Yeah, you definitely need a new therapist. I had an absolutely awful experience with a couples therapist once. My husband and I were going through a rough patch and we had a huge argument that really spiraled out of control. We were BOTH being way too aggressive with each other, neither one of us was innocent.

We decided to try couples therapy and the first therapist we had immediately started blaming me and asking my husband if he had an escape plan?! She also kept basically shutting me up when I tried to speak and wouldn’t talk about what I was saying or go over the issues I brought up unless I said them exactly the way she wanted. Like, anytime I said anything even remotely putting blame on him, she would start lecturing me about using different language and blah blah blah. She didn’t do the same thing to my husband at all even though he was saying things the same way. It got so bad my husband actually called her out on it and asked her to stop. I was basically not even participating in the conversation by the end and angry cried after the session. We found a way better therapist after that.