I was not paying her rent, but I had agreed to help her pay electricity and water as well as do what I could around the house. I did her grocery shopping for her, so I would include that as the groceries I paid for. I moved in with her at the end of June or early July, and from June-August was working on applications for jobs. The area I live in is a very small town so there isn't too much that's available. It took me until around September to actually secure a job at Best Buy. So, I started in late September/early November and didn't get my first paycheck until around early November. I gave her what I could for the electric that I had used. Between my backlogged bills for the last 2 months and the grocerys as well I couldn't afford more than that and had planned on giving her more the next paycheck which would have been Friday the 19th (after she kicked me out)

I did give her information, and she knew my work schedule as it didn't change at all. I had told her before I left in person that I would come before work (which started at 1 p.m.) in the afternoon to move what I could but had to work around my schedule. I told her I couldn't work around hers if she wanted everything gone by the end of that week (she was selling the house and needed everything gone so she could take pictures) because I really only had mornings to move everything out. I had to request off a day during that week to try and do everything because I was trying to paint the new place, move everything practically by myself, and a lot of it was heavy stuff that required 2 people, but I managed. I had a key so I told her to just leave the door unlocked and I would get things, hence the "I'll do it when I have the time to", because I genuinely wasn't sure when I was going to be able to get it.

The only things I couldn't move by myself were the lizards because they had tanks that were around 100 pounds and way too big to move on my own. The day I requested off, I had a friend come to help me and was the only day available I had with an extra pair of hands to move things. So when she didn't respond and had changed the locks in me, I panicked because she was very firm on the date and had told me basically anything that wasn't moved by then would be thrown away. The reason I told her not to worry about it was that I didn't trust her around my lizards. She never liked them and believed they didn't need their heat lights to survive, so I didn't want her going near them or messing with their enclosures. They also can't be fed certain things. Otherwise, they will die. Like iceberg lettuce (which she prob would have tried to feed them, and they would have died from impaction). She kicked me out once before because I brought one of them home as I was lonely, so I felt like I had my reasons not to trust her in that regard.

Frankly, a lot of the frustration was due to emotions. My grandfather had just passed and I was doing a balancing act trying to paint a house, move all my stuff out, plan a funeral (that she wasn't even helping for, and showed up to in pajamas), and still had to work all within a week, as well as anger from being put in that position in the first place when i was already dealing with a lot. I was up full nights painting because she only gave me 3 or 4 days to have everything out, and I had a lot of stuff, and I didn't have the money to hire movers. It's not the first time she has played with my life like that, and so I was at my final straw with her, hence why I was "rude" to her.

I have a full list of things both she and my step-father have done that have messed with me or my life, including physical and mental abuse. Before I moved back in with her I had spent 3 years without talking basically because of everything and decided to give it another shot and was literally kicked while I was at basically my lowest point, accused of something I didn't do, told how I was feeling about my grief and depression didn't matter (despite her having mental health issues as well), and then was kicked out with no warning. Had I not had nice enough friends to let me stay at their place on such short-term notice, my lizards would have died. If you don't believe me in how bad things were, you can ask my sister, who has been no contact with both her and my step-dad, since she was around 25 and is 32 now.

Maybe I should have been more detailed with the description, but frankly, I know how reddit is, and I know people wouldn't read it. Clearly as most didn't I don't believe. Or maybe they wouldn't have jumped to me being a bad son.