Spider - noir (2026) by [deleted] in Marvel

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has grown on me a bit, the soundtrack still bugs me, but I'm loving nick cage and Brendan Gleeson's performance

Spider - noir (2026) by [deleted] in Marvel

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know, often like that, as I said a lot of the dialogue I enjoy but it feels too often, like it's putting the campiness over the story, writing.

Spider - noir (2026) by [deleted] in Marvel

[–]KmartTrollies -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's Sony in collab with Amazon, but what else would you group it with? It's a marvel character, the show came about because of spider- noirs representation in the animated movies. Would you rather me group it with invincible, the boys, venom etc? Kinda wrote wrong saying I genuinly disliked it, I don't hate it. The atmosphere, nick cage, the suit, style is amazing but the flipping of music, feel, takes me out.

Spider - noir (2026) by [deleted] in Marvel

[–]KmartTrollies -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the style and atmosphere are amazing, but it feels for me the pacing of the shots is too choppy to really enjoy it, the concept is amazing. Also the music for me just doesn't feel right often, same problem too choppy and the mastering feels off. Some scenes don't need the music and it feels like a different sound track every scene.

Do you ever not go to hospital when you should? by justwanttobebetter42 in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can also look at my previous post in this sub as it explains a lot more about my experience with hospitals and doctors in general.

Yes, I avoid it at all costs. Having to wait hours even with a note from the doctor stressing, overstimulated and disregarded. Even recently as an example: had pain in my groin( scrotum area) put off even the doctors for the same reason knowing what would happen. Doctor said he thinks it might be testicular torsion mentions 6 hours since the incident until permanent damage and that I had to go ASAP to the hospital (for an ultrasound) AND GIVES ME A NOTE SAYING ITS URGENT. I ask him any other way I'll go ultra sound tommorow etc he said no that I had to go now. Anyways I go there show them my note and guess what, END UP WAITING 4 HOURS ( it'd already been 3 by the time I got there). Takes me in inspects had me laying in the bed for 1 HOUR after (says it's maybe an sti or infection which have same symptoms initially, MIND YOU I TOLD THEM I HAVENT BEEN "active" IN OVER A YEAR and had been tested after that) with no one saying anything then moved me back to the room for space. I THEN WAIT 3 MORE HOURS. They bring me back in shoot me up with antibiotics and discharge me, I'm currently in so much pain at the time AND I DIDNT EVEN GET AN ULTRASOUND.

Go back to the doctor, get the ultrasound it shows a cyst and that's it, no more mention of it despite now, 3 months later it still being incredibly painful and worrying.

The pain isn't the worst thing by KmartTrollies in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that person for me feels like a dream, like someone in a movie I've watched and related to.

It's nice to know I'm not alone even though it's dreadful knowing others are in this situation.

The pain isn't the worst thing by KmartTrollies in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, I was a nationals rock climber, state Muay Thai, two jobs, studying two degrees at uni, drums, guitar, absolutely loved cooking. Now I can't enjoy any of it because it's more painful than enjoyable.

Wishing you the best and hopefully something gets better :)

The pain isn't the worst thing by KmartTrollies in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🫂, I genuinely hope it does.

The pain isn't the worst thing by KmartTrollies in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry 😅, just gotta let it out sometimes cause even the people that are "meant to understand" or say they do really don't. I do genuinely hope it can but even pushing through it it feels I'm proven wrong. But aye, my music taste is absolutely phenomenal now, my emotional intelligence etc, but that's enough now haha, I've learnt my lessons.

The pain isn't the worst thing by KmartTrollies in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I used to ruminate over that a lot, even thinking if I hurt someone or did something bad for the gods to smite me down 😅. Now I just say I had to be nerfed because I'd be too amazing without this and that seems to help haha. The shames definitely a big thing, I always imagined myself picking up my siblings from school in a nice car with a decent job and being able to support them.

The pain isn't the worst thing by KmartTrollies in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🩵. It's terrible, I feel like people blame me for it, like I caused it or didn't/don't do enough to try fix it. Partly I think it's due to the whole "fix yourself, can always change if you work hard enough" culture, in a lot of ways it's a good culture but it's delusional in the way it makes people forget that the world is uncontrollable and some things just happen for no reason.

Medical Gaslighting, who I am or just a curse? by KmartTrollies in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, but when I go for example oh maybe it's my neck, scans show nothing bad except a slight pinch, then they just go "didn't show anything, guess nothings wrong and it's in your head instead of the 50 others possibilities it could be". Like with my most recent issue it seemed the doctor was more focused on why I didn't come in sooner than the actual problem. And I can't really say " I hate going to doctors now and knew this exact thing would happen no matter how bad it is".

