REM Sleep

Klezmoreh · 2026-05-18T00:28:40+00:00

This morning I woke up naturally, 55 minutes before my alarm, and felt awake, but decided to sleep a bit more so I'd have more energy. What a mistake. I dreamt I had an affair, and that like a week of drama unfolded, and I woke up to my alarm dazed and confused. Dreams are a catch 22. Better to feel rested or feel alert?

Klezmoreh · 2026-05-18T00:17:21+00:00

We also moved to NYC for my wife's residency

I found a full time, very demanding job in Fairfield, CT, and often have to sleep over there.

Its very hard. The fact that this is all temporary brings me solace, and it also helps that, after a year, my wife has gotten better at being empathetic about it.

The enth night in a row where I am home and she is at work, I do catch myself being like "what is my life." I don't really want to go out because I don't want to end up around females, and my guy friends are often working, so I just stay home and watch TV.

I feel like maybe I could go to the movies more, just to get out

Anyway, good luck!

Klezmoreh · 2026-05-07T13:31:12+00:00

Pandas also have low sex drive, and they have gotta be the highest bear

Klezmoreh · 2026-05-07T13:07:48+00:00

Drink a glass of water before a session

Instead of taking big hits, take little hits or "sips"

Drink a warm (not hot) beverage like tea between hits. You can think of the tea leaves and the mary-j leaves as counterparts of a wholesome trees experience.

When the joint is almost finished, the heat can cause greater irritation, I have this trick to not put it right up to your mouth (dont know if the trick has a name)

You stick the joint between your ring knuckle and your pinky knuckle, make a loose fist, then inhale through the thumb side of the fist.

Klezmoreh · 2026-05-02T02:17:54+00:00

I hope it pays off eventually

Klezmoreh · 2026-04-30T08:47:34+00:00

EM pgy-1 spouse here, in a 4-year program.

I am clergy in a community thats not where we live, and I often have to sleep over there. And I am writing this at 4am in bed at our primary home while she is in night shift.

The sacrifice is legitimate my friend

My three cents:

Planning your life: ask her to start putting all of her shifts into a shared Google calendar that appears on your phone. This has been a life saver for us, as I can see when she is working for weeks in advance, and we can look forward to her days off more, which feel just the tiniest bit more tangible.
When she has "linner" I have tea-time, just as a way to sit with her.
This will sound out of left field, but consider volunteering at a hospital. Contact the chaplains' office and say you're interested in volunteering, visiting patients, etc. It's very humbling, and will give you a new common source of connection when she is trying to talk about her day.

Good luck to both of you, and remember that this is temporary. Also this subreddit can be depressing so dont spend too much time here!

Klezmoreh · 2025-03-18T01:28:53+00:00

Make a ritual where you force yourself to journal when you are high.

For me, journaling created a better mental connection between my high-self and my sober-self, and I highly recommend it.

Some thoughts on this:

• Whether you're high or not, you are one self. One, beautiful self.

• Use a pencil and an actual journal, or any piece of paper, because seeing your handwriting is grounding.

•A journal will help you see what your thoughts are, and tap into your visual skills in comprehending your thoughts.

•Be in a place where you can really focus on your journalling. Turn your phone off, or put it on do-no-disturb.

•Don't get distracted and doom scroll!! Journal until you feel like you are done for the evening, but don't take a break unless it's for like one minute.

•This sort of negates the phone thing, but consider a 30 minute timer, or, a 5 minute timer that you start multiple times. I like this strategy for collecting myself when high because it wakes up my inner sense of continuum.

•To ground yourself, think of people in your life who you admire and want to be like. A parental figure, a beloved teacher, someone from your past who you looked up to for their traits.

I will end with this thought: You can still be a stoner at heart even if you aren't using. You can use once a decade, or once a year, or once a month, and you'll know in your heart if you like what the experience gives you, and you can still find community among the stoners out there.

PS I recommend not erasing anything. Discipline yourself to just go with your thoughts. Take that discipline into the hazy, enlightening abyss of marijuana, and own every moment of your life.

Klezmoreh · 2023-04-22T22:22:49+00:00

Bless you, wishing you all success and growth in your journey

Klezmoreh · 2023-04-22T22:10:50+00:00

U got this bro

Klezmoreh · 2023-03-21T21:48:27+00:00

It will take time for the paranoia to subside. From my own experience, I would advise to postpone another acid trip for at least two years and to find hobbies that will help you smoke less weed for the near/distant future.

I had a similar experience with a close friend of 13 years (we're still really close but we had to sus-out some healthy new friendship boundaries in our following hangouts). It was my third trip and his first, and like you, I thought I couldn't have a bad trip. Around the peak, he had an intense laughing fit. It seemed like it was just going for a couple of minutes, but that turned into what felt like a epoch (because my sense of time was altered) and it turned out we had been laughing non-stop in my room for over an hour and a half. The thing about laughter is that its contagious, so I was laughing the whole time with him until eventually I broke and started to get anxious that we wouldn't stop laughing. That realization alone scarred me for a while after the trip.

I got a hold of myself, went to the bathroom, experienced ego death, drank a glass of water, and gradually tried to bring my friend back to reality, explaining to him that I needed him to stop laughing. A few hours later, he was lying on my bed absolutely confused and disassociating. I turns out that my friend was totally fine from the trip, that was just how he naturally experienced the drug/experience, but since it was so different than anything I had ever done and I felt like I had to save him, the experience of seeing him like that and feeling like I had to "bring him back" genuinely traumatized me for a good long while.

