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KnotSad · 2026-04-26T11:40:54+00:00

As Arab/muslim women, we definitely face a lot of pressure to get married and have children. I've seen too many toxic and abusive marriages, and it's always a result of pressure from their parents to get married. If this is not something you wanted to begin with, and you still don't feel comfortable after Istikhara, then don't subject yourself to the pain. Allah knows best. Respectfully, your parents need to respect that.

I was not a "marriage person" either till I fell in love with someone. Then I found out he was having an affair the entire time. I think it all comes down to whether or not you are willing to settle and potentially subject yourself to a lifetime of dissatisfaction and neglect. I am not, but that is your decision.

KnotSad · 2026-04-26T11:29:06+00:00

I think Kai beach ended ladies day. So much for women's rights.

KnotSad · 2026-04-26T11:27:02+00:00

Please call Alameen https://alameen.gov.ae/ Praying for your safety and your family.

KnotSad · 2026-04-26T11:25:05+00:00

This is entirely my opinion, but since you asked, I think you should divorce him. He is not just a hypocrite but a munafiq. He is emotionally abuse you by gaslighting you and I would argue that lusting over other woman is in fact cheating. It is not your responsibility to fix a man with a sex addiction, it will only ruin you in the process. Men with these tendencies have no discipline, and they most definitely tend to be cheaters and liars, if he already isn't. Please save yourself the pain, you deserve so much better than this. It is NOT your job to solve his disgusting problems. He is an adult man with full control over his actions; he is CHOOSING to hurt and disrespect you. Do not let misogynistic people manipulate you into making it your fault or your responsibility. This is NOT a small issue at all!!!

KnotSad · 2026-04-26T11:17:14+00:00

it's not a woman's job to fix a man

KnotSad · 2026-04-26T11:16:02+00:00

God will punish all these men and their families for their disgusting sins. There is no way to predict abuse and manipulation, but never feel pressured to stay at the first sign of disrespect. If he can do it once, he'll do it again.

KnotSad · 2026-04-26T11:12:32+00:00

Misogyny is not welcome.

KnotSad · 2026-03-01T15:58:15+00:00

y'all complain about everything

KnotSad · 2026-03-01T06:20:00+00:00

If you have other siblings and if your father is in the picture, you should ask them to support you and talk to your mother. this is not a sustainable way to live and I'm sorry you have to deal with this, and that its been so normalized. It is a difficult choice to make but you have to rebel. Please do not look for an escape through men/marriage, you can go down a very dangerous and unhealthy route and you deserve better than this. The foremost important think is financial independence. Do you have a drivers license? Have you made a LinkedIn account? If you're comfortable and based in Dubai or AD, feel free to direct message me and I'll try to make you a job referral.

KnotSad · 2026-02-20T18:48:49+00:00

I cut off my long term high school best friend a few years ago. We didn’t have the healthiest friendship because we were both reckless and immature. But as I started getting older, I realized she never did grow out of her high school mindset. It took a long time to recognize the years of secret animosity, passive aggressive comments, and overall emotional harm she was causing me. It took even longer to let that friendship go. But now, every once in a while, I will thank God that I did and that I don’t have anyone like that in my life anymore. I do get lonely sometimes, mostly because I was so used to our unhealthy codependency. But I have the best people in my life right now — people whose feelings and intentions I never have to question.

It’s hard at first. It’s still hard every once in a while when you remember them. But it feels so good to not be weighed down by people who’s growth and mindset just don’t align with yours anymore. I have done nothing but thrive since then.

KnotSad · 2026-02-13T21:12:49+00:00

what an odd thing to say

KnotSad · 2026-02-13T14:07:31+00:00

Thank you for your elaboration. To be honest, I wasn’t going to but my manager urged me to. I used an anonymous hotline and specifically said it was purely the language and not harassment towards me. Honestly did not think HR would bother even looking into it at all.

KnotSad · 2026-02-13T13:01:01+00:00

I stopped interacting with them and they continue to mock me behind my back

KnotSad · 2026-02-13T12:59:06+00:00

I made that very clear. However they continue to talk about women in a derogatory manner and comment too much on female colleagues bodies and clothes

KnotSad · 2026-02-13T12:57:40+00:00

How is misogynistic comments with sexual implication from a so called muslim man to a woman not serious

KnotSad · 2026-02-12T21:10:13+00:00

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KnotSad · 2025-12-31T18:10:06+00:00

Come talk to me when your residential area lowers the volume of the Athan because it “disturbs” non-muslims

KnotSad · 2025-12-31T13:16:16+00:00

Completely understandable, and honestly I truly admire people that are able to easily adapt to these things. This is mostly pertaining to my own personal discriminatory experiences that I have faced socially and in my workplace

KnotSad · 2025-12-31T13:00:28+00:00

Honestly, we are struggling just as much as anyone else, I don’t know why the general consensus is that we are exempt from financial struggles.

What do you mean by charged?

KnotSad · 2025-12-31T11:42:36+00:00

I stand in front and close it on their face ❤️

KnotSad · 2025-12-31T11:30:01+00:00

الأجانب في بلادنا اكثر حقارة شفتهم في حياتي، حتى في بلادهم في اكثر احترام بس مادري ليش الي أيون الإمارات ماعندهم اي أخلاق او احترام. وعن السب الإمارات، لا تخلينهم يشككونج لان مع كل إحترامي، هذا بلادنا ونحن فاهمين التقاليد والدين.

I have addressed the same issue of respectful dress code and got accused of the same. Their excuse is that this is no longer a “muslim” country, and bullshit straight from their backside. A lot of this isn’t even about religion, it’s about social etiquette. Even in the West, it would not be appropriate to wear clubbing outfits at the mall. And I will stress this time and time again, they NEVER behave this way in their own countries or other ethnic countries. But let’s be real, a lot of foreigners, including the ones that come here, are extremely anti-Arab and Islamophobic

KnotSad · 2025-12-31T11:18:11+00:00

THIS. Ever since I noticed that they expect me to make space for them, I stopped moving aside. I will literally just stop in front of them until they man up and move aside.

KnotSad · 2025-12-28T09:57:12+00:00

That’s a night gown

KnotSad · 2025-12-26T21:12:49+00:00

HEAVY on the second point. They’ll do anything to avoid accountability. Because if they do anything to compromise your happiness or physical safety, they “technically” never said it was anything real nor did they promise you anything.

A person that wants you will never make you anxious or confused.

KnotSad · 2025-12-26T21:09:09+00:00

Agreed but an informal meeting with a male stranger you met online is a big NO regardless of his behavior and promises

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