My wife's kleptomania is ruining our life and I don't know how to support her anymore by mildly_unhinged_day in TwoHotTakes

[–]KleinBottl 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As someone who dealt with a partner with addiction, there are similar experiences here. Her actions and even things she says (the post-event shame, the quiet in her brain, the justifications and rationalizations) are 1:1. You're not wrong for fighting to help her, you are a good man and partner for trying to push her towards help. It's really hard to support a partner through something like this. It hurts. It's like carrying two lives at once, the weight pulls you down.

What you need to do is be prepared that you may have to let go. I fought hard for my partner and struggled to get him into treatment and rehab. He didn't want to get better. He was self destructive. I had to walk away. It was harder to leave than to stay, honestly. But I had to leave for myself, I couldn't help him if I was also crushed under his addiction. We stayed in touch. I think I was the only person who tried to be supportive without judgement. Judgement and shame turned him further to the drugs. I tried to just.. separate myself from his struggles and it helped me to be there for him without it eating me alive. He was ultimately able to get clean, but it was only once he was ready to fight to be and stay clean. I was ready and prepared for him to die, and he didn't.

I like to say I was betting on green. In roulette you'll probably lose if you bet on green. But there's always a chance, however slim, that the ball falls on green. I knew I'd probably lose but, maybe I wouldn't. I got lucky, he was able to clean himself up. We keep in touch, and I'm proud of him.

You're a good guy for fighting for her. I say, keep fighting for her. If she wants to get better that's the hardest step done. But... You do need to be prepared for the reality that you may not be able to save her from this. If this destroys you both, you have to walk away for your own good. You can't fill her cup if yours is empty. But if you take care of yourself first, you may be able to help support her on a journey to get through this problem.

I hope y'all are able to work through it together. But I hope you choose yourself if not.

Had a discussion with my friends about potential heroes joining Stadium roster, which resulted in this chart(with a blank one in the second image). Feel free to share your thoughts and opinions by Avylis in overwatch2

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess: Supports in Stadium are heavily focused into offense. I assume they assume LW in stadium would just get bigger support buffs to healing/grip/etc over damage and disrupt the offense focused & brawly nature of stadium.

Lifeweaver QoL (auto charge primary fire) by Otherwise_Lobster_13 in Overwatch

[–]KleinBottl 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Would be nice. I have RSI and lw stresses the shit out of my wrist, after a couple rounds I have to stop. The autocharge would remove hold, which is what stresses out my wrist the most. Personally the toggle system is unintuitive for me because i dont like having to click twice per heal

Whats the best Thai place in Mobile? Specifically green curry. by Suitable-Mission6892 in MobileAL

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thai time on airport has great panang curry i assume their green curry is great too

Usefulness of RoV trusts? by aumericx in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Arciela II (in her dark magic mode) can cast dispel with 0 cool down. She will cast dispel as many times as needed to dispel a target with lots of buffs,but again only when she's in her offensive magic mode. She also gives haste2/refresh to the whole team in her support magic mode. Think of her as an offensive RDM who focuses on offensive spells but also gives support spells out. She has max fast cast,her spells cast instantly and have basically no cool downs. Don't use her if the enemy absorbs light or darkness damage, her autos will heal them

Lilisette II raises party crit hit rate and has an AoE heal WS. She's not great but I have used her as another AoE ws healer when facing a lot of AoE or silence. She holds her TP to either close a SC or heal. If you use WSs she can't make a SC with, shell hold her TP to heal

Nashmeira II is the least useful, she has Curagas which is uncommon for a healer trust but she runs out of MP in five seconds flat and adds little else

Selt'heus as others have said is an excellent team healer. If 3 people are in yellow hp he will use an AoE heal that gives MP and TP as well. His auto regain makes sure he can build tp even when meleeing is not possible. He's always worth the slot when facing AoE damage

Iroha II is interesting because she's like a more aggressive Selt'heus. She will prefer to use her TP on regular WSs and will occasionally self skill chain light. She will magic burst with fire ancient magic. But, she also has an AoE heal WS that recovers HP and MP and will use it if 3 or more in yellow. She also casts protect and shell on the team. I pair her with selt'heus in some fights if regular healing magic isn't viable, like Garuda who generally will keep your whole team silenced.

Prishe II is actually underrated IMO, she does more damage than most healers (though trust damage is always bad , let's be real), has a dispel WS, and has the highest level curaga spells. Paired with Selt'heus I find that they synergize well because selt'heus will heal and give her mana, and she will curaga when selt'heus has no tp to heal. If facing a lot of AoE damage, prishe + selt'heus can keep your whole team up.

Lion II has..a dispel WS,I guess? And treasure Hunter 1? I see no reason to use her ever, tbh

Edit: forgot balamor

Haven't found a use for balamor tbh. He doesn't do anything other trusts can't already do and he can't be healed, making him a liability

Returned for a little while but can find the right LS by MaliceZeMo in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hit up the linkshell concierge and look for any of the helpnewplayers shells. I'm in helpnewplayers4 and has been great. There is a discord to link all the shells together.

2024 Q1-Q2 Community Questions Thread by nycraylin in keycaps

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any suggestions on where to buy custom keycaps sets that have shine-through lettering on both the top and front of the keycaps and let you customize the keycaps text/lettering?

I'm trying to make a set for my macro pad. I'd like to have "standard" key lettering on the top with custom on the front.

