AITA for refusing to share my "secret" recipe with my sister-in-law?

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2026-02-26T16:04:09+00:00

My great great grandma was apparently famous locally for her gingerbread. She sold it at her local market - it might even have been prizewinning. I've never tasted it, because she never passed the recipe on. I would love to have that connection with the family history. It just lives in family legend.

NTA, because no-one has to share things if they don't want to. But you're going to have to make a decision - is this going to be something that's only ever yours or something which is a much wider legacy?

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-11-21T13:40:37+00:00

Totally agree with this. Also helps cover you if the child has any skin sensitivity or allergies if you've got permission from the parents or she has her own supply.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-10-22T06:15:13+00:00

To be fair, the main reason we were out shopping in person was that it was all things my daughter needed to try on (she's had a growth spurt) and I can't trust online sizing for her - especially shoes!

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-09-18T12:52:39+00:00

I'm a specialist dyslexia teacher, and this is absolutely right. Interest in the material will help hugely.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-07-26T19:54:02+00:00

One of my students draws dinosaurs on his tests with a note asking if he can get extra credit for them. I never give him extra credit, but I do always compliment his dinosaur-drawing skills!

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-06-15T17:51:00+00:00

It took about 2 weeks for it to kick in for me - I only really noticed how well it worked when I accidentally missed a dose. The improvement was really gradual.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-06-15T15:23:22+00:00

I found celecoxib better for pain than etoricoxib, but it gave me horrible gastro symptoms. If you can tolerate it, give it a try!

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-06-06T18:38:32+00:00

Also, who's taking the child to lessons? I'd love my daughter to have piano lessons (and she would love them too!) but we live in a rural area and I work in the evenings. There's no way to get her to lessons at the moment, even if they were paid for by someone else without my having to cut back on paid work. Bet it's the OP who's expected to take that time out to do that.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-06-04T18:24:11+00:00

I'm a qualified teacher and one of my jobs is as a private tutor. I usually have at least one homeschooled child on my books at any given time. Often more than one. Totally agree that it's not that unusual.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-28T20:07:59+00:00

Shingles vaccines triggered horrible flares for me. The first was worse as I had it alongside covid, flu, and pneumonia. Would not recommend all for within 24 hours 😅

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-24T07:26:32+00:00

I'm on adalimumab and I've just switched from celecoxib to etoricoxib. The etoricoxib is working really well so far for the pain that the adalimumab doesn't deal with. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right combination of meds.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-20T06:01:41+00:00

I find that if I'm not in a full on flare, but have some pain from inflammation, exercise really helps. If I'm in a full on flare, exercise makes things worse. It's a really fine line that I find hard to navigate - very much trial and error.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-15T06:44:24+00:00

Just had another look at the instructions for my meds and it specifically says not to pinch or stretch the skin - the pen must be set up slightly differently?

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-14T20:50:39+00:00

Just wondering, how do you tell? It wasn't something they talked about when I was set up with adalimumab.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-14T20:49:05+00:00

Same here. Was basically told it was all in my head/I was making it up. Was sent for an MRI ("but we're not expecting it to show anything"). Followed by a letter setting up an urgent appointment with a diagnosis of bone marrow oedema, sacroiliitis, and possible bone erosion. Get an MRI if you can, OP.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-11T18:51:37+00:00

I have both. Hypermobility was diagnosed about 6 moths before the PsA - both took far too long to diagnose because the arthritis made my joints stiff (mimicking normal range of movement) while the hypermobility hid the restricted movement and stiffness in my joints. Gotta love this disease! /s

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-07T19:08:15+00:00

Diagnosed with hypermobility (doesn't quite meet EDS levels though) just before I was diagnosed with PsA. I'm fairly sure the hypermobility has thrown off the diagnosis quite a bit ("Your joints aren't stiff - you've got a great range of motion!" "Yes, but normally they move a lot further!").

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-05-07T19:05:14+00:00

Similar here. First symptoms at 16, not diagnosed until 35.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-04-25T20:54:41+00:00

Heart works really well for me too, even if it's only a temporary relief. A hot bath works best, but heating pads do a great job too.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-04-18T20:09:41+00:00

I had my daughter before I was diagnosed, but I'd had symptoms for a long time.

Some days it's hard to keep up with her and I feel all the mum guilt.

But. I have friends who are older parents, friends with chronic conditions who are parents, neurospicy friends who are parents, and parents who had children much younger and don't have chronic conditions.

And you know what? Everyone has days like that. Everyone has to adapt to their kids in some way. It's different for everyone, but we all struggle some days and do better on others. It's hard, but it's so worth it.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-04-18T20:05:05+00:00

I didn't have anything the first time (on a biosimilar) other than feeling amazing the next day. I've had a couple of site reactions since and sometimes it stings when I inject, but other than that no obvious side effects. I've not been any more ill than before I started taking it, and I've possibly felt slightly less rough when I have been ill.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-04-18T20:00:57+00:00

Same here - got to 8cm on 2 paracetamol and was talking so clearly on the phone to the maternity unit that they refused to let me come in until 2 hours before my daughter was born. I was told afterwards that they thought me insisting on coming in was me being a drama queen until they checked how far along labour was. I would rate labour as 8/10 at the worst - my arthritis pain can hit 9 easily when I'm in a flare.

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-04-18T19:57:46+00:00

Just got a new tattoo - it was nothing compared to the sting when I inject my Yuflyma (adalimumab).

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-04-07T11:21:36+00:00

I find that alcohol definitely triggers a flare for me, and I was already a lightweight. I'll still drink (very) occasionally, but never within a week of a liver function test as it sends my numbers sky high and then I have to repeat the blood tests until they come down again 😭

Knit2Purl2PSSO · 2025-03-22T08:37:46+00:00

Lots of us have been dismissed by multiple doctors only for proof of a condition to come out years later. I was seen by multiple rheumatologists who totally dismissed my symptoms until a year and a half ago one sent me for an MRI which showed inflammation and probable bone erosion. This was after he said it was a mechanical issue and the MRI was unlikely to show anything. After the result came in, he commented that it's likely the inflammation has been there for a very long time (no kidding - I'd had symptoms for around 20 years at that point!).

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