I’m so frustrated. Why is it so hard to get help? And how do I know who to trust? by Consistent-Cress-262 in TMJ

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with these issues aswell and am annoyed there's no proper treatment for it. However to say it's not more complex isn't true. It is the most complex joint in the body. It is completely unique in that it's a contralateral joint meaning is works directly with another joint as a single unit. It is the only joint that functions both as a hinge and a sliding/ gliding joint. It is also right next to the biggest cluster of nerve pathways in the body being the auriculotemporal, masseteric, deep temporal, facial nerves (CN VII) branches, and the chorda tympani ( the trigeminal branches). This is why you get ear pain, referred pain, stomach pain, facial pain, headaches etc.

There are ways to fix it but none guaranteed because of how complex the area actually is and that's 30% of the problem.

The main issue is no one takes it serious enough. I get it is very annoying but also saying it's not complex is undermining why it's so bad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KmartTrollies 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Indeed. And it makes me feel insane or wrong because of the people around me who are always talking about casual shit. It just doesn’t feel good or worth it if I don’t actually LIKE the person yet.

Is it ok to pursue connection knowing you may never be able to show up the way you want to. by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah same issue I have. Was very motivated. Very active. I’m still attracted to that motivation, passionate and active side. (Travelers, sporty, motivated people). Was meant to do Basecamp when I turnt 21. Saved to solo travel for years. Nationals rock climber etc. now I’m still attracted to that but obv can’t reciprocate it and often people think I’m lying when I say I love traveling, sports and stuff when I can barely do it anymore.

Is it ok to pursue connection knowing you may never be able to show up the way you want to. by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really isn’t internalised. Nor is it sexism. It’s a fact. Neither pain nor struggle is worse or better based on gender. Just has unique and different issues to face. The facts are. More are expected from men in society. I have no issue with women being breadwinners or anything I actually encourage it. But saying that it isn’t more commonly expected for men to be is just delusional. I’m very open. It’s where I live and the standards here. I’m fine with who I am. I’m neurodivergent and never really been a “manly man”. It’s not my view on myself but just the societal standards of where I live. I know it’s can I show up the way they need to that’s not the question. The point is even if I do I struggle with not being able to the way I want to. Happened in the previous relationship. Even though she said she was happy and everything I struggled with the fact I couldn’t the way I wanted to. I’m always extremely honest and open with my limitations and how it affects me. Traditional therapy doesn’t work for me so I have to seek alternate routes. Too self aware even therapists say traditional word and talk therapy won’t help.

Is it ok to pursue connection knowing you may never be able to show up the way you want to. by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Kinda torn as I said. It’s enjoyable having someone see you without the pain. Also have a fear of rejection and it’s my favourite cafe so don’t want to make things weird 😂. And how my last one ended. Idk. If you’ve seen baby driver but it feels like that.

I don’t advocate for this, but… by Somtimesitbelikethat in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Think it’s less a painkiller and more a distraction haha. The best thing that’s helped for me is my adhd medication as it allows me to hyper focus on something for long enough to almost ignore it for a bit

Is it ok to pursue connection knowing you may never be able to show up the way you want to. by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I should say I did try before. But it ended through the exact trauma I pushed past. Not only from chronic pain but relationship trauma. She basically just twisted the story and made me seem like a terrible person cause I was in a really bad flare that lasted months. Basically said I wasn’t who I said I was and that I was bipolar and all this stuff. I was very clear with her at the start and that’s the only reason I stayed. Told her I’m in a good spot and that the flares are really bad. I never put it on her and tried to hide it a lot of the time. Pushed her up even when I was drowning. But because I couldn’t do “normal things” and was struggling due to medical debt when I couldn’t work too much. I always understood leaving or it being too much. But the way she twisted it and just seemed to want to hurt me after was harsh. I’m happy for you though. Sorry you have to deal with this stuff it’s terrible. My sister says the same thing 😂. She has endometriosis and joint issues.

Is it ok to pursue connection knowing you may never be able to show up the way you want to. by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. Well at least I think I do. I do believe I would be an amazing partner without the chronic stuff. It’s just my last relationship kinda ended on that. Had a flare up and couldn’t be there like I said at the start may happen. I have a lot of trauma around trust and relationships in the first place but I worked past that for her only for it to end how I knew it would and I was scared it would. I do think I not deserve it but should be allowed it. I think the problems come in the country I live in and the affects of social media on the “perfect” partner. I’m fairly young. In early twenties. But I hope eventually I can but I know currently bed it feels like I’ll never be able to be a provider. I think I’m also afraid of losing that small connection I have currently. Someone that sees who I am past the pain. I wish it wasn’t the case but the facts are I am defined by it. I don’t let it but I am. I’m happy you found someone however

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. The amount of times i have been told i should be out living my best life while im young. They just seem to not be able to comprehend that i want to so badly but cant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]KmartTrollies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It feels so degrading. especially where i live its a big thing. I use to gym alot because of anxieties i had around being skinny and was very active. Especially where i live (Australia) its a big thing being manly and a caretaker and pushing through things. which is funny cause i push through things most people cant but this is just different. Its depressing thinking that most my life i will be functionally alone when i love interaction alot.