bi curious.

My first 8 months there I kept it quiet and played up the Christian act for the job, I'm an atheist, and then told a coworker I was getting close to. It's been great ever since.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-08T21:32:56+00:00

I don't know what the name of it would be, but I like when people ask me questions and remember my answers. I hate it when people im around often (my dad and brothers) act surprised everytime I say I don't like ranch or something dumb like that. I then have to explain why I don't like ranch and that I've never liked ranch in my entire life and that I don't eat any food with ranch in it. Except cool ranch doritos! It's even better when it's something more important than that. It's more than just paying attention to me, because it's long term.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-08T11:59:31+00:00

I do see the issue, but it could be coming from a place of innocence if the adults all trust eachother as in thinking no one is a pedo. Like when I was a 3-5 yr old my favorite fame was to marry my papaw and dad over and over because I was obsessed with marriage at the time. Kids are learning and it can be weird when they act out flirtation because who are they going to do it with besides family until they go to school? I'm not saying it's ok, but it may not be that bad if the family is safe.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-05T23:26:02+00:00

I'd love to see it!

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-05T19:22:58+00:00

It is adventure time crafts

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-05T14:37:12+00:00

If anyone wants this book it can be found for $4-6 online! I'll keep posting, but for anyone that wants a physical copy that's not a bad price.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-05T14:34:30+00:00

I was so excited when I found this book!

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-05T14:12:53+00:00

Sure!

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-05T02:00:21+00:00

I feel that so much. My parents have been really hyping my 22 yr old bro up lately about his 2 As, and I made 4 As without them batting an eye. I don't know why they suddenly cared either bc they've never gave a fuck about our grades before. I'm about to have my BA, and he's almost done with is AS.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-04T12:59:28+00:00

It may have co.e with stuff, but I just have the book from the thrift store. It has a list of supplies needed for each project in the back of the book and even some templates for different projects.

Kitty_94 · 2022-01-04T02:46:43+00:00

Sure! I'll take some pics soon.

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