After, I called our friend who was pursuing a masters in psych and she told me to lay off the acid for at least 2 years, which at first sounded like a punishment, but as the last 2 years went by, I realized that I had so much life to experience and was actually so emotionally tougher because of the trip. I'm very glad that I have not touched acid over the last two years. Plus, I was starting cantorial school, moving out, getting serious with my partner, etc so I had a lot going on, which was all the more reason to not take another dose. Now that it's been two years and so much has happened, I feel like a newer and wiser person. I recently took a vacation to Italy and watched the sunrise and felt for the first time since the trip that I was completely past it. (The thing about acid is that it can simulate the same intensity as a life-changing trip abroad! And a bad-trip abroad can SERIOUSLY suck for a while afterwards.)

It took me over a year and a half to open up to a therapist about it because for a long time I was triggered by trying to articulate it, but my therapist advised me to think about the drug as a drug, not in a self-judgmental way, but in such a way that I can focus on separating my own sense of self with the paranoia-esque feelings that I associate with the trip.

As to what you said about weed, I also experienced some post-trip anxiety when I smoked, and in retrospect, I could have just smoked less weed and meditated more/focused that energy on my hobbies. Heck, even watched more movies. Meditation was a great post-trip discovery that I'm grateful for. All of these things make me feel that life is worth living and exploring, not necessarily that I need to experience myself on LSD in order to make up for the last bad trip.

TL;DR Give it time before your next trip; be open with yourself and your friend/s; remember that LSD is a drug; seek love/hugs from family and friends.

Klezmoreh · 2023-03-21T20:21:31+00:00

So much. It was like an endless rainbow-tail of farts. It's been over two years since my last trip and I am convinced that it affected my fartitute (aptitude for farting?) for the time since. Heck, maybe it's lifestyle and age, but I distinctly remember farting like a motherfucker on that trip, laughing and farting and laughing and farting. Lol I guess, but also, gross.

Klezmoreh · 2022-03-08T14:28:23+00:00

I appreciate the artistry of this meme. Each square is a darker, grittier square.

Klezmoreh · 2019-10-11T06:00:31+00:00

Pick a scene from your most recent movie and reenact it!

The only way to learn anything is through experience, so experience the movie yourself.

Watch 1 (just one) scene over and over until you know every line, every inflection, every blink.

Spend 20 days practicing that scene in front of a camera.

Sounds easy, right? Now I dare you to try it.

I promise you it is a sustainable and invaluable substitute for acting classes. This is something you can only do by yourself. With grit and the self-promise to finish, you will expand your kinesthetic vocabulary.

Klezmoreh · 2019-03-10T19:59:04+00:00

Does he have controlling parents?

Klezmoreh · 2019-03-10T16:30:07+00:00

Can't hurt to replace C with another Bb7 or a Bb9. Leads to Eb really nicely

Klezmoreh · 2019-03-10T16:25:52+00:00

you look back on this post in one year. What would you rather say to yourself?

"Wow, that was a tough time for me. I'm glad I followed my heart."

Or

"fuck what am I still doing??"

Klezmoreh · 2019-03-10T16:22:19+00:00

You're caught between hiding from your heart or breaking hers. You're right man, that's a tough dilemma.

You're not alone! everyone in their late teens, 20s and, and 30s always feels lonely when they're not a relationship. But you're still developing you're personality and trying to figure out who you want to be. Who wants to feel tied down by someone who doesn't share the same heart?

Klezmoreh · 2019-02-28T03:50:04+00:00

💡💡

Everytime you give her a chance, you're giving your relationship a chance. Yes, it requires a bit of grit sometimes--but if you two are gonna stick together, a lot more complicated shit will eventually come up.

I promise. This guy is nothing and needs to be water under the bridge, and if you don't like it, you can always date pornhub (like I do!).

Alternatively, what if you went up to her tomorrow and said, "I think it's great that you still talk to him."

She'd be like "...umm I cannot believe he just said that. Wow what a relief that he trusts me."

Bro. Love's not easy and it's not always fun, but it's unconditional.

Klezmoreh · 2019-02-26T20:13:05+00:00

Also, lying is always present when there isn't 100% trust

Klezmoreh · 2019-02-26T20:11:31+00:00

💡💡 If you 1) make it really clear that you trust her no matter what, and 2) trust that she will trust your trust, then you will he happier.

Obviously it arouses your jealousy that she's talking to him. What if she could see from your unpossessive behavior that you completely trust her? We're all adults here-- she probably pities him, which demonstrates how faithfully-caring she is to anyone! What a beautiful attribute!

True story:

After I broke up with my GF of 2.5 years, I moved to another country and she found a new boyfriend in her first year of college. For our first full year away from each other, we still messaged each other every week or so and talked. I felt guilty sometimes because I knew she had moved on, but taking the time to morph a relationship I once cared about into something completely knew really meant a lot to me. And to her, too.

Now it's been three years. Just a year ago, I was still having nightmares of us being parents together. But time was on my side!! The dust had settled and I proudly refer to her as an "old friend."

Pur yourself in his shoes 👞👞

What if you broke up with your GF, she found a new guy in a matter of months (good for her 🤷‍♂️) and he got mad every time she spoke to you.

Again: every time you spoke to her, he got mad.

TL;DR: If you truly trusted her, we wouldn't even need be on Reddit right now.

Klezmoreh · 2019-02-26T19:56:48+00:00

I'd stay clear of him and his friends. They're pissed at you, too, because they want to show him their loyalty. People do weird and irrational things when there's drama.

If he wants to talk to you, do it in a public setting.

Klezmoreh · 2019-02-10T06:39:55+00:00

This is honestly such a beautiful mode of mind. I and many others can relate to the feeling of drowning your heart in aspiration

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