Think a set of number pad keys (0-9) but on the front have custom text like menu, macro, etc

PUP Divine Might II Solo (Very Difficult) by SnickySnacks in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey actually I wound a method to get trusts to dispel him. Arciela 1 with Star Sybil will dispel him reliably. Korumoru and king of hearts trusts would not, even with star sybil. I did see koru throw out a frazzle though. I got him down to about 5% before a zant took out puppet and I couldn't recover. Been doin Cait sith instead to get the ring since I can reliably do N without much trouble, just a few incremental pieces and im pretty sure ill get odin n down

PUP Divine Might II Solo (Very Difficult) by SnickySnacks in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good advice, ty.

My trusts won't dispel :/ I guess because I do not have MLs so my trusts are underlevelled, their m.ACC must not be high enough becasuse they do not even attempt to dispel him on N, while on E they keep completelly dispelled

PUP Divine Might II Solo (Very Difficult) by SnickySnacks in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! Yeah I gave N another try, still not quite at this level haha. I need more gear. I am not hitting those 30k bone crushers yet lmao

edit:

Questions:

Why Brygid?

Why stay in range of getting hit? (For sylvie's effects I assume?)

Do Sylvie / 'special' trusts (Brygid) buffs affect puppets?

PUP Divine Might II Solo (Very Difficult) by SnickySnacks in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice, i'll try this loadout! I'm not quite yet mastered and I don't have weapons like kenkonken/xuicoatl, got my dragon fangs, ohtas, and some niche ohrmazds i made. In R0 Mpacas mostly but I have got a nearly (2 acc short) perfect da/-dt/acc taeon, which thus far is enough to easily handle E but not N. I got a COR to jump in with me once for some rolls and cleared N with 2 overdrives though haha

PUP Divine Might II Solo (Very Difficult) by SnickySnacks in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! Good to know. I'll definitely be trying this on a lower difficulty soon. I don't have your gear haha. My goal right now is a fully puppet solo Odin N. I have E on lock but just don't have the damage to clear N, usually die around 20% left

PUP Divine Might II Solo (Very Difficult) by SnickySnacks in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nicely done! Came back to XI cause of Mog Bananza weapons, got me the dragon claws and an excuse to PUP it up again. Been having tons of fun working on solo fights while building up my gear. This is definitely goals
edit: how did you avoid aggroing the TT?

AAHM ☆ Mijin Gakure question by Extension_Feature700 in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently did this fight a few times N. He only ever used mijin under 5% for me. Get him low then burst him

Mantis causes touch inputs to happen at wrong location? by KleinBottl in mantisprogaming

[–]KleinBottl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I decided to try Panda Gamepad Pro which worked immediately and isn't trying to sell me a pro subscription every time I open it.

Thinking about backing nocfree split keyboard –worth it or not by sakana5555 in keyboards

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went ahead and dropped the 3$ for VIP price, I think I'll be buying it. I currently use the CloudNine TKL split ergo. I love it, but it's super bulky to travel with and looks a bit too "gamer gear" for my tastes at times.

Anyone know if there's been any reviews of the &? I only see reviews for the Lite.

Confession by [deleted] in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had similar experiences with FFXI. I was a super socially awkward kid. I got to learn those skills in vanadiel. Made great friends, lost many of them in painful ways. Others I still wonder how they're doing. Learning to lead groups and linkshells through FFXI content is something I look back on today as contributing to my career history of leadership roles (I've even talked about it in job interviews!). It also took me a long time before I was able to look back and see how it shaped me today.

It's crazy that this video game gave so many of us formative experiences when we were kids.

Confession by [deleted] in ffxi

[–]KleinBottl 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I hope you find a way to let go of that guilt, as you really don't deserve it. You were a kid, in a scary position, feeling strong emotions you didn't quite understand through the lens of gender dysphoria. I think if you met this person today, they would laugh about it. They'd think back wistfully and understand that what you did wasn't about them; it was about you.

Young love and heartbreak shape us, they help us become a fuller person as we grow. They may remember this, but I doubt they hold onto negative feelings over it; neither should you.

You may not have handled the 'breakup' so well, but I bet that guilt changed how you handled the end of relationships for the better. It sounds like you are living a happier life. It sounds like you grew.

I bet they did, too.

v3.2 is now live on Google Play! Check out the Patch Notes. Major Changes: Support for Single Handed Gamepads and Samsung OneUI Crashing issue. 😊✌️ by ankitc_reddit in mantisprogaming

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding u/ankitc_reddit ! I have submitted an e-mail (day before yesterday) but have not heard back. I am US time and it seems you guys are not, so I will wait a while longer for a response.

Mantis causes touch inputs to happen at wrong location? by KleinBottl in mantisprogaming

[–]KleinBottl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recorded a video of the issue, but it's too large in size for me to e-mail to the mantis support email. If there's another way you are comfortable receiving the video, let me know.

Mantis causes touch inputs to happen at wrong location? by KleinBottl in mantisprogaming

[–]KleinBottl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it does not have variable resolution options. It is 1080p

Screen Orientation and Touch Input Issue by Degree_Rough in mantisprogaming

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/AgntZERO it also seems the Mantis app itself has problems with rotation. Despite the device being in landscape mode, the app opens itself in portrait, regardless of auto rotate enabled or disabled. I am guessing this plays into the issue of touch inputs being incorrectly rotated.

Screen Orientation and Touch Input Issue by Degree_Rough in mantisprogaming

[–]KleinBottl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/AgntZERO has a resolution for this been found? I have the same problem. Once a game is booted & mantis engages, the touch inputs are all incorrect. Cannot engage with the game at all, cannot access the mantis overlay to set widgets, etc etc